Do guys do chores?

[Frankey-eh]

...like washing dishes? Even when there are girls (moms, sisters, etc.) living in the same house?

I really hope so. Otherwise this world is advancing slower than I thought.

Oh, and also, for those answers with yes, are there any strings attached, and compromises/consequences involved?

Why do I ask? Because...

I'm trying to convince my parents that getting my younger brother (6th grade) to wash dishes is completely normal in 21st century. I mean, I've been washing dishes since 6th grade...

[hapacheese]

O_O

Of course. I've always had to fold my own laundry, help vacuum, clean the kitty litter, wash dishes, etc. My mom, despite being born in Japan, is a very strong, independent woman.

[PiccoloNamek]

I wash and fold my own clothes and clean my own room and do my own dishes. I do everyone else's dishes too, actually. And mow the lawn. Nobody else ever mows the lawn. They're all pigs. I'm the only one among them that appreciates and understands cleanliness.

[Jiant Flying Panda]

Yes I do. As a matter of fact I am right now. I'm packing up some stuff for the move.... Yeah.

But normally I wash the dishes, do my laundry, mow the lawn, clean my own room, wash all the towels after I do my laundry, and feed the dogs.... Wow, I thought I was lazy but now I realize I actually do stuff around here. Haha.

I also clean up the living room after me and my friends play video games.

[Jay]

I wash the dishes and do my own laundry. And sweep and vacuum and other et al when I'm asked to.

[Kaji]

I never had a sister to make do the chores in the house.

[Nachosamurai]

I've seen this so many times on this particular forum...

Why is it that people always ask a stereotypical question to a particular subgroup of humanity?

What the fuck? Seriously?

Yes and no. Everyone has a different answer. Some people have an equal view of the sexes, others don't. Why ask a question when you *know* the answer, because it is so ambiguous or so open that you know you'll get both spectrums as an answer?

[Frankey-eh]

Why ask a question when you *know* the answer, because it is so ambiguous or so open that you know you'll get both spectrums as an answer?

Because I was looking for examples. That's why I asked for, more than just an yes/no answer, the situation behind it. The only example I can think of is my cousin, and he was just holding the washing cloth like a ball and rubbing it around the inside. No soap, no rubbing, nothing.

And there was another guy (a classmate), and he was doing the same thing. Just holding the cloth like a clump and rubbing it pointlessly.

So, at the same time I disagree with my mother, I have no examples.

[Soonerfan09]

I used to have to do dishes and laundry and all that stuff when I was younger, but I really haven't had to do any "chores" in 2 or 3 years.

[ellie]

I'm a girl, and my parents would never ever dream of asking me or one of my sisters to mow the lawn or something of that sort. I guess that's on the same lines as asking a guy to do the dishes. Actually, I never really did the dishes too often, either. My dad mostly took care of all the chores type things. He was the housewife, pretty much, while my mom worked. My dad is one of my mom's secretaries, so he would go into work at around 8 and then come home early afternoon. Throught high school, I got a $20 a week allowance, and I never had any real chores, except making sure there was at least a path through the crap in my room to my bed so my mom could check on me during the night if she wanted to (she's really paranoid and whenever she wakes up in the night likes to check on whichever kids are home. I guess to make sure we weren't kidnapped?)

[Jay]

I guess that's on the same lines as asking a guy to do the dishes.

Tell that to MY mother...

[Tssss..]

lmfao....my boyfriend does my laundry all the time. and my brother takes out the trash and feeds and bathes the dog....

so yeah...the guys in MY life do chores.

[Ahimsa]

I live alone... I do all the chores :(


WANTED: Someone to help Ahimsa around the house and walk dogs. Inquire within.


LOL

[Psychochink]

My fiancee and I have a deal - I cook, she washes. Mostly because she's a lazy cook who won't cook anything that takes longer than 5 minutes and I don't so much hate doing dishes, as my brain seems to find anything else that I'd rather be doing.

[Jay]

I live alone... I do all the chores :(


WANTED: Someone to help Ahimsa around the house and walk dogs. Inquire within.


LOL

*Writes up application*

[Shamu]

I have a three year old, I'm always doing chores...Anyone care to help me? I've got dogs to walk too! :(

[Jay]

*Writes up another application*

[ChronoSphere]

I do everything on my own. Then again I live on my own.













