It really exists

[MajorProblem]

Love at first sight exists, my friends. I just had the best weekend ever. Alright, so in JROTC I'm the Company Executive Officer, so I'm in command of most of the company. I gave the company first sergeant a ride home after we did ticket duty at the football game. I started talking to her, she started talking to me, blah blah. Except we seemed to really connect a lot. Now, normally after football games, the battalion goes to Cici's for pizza, but they weren't there this time. So we just went to get some hot wings together. There, we connected even more, it was all non-stop talking. She then realized that her mother gave her the wrong key, so I had to wait with her till 12:30 AM (I think she actually just said that to get me to wait with her). So then we really started realizing we were perfect for each other. So, after 2 hours of really knowing who she is, we make out. Saturday was awkward since the JROTC car wash was then, and I was 2nd in command, ahead of her, and we had to act like we barely knew each other (even then at least one guy figured out we were going out). So we spent the resof the day together. Then today I woke up, we went to the movies, came back to my place, and it really heated up. Eventually, about 5 hours ago, we lost each others virginity to each other. Keep in mind that we had been together for less than 48 hours and she was in "Abstinence Club" at school. That's how much we are in love. We already had conversation's about marriage, and how we would each have sex only once or twice until until we're 18 to keep our relationship from getting boring and get married at 18 before we each head off to the military (I know it's early, but we are that much in love).

So, it may not be love at first sight, but it's pretty damn close. And I'm happy. EDIT: She's one month from 16 and I'm 16

[d0nk3y]

Sounds like me, except I got dumped 2 weeks before our prom so she could take another guy instead.

The worst thing you can do is plan for a future years away, because then you try to plan your life around that future, and anything that gets thrown in the way of it causes fights.

My 2c at least.

[yao_yao]

um...
I'm a touch cynical keep this in mind.

I'd really like to believe in the idea of love at first sight, but I dont. But you could prove me wrong. I hope you do. Good luck to you. Smack me if I'm being mean. Cuz I cant tell.

[Pierrot le Fou]

Okay, first of all, you're both 16. Remember that. Wear a condom. Use it PROPERLY (which isn't as easy as it sounds, considering the fact that practically nobody uses them correctly). Use a second form of birth control if possible (to make absolutely sure). DO NOT FUCK UP YOUR LIFE WITH AN UNWANTED PREGNANCY!

Furthermore, you are SIXTEEN. While it is possible that this is love at first sight, whatnot, the fact is that you are SIXTEEN and your hormones are raging, the word 'love' is tossed around all the time, and 99.999% of relationships will fall to shit within a year, with 99.9% of them falling apart within a month. So DON'T GET HER PREGNANT!

Furthermore, if you DO want to marry her, and both join the army, be VERY careful about the lifestyle that you'll be bringing her and each other into. Realize that you will be ostracized from activities with your male colleagues your age, she's going to be a woman in the military which comes with its own types of disadvantages, you could very well be spending long times apart from each other, and YOU'RE ONLY SIXTEEN!

Which, well, pretty-much means that you have a lot of changing and growing up to do, and planning out your life at 16 is something many kids do, and almost NONE of them follow through with it.

BE REALISTIC! YOU'RE SIXTEEN!

[Bob]

Heh.

You're so fucked

[Samwise]

Love at first sight exists, my friends. I just had the best weekend ever. Alright, so in JROTC

SQUADMATES DO NOT COUNT.


Don't ask don't tell, remember? Sheesh.


edit- Also, in before e/n "I got dumped guys :(" thread next week.

[Katiekoneko]

Wow.
Ya.. hun are you sure it wasnt lust at first sight?
It sounds real sweet and all..
I hope you guys use a condom and another kind of protection too.
You are soooo young.
I wouldnt plan marriage at such a young age either.. just have fun enjoy each other.
Ive been with my bf for 4 years and we didnt start talking about marriage til like year 3! and Im 22!!
I still think IM too YOUNG to get married yet.

"we are THAT much in love"
You barely know this person!!! People can lie..ppl can leave out info. ..yadda yadda.. Things change...And just cuz you feel the urge to sleep with someone doesnt mean its love. Sorry. I think you may..need a reality check.
Im sure you don't want to hear any of this.. but you just sound like a typical kid. Who doesnt seem to know alot about ...this sort of stuff. (not that we are experts..no one really is. )

God. I really dont know what to say..
Teens are so impulsive.. esp younger teens.


I want to reach through my computer screen and shake ppl.. To get some sense into them :( *sigh!!!!!*

[Samwise]

BUT THEY'RE IN LUV <3

obviously you do not understand, they are SOUL MATES! Just like every other 16 year old out there, which is why everyone ends up marrying their highschool sweetheart, and why it isn't a phenominon rare enough to warrant having it's own phrase named after it.

