Who has been/is getting/would-have-been married? [Archive]

chgu

09-19-2005, 04:20 AM

I'm curious now that we have a 16 year old kid talking about getting married. Who here is married, has been married, is getting married, or would have been married?

I fall into the last category. It's a long freaking story that I'll only tell if anyone is interested.

Anubis Nine

09-19-2005, 04:57 AM

I would have said *neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!* to this some time ago, but the more time I spend with my significant other, the more time I spend matching our names up and thinking of adoption. So I would get married.

But be damned if I'm passing on my genetics.

Lateli

09-19-2005, 05:00 AM

I never been married/engaged. I've had guys plan to marry me, some without me knowing O_o

4letterwords

09-19-2005, 05:15 AM

I've been "proposed to" 3 times.

Only considered one.

Yay?

Katiekoneko

09-19-2005, 05:16 AM

I have never been married or engaged or anything.
My boyfriend and I wanted to get married..but I am still in school and he's in the military long distance..so..
Who knows!
We've been together for four years..and some ppl say "GOD! you arent married yet?" and others say "why does it matter if you wait another 3 years or not"

chgu

09-19-2005, 05:27 AM

I've been "proposed to" 3 times.

Only considered one.

Yay?

Nice record. X3

I have never been married or engaged or anything.
My boyfriend and I wanted to get married..but I am still in school and he's in the military long distance..so..
Who knows!
We've been together for four years..and some ppl say "GOD! you arent married yet?" and others say "why does it matter if you wait another 3 years or not"
I'd have to agree with the latter statement. I'm a fan of common law marriages and long relationships. :D

Katiekoneko

09-19-2005, 05:30 AM

I just want a pretty pretty ring and to have a big party
Im not big on "marriage"
I dont think a peice of paper will change how I feel about my bf.

But a big party would be nice.
hee

chgu

09-19-2005, 05:33 AM

You sound like my older sister. I was mostly going to get married for teh ex's beliefs and the like, but I would have been fine just living together. It was/still is an interesting situation. >.>

Nessa

09-19-2005, 05:38 AM

I want to get married someday. My boyfriend thinks they're too much of a hassle though.

kensei

09-19-2005, 06:21 AM

My girl and I are several months into a long engagement. We've both agreed not to get married until at least our second year of college *nods*

Kaji

09-19-2005, 06:24 AM

Ditto, except that my girl's currently in her second year and I'm a grad student. Waiting for her to get her B.S. so that it doesn't utterly derail her education...

whispering

09-19-2005, 07:28 AM

I've been "proposed to" 3 times.

Only considered one.

Yay?
Wow, how old are you? What ive understood people in US get married much younger? I'm 23, most of my friends would consider a proposal more like an insult or something :rolleyes:

Jiant Flying Panda

09-19-2005, 07:38 AM

I've been "proposed to" 3 times.

Only considered one.

Yay?

Ooops. So sorry about that Kat.

I wont do it again, I promise.

Samwise

09-19-2005, 09:50 AM

I was married to a toaster one month in '69.

Oh man, what a crazy year!

ChronoSphere

09-19-2005, 10:12 AM

Well, dated one girl for 3.5 years after being very close for the previous 4... felt like I was married, and almost did when we thought we had a suprise :P

But nope, dodged that bullet.

Kass

09-19-2005, 11:10 AM

Been there, done that, bought the divorce.

Will I get married again? More than likely not unless for some reason it becomes necessary for legal inheritance/retirement reasons. Otherwise, what we have right now is more committed than 90% of the marriages with which I am familiar.

Daishikaze

09-19-2005, 11:16 AM

Been married for 8 years now, and still very happy.

Spaatz965

09-19-2005, 11:31 AM

6 year anniversary is coming up next month....was about to turn 31 when we married...and we'd been seeing each other long distance for about a year. She was living in Florida, I was in New York...and we met at a live meet and greet for an AOL community in Chicago. Up until then, we were barely online acquaintences (we recognized having seen each other's screen names).

Been pretty good...usual relationship ups and downs. Was one of the better decisions I've done in my life :)

kiev33

09-19-2005, 07:43 PM

I've been married, and it will take a very special woman to get me to do it again.

chgu

09-19-2005, 08:04 PM

I've been married, and it will take a very special woman to get me to do it again.
Almost the same here. Although, considering the reasons why we called everything off, if a few things happened, I'd marry her still. But that's probably not going to happen. You know, since I enjoy being emotionally tortured by being her friend. =/

Shamu

09-19-2005, 08:29 PM

Been there, done that, and will probably do it agian, just for the hell of it! Vegas baby!
Been proposed to at least 5 times (that were serious), but I only accepted one.
I highly recomend that everybody NOT have the big wedding! It's expensive, you only wear the dress once and you'll still get gifts no matter what. Just remember that you have to split up said gifts if you divorce (fun times! Also remember that the blender Aunt Mary gave you is not worth paying your attourney's extra fees, just so they can put in the divorce decree who gets the blender! Figure out what you want before you get divorced).
Also, remember that if you have kids and get divorced, it makes things ten times worse, because when you have kids (unless one person doesn't care about the kids) you will be stuck with that person FOREVER!
Anyway, even though my experience was bad and almost everyone in my family is/has been divorced, I still recomend it if you truely love the person you're with and that's how you want to express that love. Just remember to keep your finances seperate ;)