Hmm.









Time to find me a proper wench.

[Kustom]

I try my best to do as many chores as possible, to pay back for all the things my mum did for us when I was little... My family wasn't conservative in any way but my father was often working late so my mum would be stuck with the chores very often, and she never asked her kids to do anything (except vacuuming our own rooms).

Now I have an unspoken agreement with gf: when I cook, she washes the dishes, and vice-versa. I do the laundry for both of us and some cleaning. But I'll let you in a little secret: most guys, me included, don't have the same standards for cleanliness as girls (I know there are exceptions)... So when I clean, usually my girlfriend feels obligated to clean again behind my back because she's unhappy with my cleaning... I don't know what I do wrong, I try my best but I guess her being Japanese doesn't help (they're obsessed with cleanliness!).

[Marblehead]

I clean, I wash, I study, I work, (I'm a vet) and I make a mean shrimp curry!! :D

[Sardaukar]

Not if I can avoid it.

[Benaire]

ya i do everything too........ parents tend to get lonely and want to do drive over to do the dishes and mow my lawn too..... so far i managed to stop them from doing any of my house work....... except i let dad mow my lawn acouple of times =p i hated mowing.

shrug there going to get someone to pave it for me now anyway as my christmas prez.

[Praetorian]

I guess that's on the same lines as asking a guy to do the dishes. Actually, I never really did the dishes too often, either.


...In the Netherlands, doing the dishes is not a girly thing to do. But this is a country with perfect sex equality so I guess it's different wherever you live.



That said though, if I had a sister I'd make her do all the chores. There can be only one 'superior' sibling. If there are two, they end up killing each other or start different armies to fight each other or something. Numerous textbook examples available.

[Collapse]

...like washing dishes? Even when there are girls (moms, sisters, etc.) living in the same house?

I really hope so. Otherwise this world is advancing slower than I thought.

Oh, and also, for those answers with yes, are there any strings attached, and compromises/consequences involved?

Why do I ask? Because...

I'm trying to convince my parents that getting my younger brother (6th grade) to wash dishes is completely normal in 21st century. I mean, I've been washing dishes since 6th grade...


I cook, I clean, I vacuum, I do laundry and contribute money to my parents. Am I an awkward person?

[PopCulturePooka]

...In the Netherlands, doing the dishes is not a girly thing to do. But this is a country with perfect sex equality so I guess it's different wherever you live.



That said though, if I had a sister I'd make her do all the chores. There can be only one 'superior' sibling. If there are two, they end up killing each other or start different armies to fight each other or something. Numerous textbook examples available.
Actually, the chore do'er would end up superior, as they have the power to do things like taint food sources and refuse to work, or only do work for themselves, thus causing havok for the other person.

[Praetorian]

That's like saying the plebs are actually in charge of the country because they're the ones that keep the factories running.


And it's my job to keep them from starting a mutiny and poisening me.

[PopCulturePooka]

That's like saying the plebs are actually in charge of the country because they're the ones that keep the factories running.


And it's my job to keep them from starting a mutiny and poisening me.
Yeah...

Good luck with that. Workers always hold the power over those that believe themselves (wrongly) to be superior.

[Praetorian]

So far plebian revolts have been extremely rare. And when they did happen, they lost.


Do you know what Holy Roman Empire aristocracy called a peasant revolt?

Field fertaliser.

[Kaji]

Trick is that they all have to revolt at once. To quote Franklin, "[they] must all hang together, or surely [they] shall all hang separately."

[PopCulturePooka]

So far plebian revolts have been extremely rare. And when they did happen, they lost.


Do you know what Holy Roman Empire aristocracy called a peasant revolt?

Field fertaliser.
Funny you say that when imaging your avatar on Che.

True story. I held back on doing house chores with my room-mates one time when they got lazy and annoying. Only did dishes for myself, took out my trash only etc.

The precious dears begged me to do work for them and eventually had to bribe me.

[Praetorian]

Funny you say that when imaging your avatar on Che.



Che was remembered as 'Che the Revolutionary', not 'Che the Pinko Socialist'. It does not describe my political views.