[Katiekoneko]

I dont think your schools 'abstinence club' is doinbg their job very well....

[Pierrot le Fou]

To finish my POINT-COUNTERPOINT:

Dammit, everyone, stop being so cynical. This guy is 16 years old. That's old enough to be tried as an adult, drive a car in some states, and receive fellatio legally from an 18 year-old. He's decided to share with us the most precious of gifts -- the wisdom that comes only with experience.

In his 16 years he has become a member of the JROTC -- no small feat -- and as his title states, he is the 'OP9's military know-it-all' which is certainly another impressive feat in his 16 years. And really, by the time a dog is 16 years old, is it not actually 112? We could all learn something from a 112 year-old. Like how to wear adult diapers. So don't discount his advice on a number.

He is wise beyond his years, can't you see that? The thousands of people who have met at 16 in what they believed was true love, got knocked up, and had the husband walk out on them -- THAT WASN'T TRUE LOVE! Because our resident expert on it did not say so. But you cynics can't realize that this guy is the real deal. He's not dickin' around. He is preaching to the jaded, because you couldn't realize how good you had it screwing 16 year olds.

Maybe when you grow to be my age, and crank one off dreaming of 16 year-olds you used to screw, you'll understand how wise and poignant this man is.

Show some respect.

[NERD]

I haven't dated anyone, so while I may not have the proper authority to say this (or the papers), give this thing at least a year or two. From my observation, high school relationships don't last long unless you are really devoted/convinced about it.
Stuff like going to college, not seeing each other for months, fooling around with someone else changes a lot.

Especially college, with all the partying and mishaps, shit happens... Anyway, since I'm more distanced about such matters, I usually say give it a year, five years, ten years and see if it still works. If you end up getting buried together, then I guess it was love at first sight after all.

[StormShadow]

Bro, relationships at age 16 truly do mean nothing. Before getting up in arms, let me tell you to calm down and remeber relationships at that age mean NOTHING. Your hormones are what make this the reason. You hit anything you can at that age. If it has breasts and a clean poon you would pound it. True love takes more than hours to develope. The reason for this is because you have no idea every little detail to who she is. Maybe she has to brush her teeth while listening to Yanni. Could you love somebody like that? Maybe she is mean to Army medics (like me) and you could never be with a girl like that. Maybe she hogs the blankets or snores or some small thing that will reduce your relationship. Maybe there is problems with your and her family or vice versa. Who knows? I know you guys don't. The way she acts now, and the way she acts when you live together is vastly differant. VASTLY!
Relationships prepare you for marriage. The more relationships yoiu are in that are semi-serious, that is just like training. You learn what to say, what not to say, how to deal with this, how to deal with that. By being with only her for this amount of time, what if (God forbid) you break up? Your screwed royally, like a soldier sent to war with only training in calisthetics.
You may think you are mature, (BTW JROTC is NOT the real deal, so I hope you don't act like it is, esp. at age 16. In college it's differant, but that's beside the point) but at 16 you really aren't. AS things progress you will not know how to react, and theat can be extremely stressful. At age 16, while in school, the last thing needed is some girl fucking up your shit just because she didn't like the way you cut garlic and decided to start an agrument, which carried over to school, resulting in you not being able to concentrate on Biology because ROTC is next period and you don't know how to deal with her. Don't shoot yourself in the foot. First sign of trouble cut the cord.
Lastly I will say this: Birth Control. If your ignore these posts and still crush the cat, wear rubber. Lubed and with spermicide. Get her some Birth Control. PLanned parenthood, get it for free. The last thing you need is a child. At the right age, a child is a blessed thing. At the wrong age a curse meant for those you hate. Something to think about.
If your love is truly real, then wait. Wait until you are at an age for a family, as that is the best time to marry. I don't mean don't date her, if you feel you must. Go to town. But if your goals get in the way of her goals, things are going to look like Faluja, and you don't want that. By 21 or 23, yuior goals will be mostly done. College will be almost over or all over. You will have your job at Boeing you wanted. Not too much time left in your enlistment, and if you decide to re-enlist cool. Bu the point is, bty that age, what you have wanted to do will have been done, and anything left do to will be easier for her to understand and let you do.
Be careful

[DarkFire168]

Ahem. YOU'RE BOTH 16!!! THAT ISN'T LOVE, IT'S YOUR RAMPANT HORMONES TELLING YOU TO POUND HER BRAINS OUT!!!!! 'LOVE' IS A PSYCHOLOGICAL AND SOCIAL SCAPEGOAT FOR A BIOLOGICAL NEED. THE ONLY 'LOVE' YOU HAVE FOR HER IS THE 'LOVE' ALL MEN OF OUR SPECIES HAVE FOR WOMEN: FOR THEIR REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS! ALL THAT'S GOING ON RIGHT NOW BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU IS A CHEMICAL REACTION IN YOUR BRAINS TELLING YOU IT'S MATING SEASON.