General_Admission

09-19-2005, 08:52 PM

I want to get married eventually, but not until I am old and need to settle down. Until then I will free lance and soak up all the cute and pretty girls I can! I hope by the time I am old I will have enough experience and judgement to choose a wife I will be happy with until I die. When I do get married I want to have a little girl because girls tend to be around x20 easier to bring up than boys. This is assuming that in the next 10-15 years selecting your childs gender will be an option. Man...10-15 years...that's right around the corner. It's hard to imagine that's where I will be so soon.

history1me

09-19-2005, 08:52 PM

I have been in near marriage relationship 3 times. Of those, I proposed to two while the third one, it was given that we were to be together.

Funny how things change. Needless to say, I'm glad that I never got married. Now, I wont consider marriage till 35. But that rant I have done before, it will take a g-dam special girl to get my knickers all bunched up.

LJustus

09-19-2005, 09:05 PM

I was married. I thought that she was the one. I was wrong. Now, it will take the perfect woman for me to marry again. (I say that now. . .)

I refuse to have regrets though. If anything in my life was different, my son would never have been, and I find that is sufficient reason for never regretting my past.

history1me

09-19-2005, 09:36 PM

Well Stated~!

Balain

09-19-2005, 09:37 PM

Arrr the Cap'n has yet to take a bride. It be looking a long way off fer now. None in site from the crow's nest using the spyglass. There be one time the Cap'n almost took a wench to his marriage bed but that was long ago.

Kass

09-19-2005, 10:06 PM

I don't regret my relationship with my ex for the most part. I got the best part of it, my kid. I regret not leaving my ex earlier.

I'm not sour on relationships or commitment. I'm with the man I'll be with for the rest of my life. I just fail to see any benefit to marriage that I can't get a cheaper and easier way with a document.

Aria

09-20-2005, 07:57 AM

Hmm...I would love to get married someday. But the kinds of jobs that my current major leads to are the kinds that require a lot of dedication. I don't want to be married and to disappoint my spouse by coming home late every night because I'm in the lab all day working on stem cells or whatever. Y'know? Also, I'd only marry if at the time of engagement I was already financially independent and comfortable and my guy better be the same as well. I'd like to have to money to buy a home before I tie the knot, instead of getting married and then having to live in my parent's attic for 3 years until we could make a downpayment on a house...I'm kinda material, I know.

And kids wasn't a question, but I'mma talk about it anyways. :-P I'd have to say no kids for me until I'm 30ish. I want to have established my career before I start a family. That way I can take the time off to raise the kid and still have people want to hire me afterwards. I'd hate to have to ship my kid off to daycare everyday from 8 to 5 just because I needed to continue building my career. (and i'm building that career, dammit. I paid for the schooling and i'mma get a good paying job out of it.)

I'm bad at forums. :-P

ellie

09-20-2005, 06:52 PM

My last boyfriend--the evil Matt--said he wanted to marry me once I was done with college, and I believed him that he loved me. . .yeah, that was so not true. After we broke up, I was pretty much thinking that I would never get married, much less fall in love! But I'm now dating an amazing guy named Jay. We haven't been dating very long, so I'm not thinking about marrying him or anything, but at least I've found out that I CAN be happy with a guy again, which I wasn't sure would happen after Matt.

So yeah. I think I will get married someday, have kids, live in a nice house and have a cute little dog and maybe a maid twice a week. I'm not planning on getting married anytime soon. I definitely want to finish college first, and then ideally would have at least a little while to myself before getting married.

Praetorian

09-20-2005, 07:57 PM

Been proposed to at least 5 times (that were serious), but I only excepted one.

You mean you only 'accepted' one or did you consider all of them, except one?

Never heard the phrase 'excepted one' before so kind of curious. Not a spelling bash at all.

Shamu

09-20-2005, 09:01 PM

You mean you only 'accepted' one or did you consider all of them, except one?

Never heard the phrase 'excepted one' before so kind of curious. Not a spelling bash at all.
LOL! Yeah, that's what I meant! You would think that having a college education and all, I'd be able to use the right words, but no, I'm still spelling/grammer impaired.

echomancer

09-22-2005, 04:59 PM

I've been happily married for over 20 months now. It's my first and last marriage that I will ever have.

ChronoSphere

09-22-2005, 06:17 PM

But I'm now dating an amazing guy named Jay.

This isn't who I hope it isn't?

Tssss..

09-22-2005, 08:45 PM

I'M GETTING MARRIED OCTOBER 12!!!!!!!!!!

i'm soooooooooooo excited. :D

and nervous. and i keep thinking i need to tan......

Jay

09-22-2005, 08:52 PM

This isn't who I hope it isn't?

No, it's not me mate. :p

Although...

Psychochink

09-22-2005, 11:11 PM

Got married at 18 when I was young and dumb, got divorced, am quite happy to do it again. It's all a learning experience - my first time round has taught me all the things NOT to do, and get my priorities in order...