[PopCulturePooka]

Che was remembered as 'Che the Revolutionary', not 'Che the Pinko Socialist'. It does not describe my political views.
Che was a Stalinist Fuck.

[DarkFire168]

I cook and clean around the house because I want to help out. I usually get some spending cash when I need it because I do help, but I'd still do it if I didn't. Though my sister and I did split the chores, for instance, if I put away the clean dishes and set the table she had to wash the dirty dishes and clear the table. Seems fair. So what if your younger brother doesn't do the dishes? Can't you just be nice to him? I mean, really it's not that much to ask.

[Roxie]

I mean, really it's not that much to ask for a 11 yr. old to do the dishes
fixed it for you.

[raydude]

...like washing dishes? Even when there are girls (moms, sisters, etc.) living in the same house?

I really hope so. Otherwise this world is advancing slower than I thought.

Oh, and also, for those answers with yes, are there any strings attached, and compromises/consequences involved?


Yup, I do chores in my house. My mom and dad would make my brothers and I do chores to help out. It was their way of instilling in us the capability to live on our own. I'm glad they did too, otherwise I'd have been one of those clueless people in college who didn't know who to wash or iron their own clothes.

However, it did take a heart-to-heart by my wife to get me to do the chores "as needed" as opposed to "when the mess starts piling up". And her argument makes sense too. She makes just as much money as I do and her work is just as important as mine. So she's just as entitled to a period of relaxation after work as I am. So, by sharing the chores we both get to relax sooner.

[Kustom]

However, it did take a heart-to-heart by my wife to get me to do the chores "as needed" as opposed to "when the mess starts piling up". And her argument makes sense too.

I think this is the basic man/woman dilemma. NO, I don't think it makes sense though... If there's no mess in the first place why not relax for ten minutes on the couch before starting the chores? I hate the "do it NOW!" mentality... Fortunately my girlfriend is lazy as well, I can't get along with someone who would force me to do the dishes right after eating as opposed to 30 minutes later

[raydude]

I think this is the basic man/woman dilemma. NO, I don't think it makes sense though... If there's no mess in the first place why not relax for ten minutes on the couch before starting the chores? I hate the "do it NOW!" mentality... Fortunately my girlfriend is lazy as well, I can't get along with someone who would force me to do the dishes right after eating as opposed to 30 minutes later

All things are relative. Our concept of "as needed" is "same day service", not "do it NOW". Therefore 10 minutes of relaxing is not unheard of in our house. So, my old concept of "when the mess starts piling up" meant "a few days later." Clearly this is not the same as your interpretation of "30 minutes later", and a reason why we had a discussion on it.

[echomancer]

I didn't do much chore work when I was younger. I only fed the dogs and cats, but really wasn't ask to do much as I was the youngest. Now, I feed and clean up after the animals (1 dog, 2 cats, 2 hamsters), cook dinner, do dishes, always do laundry, do almost all of the finances, and clean up our bedroom. I make my wife clean the bathroom, only because she says I suck at it. So I guess I'm having to make up for being so lazy with chores when I was younger.

[Katiekoneko]

My parents are really old fashioned
by my two brothers always had to clean their own room
help with dishes or dinner and by a certain age -do their own laundry.

Everyone at my house helped.
Now Im the only one left.

[Monkey]

Nope, don't do chores. That's what the maid is for. So I guess a womans place is in the kitchen. Unless you had a male maid of course, but that would be odd...

[DarkFire168]

fixed it for you.

You get offended too easily.

[Roxie]

You get offended too easily.
HUH??? :confused:

I'm not offending, I'm joking...

[harper]

I mowed the lawn and walked the dog when I was growing up. We had a dishwasher so no one really had to wash the dishes, but I would rinse mine off when I was done. My mom did the vacuuming and both my mom and dad did the laundry.

As soon as I bought my own house, though, whatever chores that needed doing became mine. There really isn't that much to do though. A couple loads of laundry every few weeks, run the dishwasher every other week. Drag the vacuum out once in a while and mow the lawn when needed. There's also cleaning the gutters which kind of sucks since I have about 15 trees in my yard, but that's okay.

[Iseult]

So far plebian revolts have been extremely rare. And when they did happen, they lost.


Do you know what Holy Roman Empire aristocracy called a peasant revolt?

Field fertaliser.

Huh. So not only were they not holy, not Roman, and not an empire, but they couldn't spell either?

[ElectronicPhreak]

Yes. I've been doing my laundry since 5th grade (10th grade), cleaning my room, sweeping out the garage, carrying out the trash, feeding the dogs, doing so much more than my sister will ever do in her lifetime.

[DarkFire168]

HUH??? :confused:

I'm not offending, I'm joking...

I said offended, I was joking, *pokes you in the eye*, Darkslash is an idiot.

[Pfalzer]

When do us guys never do chores! But seriously chores are a good thing start out earlier in life then they dont become chores they become habits that help u live in a cleaner and healthier lifestyle. Sorry im probaly really late into the convo. But i dont see dishes as jus a girls chore nor mowing just a guys. Becuz when one or the othe ris absent someones got to do it? Besides i rather like doing the dishes. :cool:

[stillbornsinger]

Never did chorse growing up, well set the table, that was about all.

My mother was a housewife and did all the other houshold things, my dad was the breadwinner. I'd help my mom cooking sometimes if it was something I enjoyed making.

I did from time to time help one of my friends with household chores because he always had a whole lot and I needed to get him free so we could play.

I didn't really get an allowance but I had a nice car, everything paid for, a gas card, and I could bum money off my parents for food every once in a while. A lot of my friends were jealous of my situation. My Dad's take on it was your teen years are for having fun, and everyone should own a nice sports car at least once in their life, and what better time than highschool?

With all that being said, I think I turned out pretty well... The firt few months really on my own were a bit rough, I had to ask someone else in my barracks how to wash clothes, and had to learn the hard way a few other lessons like that but I don't think its really had any lasting effect.

I do all my own chores now, laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc. and then some, also when I went over to my Japanese girlfriend's house we'd take turns cooking/cleaning pretty much every time we decided to just stay in. I don't really see work like that as chores, I think of it as just something that has to be done. Sometimes there is even something theraputic and stress relieving about cleaning for me.

For my future children, I'll probably have a few minor chores for them to do, and will have an occasional project for them with a possible reward. I think something that my parents did that benifited me the most was get me involved with some community service. Being in the military has probably helped a lot too with my responsibility and work ethic.

[Praetorian]

Huh. So not only were they not holy, not Roman, and not an empire, but they couldn't spell either?



Thank you, Voltaire. However, no. I'm the one that couldn't spell it.

[Hitokage]

I know for my male roommate does ABSOLUTELY NOTHING around the aparment to help clean it. I finally started charging him for my cleaning services since he plans to do nothing. (And one of the cats is HIS... he barely feeds them and never does the litterbox!) I am not a neat person but I am a clean one... I sweep, mop, clean the bathroom, do dishes, straighten up, clean the litter box every day, feed the cats, take out the trash, cook...

And this is from a girl who despised chores while she was living at home ><

[Pfalzer]

I live with 3 other guys and usually im stuck with cleaning everything now if you think yours is gross lol you should see my predicament!

[Dead Sexy Vocab]

I vacuum the house and clean the mirrors in the house.

Yes, some males do chores. The majority also despises doing it.

[ElectronicPhreak]

I actually thank my parents for making me do chores, as they make living on your own so much easier.

[Frankey-eh]

^_^ Okay, you guys convinced me. I should be glad I have the opportunity to do chores...

Hmm, this just struck me: Could my mom be telling me specifically NOT to make my brother do the dishes because she doesn't trust me? (Honestly, I doubt his standards for cleanness myself...)

[MeneerDijk]

I live on my own, so i do everything, and i do it good. Cooking, cleaning, washing, fixing stuff. I don't have a yard so no garden stuff. When i lived at my parents i usually vacuumed or did the laundry. But i refused to do the yard. I always said: it's your yard, you maintain it.

Anyways, The workload around the house should be equally divided between man and woman, no excuses!

[Shamu]

Anyways, The workload around the house should be equally divided between man and woman, no excuses!
I think I love you Meneer...

Really, I wish my ex would have helped around the house more, but he was kinda traditional and was always working.
So the next guy I'm with is going to have to like to at least help out with household chores! :D

[Dead Sexy Vocab]

I think I love you Meneer...

Bless your heart.

[Jynx_lucky_j]

ok im going to go against the grain and say that i dont ussally do any chores, I have my wife do all the house work. Now before i'm labled a sexist pig... :p I'm the only one in my family that that works. So if she didn't do the chores she would be doing nothing but playing video games all day. I dont belive it to much to ask for her to use an hour or two of that time to do some house work.

If she was the sole income, then i would be happy to do the house work myself. If we both worked then we would split the chores and alternate. I just think that its perfectly resonible to expect that someone who does not work outside the home should take care of the chores, regardless of wether they are a man or a woman.

[akitaka]

I literally know how to fold a shirt in under 2 seconds. Thank you JP housewife on television.

[stillbornsinger]

I think I love you Meneer...

Really, I wish my ex would have helped around the house more, but he was kinda traditional and was always working.
So the next guy I'm with is going to have to like to at least help out with household chores! :D

Were you working a job at the time?

I think perhaps I have a more traditional view so far as household chores are concerned. But if my future wife were a stay at home wife, then I would expect for her to do the majority of the chores, and I would be the one working and doing projects around the house as they needed to be done.

If my wife was working a day job as well, then I'd take an equal share of the at home chores.

I do believe though that when children are brought into the equation, one parent needs to be at home during the times that the child is not at school, so one parent can work a part time job, but both shouldn't be working full time jobs (if possible)

I wouldn't really have a problem being that stay at home dad if my wife was better set up to bring in more money from her job. In that case I'd do all the chores and looking after the kids.

[Yoonafkenenen]

Yeah, I'm chorafied. I have to clean stuff, do dishes, etc. Do I think it's fair? Of course, I'm lending something to the household. I live there, so why not actually do something productive?

Oh yeah, and sometimes I have to seal the demons that pop through the space-time portal in the garage, but that's only thursdays.

[Annoying MSN Person]

Last night, one of my brothers, whilst surveying the 5 piles of junk in my room, lack of any clear floorspace, and the queen bed covered with bean bags, clothes, files and other crap, told me in all seriousness that the only way I could get by in life was by getting a boyfriend who would clean up after me.

So. Role of devoted and endearing cleaner open.*

*Must be able to get to New Zealand easily. Sorry dear.

[Shamu]

Snip.
I was running a business and taking care of our daughter full time, does that count?
And even if one person stays home and the other works full time, I think both people should do chores. It would be alittle more fair if the person that stayed home had alittle more responsibility in cleaning, but the person at home shouldn't have to be the maid, the cook, the groundskeeper, the dog-walker, ect.. all by themselves.
This is no offence to people with traditional values, but after being married to my ex, I really don't want a traditional guy. It drove me nuts!
There is something to say about one parent staying at home with young children though, child care is insanely expensive!

[stillbornsinger]

Yep, that counts...

For me it wouldn't be an issue so much with the expense of child care but more that I'd like to have a better control over the environment that my child is raised in.

[Jynx_lucky_j]

I was running a business and taking care of our daughter full time, does that count?
And even if one person stays home and the other works full time, I think both people should do chores. It would be alittle more fair if the person that stayed home had alittle more responsibility in cleaning, but the person at home shouldn't have to be the maid, the cook, the groundskeeper, the dog-walker, ect.. all by themselves.
There are two differant issues here though. If you are working at home that is a differant issue that is a completely differant issue than if you have no other responsibilites. Personally I don't have a very big house, in the worst condition it had ever been in it took me 2 1/2 hour to finnish. That includes Cleaning the house, doing dishes, doing the laundry, feeding the animals, everything. If you maintain it daily then it won't take more than 30 min - 1 hr. Compared to the other spouse working 8-12 hrs a day, its not too much to ask.

However if you are working as well, even if it was at home then that is a differant story. In that case you should split the chore in a manner agreeible to both of you.

As for children, it is both perents responibility to take care of the child. All the time. It doesnt matter if you have been working all day or what ever. Children are 24 hr job, and by having one (or more) you have both exepted that responsibility.

[Frankey-eh]

As for children, it is both perents responibility to take care of the child. All the time. It doesnt matter if you have been working all day or what ever. Children are 24 hr job, and by having one (or more) you have both exepted that responsibility.
Speaking of that...

My parents believe that children should take over ALL the chores around the house as soon as they're old enough to do them. They say parents suffered so much bringing us to the world so that we can ease their workload. What love, eh?

They also say that when I grow up, I need to give them back money to compensate how much they spent on raising me. I can understand the concept of giving money back--it's filial piety. But their reason for it shocks me. I didn't know I was in debt...>.>

So, what do you think? If you are already a parent, do you have similar expectations on your kids?

===

On a different note... We just so happen to be talking about the same topic in Lit, and some people said that their parents would rather have their child spend more time doing schoolwork and get A's than to use that time on chores. I've always been told that schoolwork is the same as personal interest, so housework should be the priority in my life. I'd like to hear some opinion on that... And whether anyone else has similar situations as people in my class.

[Nekesu]

my chores are...walking dogs, washing the cars, cleaning up after dogs, cleaning room / bathroom. Though I slack off to the point where you can't even walk through my room unless you use the path i set up, lol

[yogi]

They also say that when I grow up, I need to give them back money to compensate how much they spent on raising me. I can understand the concept of giving money back--it's filial piety. But their reason for it shocks me. I didn't know I was in debt...>.>


Tell them to get f*cked. It was there dicision to have you.. not yours.

[deepbluevibes]

my dad forced me to do all the chores every day twice a day for months.

eventually now it's a habit.

i do the dishes, take out the dishes when they're done and set them up, hand clean stuff that can't go in the dishwasher, do the laundry, then fold it, feed the cats, sweep up around the house if need be, take out the garbage, all of that crap two or so times a day

[Roxie]

So, what do you think?
I think.....................................you're Asian?

[MeneerDijk]

They also say that when I grow up, I need to give them back money to compensate how much they spent on raising me. I can understand the concept of giving money back--it's filial piety. But their reason for it shocks me. I didn't know I was in debt...>.>



Stuff like this just ticks me off, you are their kid, not their worker. when you have kids it's your turn to pay. You don't owe your parents money, only respect, but eben that has to be earned!

[Dana]

I think my parents did pretty good job with giving us responsibility but not making us slaves. I have two sisters, no brothers, and we are all very close in age. When we got to about 5th or 6th grade we started having regular chores to do. My older sister did the laundry, I did the vacuuming and my younger sister cleaned the bathrooms. All three of us helped to fold the laundry when it was done and put it away. My dad always did the cooking pretty much every night and did all the grocery shopping and my mom pretty much took care of all the dish-washing and other various things like looking after the pets and keeping clutter out of the main rooms.

Every so often my mom would split the house up between us and we would have to dust and clean those particular areas. She usually made it a game and whoever got done fastest (but correctly) got to pick the restaurant we went to that weekend or the movie we went to see. My dad pretty much always did outside work, he loves gardening and stuff like that. But I sometimes mowed the lawn or cleaned the gutters. The whole family helped in fall for raking leaves and in winter shoveling the drive way. My dad was also in charge of the trash (we didn't have trash pick up) and I helped him with that alot because he would usually take me to the store to get a candy bar afterwards.

I have no real idea what it is like to have a stay at home parent because my whole life both parents worked. I think I turned out well and I think that people saying the decline of family values today is because moms don't stay at home anymore is crap. I think the decline in values is the result of a combination of things, included among those things are parents who should not have children. I noticed a lot of my friends' parents were pretty selfish in how they raised their children, not spending enough time with them or merely buying them things to make them "happy."

Basically I think NOT giving your kids chores to do is worse than making them do some things. Chores teach responsibilty and work ethic, not to mention team work hehe

[keitaidensha]

woman gets hit by a truck. who's at fault?

the woman. what the hell is she doing outside the kitchen?

woman gets hit by a truck. who's at fault?

the truck. what the hell is a truck doing in the kitchen?

why don't women need to wear watches?

there are clocks on the microwave, the oven and the coffee machine.

how many feminists does it take to change a lightbulb?

feminists can't change anything.

what do you tell a woman with two black eyes?

nothing, you've already told her twice.