[Bob]

My advice is to hit it as much as you can before you break up. Try not to spend money on her

[Psychochink]

Ah, it's stuff like this which makes me remember my own youthful stupididy.

I took it one step further, though - I did get married (hey, after a couple of years, but yeah... :rolleyes: )

[CNagy]

I guess I'll be the less-jaded voice of optimism (goddamn this is an odd position to take.)

First off, congratulations. Whether you are sixteen or sixty, love is an incredible thing to experience. Love at first sight is tricky, though, and if you want to make it work you are going to have to make getting to know one another a priority over all of the much more enjoyable physical aspects that usually accompany a great love at your age. Since you are in love, you can afford to wait a bit, after all. This isn't about just screwing her, after all. I suck at this optimism thing, after all. Anyway.

Don't plan for the future. Life isn't always fair and if you look too far ahead to what might be, what you have might be lost. Live in the day, think no further than the next few weeks, at least at first. Use alot of contraceptive when you do finally have sex; you aren't ready to make this a three-person relationship.

[RDClip]

My advice is to hit it as much as you can before you break up. Try not to spend money on her
I agree :D

[DarkFire168]

>.< Love is a lie! A lie I say! I denounce it for all that I can muster forth in strength, vigor, and intensity! And I concur, hit that as much as possible before your inevitable break up and subsequent whiny posting! Biology and procreation DEMAND IT OF YOU!

[D-pad]

I agree :D
I agree as well! :D

[StormShadow]

I agree as well! :D

Damn skippy! :D

[Benaire]

I believe in love at first sight too I wish you the best. As for you being young.... well you are and that will make it just so much more difficult.

Good luck with it all I hope she doesnt tear out your still beating heart and piss on it.

P.S.
Don't do anything stupid, children are a huge responsibility and finacial burden. The children don't have a choice in coming in to the world. Make sure if/when you have them you can do right by them.

[RDClip]

Oh the glory of LOVE.

To me it's only the chemicals between us. Brain chemestry and instincts.

[Shadowblade]

I'm a cynic so i'm gonna say that there is no such thing as love at first sight, lust at first sight sure, but no love.

So i'm gonna say watch yourself, your only sixteen, don't go planning your life now, because things may sour between you and her, then you may be left with nothing but broken dreams and useless plans.

[JudoPorkChop]

One thing:

Did you just admit to making an advance on a subordinate? I know this is JROTC, so it's more of a costume party than being active duty, but that's violating the ethics of leadership and fraternization rules.

[Ev0]

I guess I'll be the less-jaded voice of optimism (goddamn this is an odd position to take.)

First off, congratulations. Whether you are sixteen or sixty, love is an incredible thing to experience. Love at first sight is tricky, though, and if you want to make it work you are going to have to make getting to know one another a priority over all of the much more enjoyable physical aspects that usually accompany a great love at your age. Since you are in love, you can afford to wait a bit, after all. This isn't about just screwing her, after all. I suck at this optimism thing, after all. Anyway.

Don't plan for the future. Life isn't always fair and if you look too far ahead to what might be, what you have might be lost. Live in the day, think no further than the next few weeks, at least at first. Use alot of contraceptive when you do finally have sex; you aren't ready to make this a three-person relationship. Good advice. I was in a similar position not too long ago, and I was about to post something like that. Congrats on finding love, but definitley give it plenty of time.

[Pete]

My advice is to hit it as much as you can before you break up. Try not to spend money on her

This man speaks the truth. And wear a rubber.

[Katiekoneko]

I dont really like the "hit it" advice..tsk. Boys.
But if you are going to. Learn a bit more about consequences.. always wear a condom. You don't want to get her preg. Also use other means of protection too.
And.. I know you said she was in the abstinence club. But ppl lie. What if she has the clap or something?! (most likely she doesnt) but she could have anything.. or you could have (from her point of view. If you had just met. you could have easily lied about being a virgin.) if you guys "just" new each other for 48hrs you could have both had the hiv even. I know, I know. You said you were both virgins. Ya okay.. But if you are gonna think with your lil wee all the time.
I hope if this relationship lasts -you get protection. More than one.And if you're in another case of "love at first sight" make sure you thnk about things first before sticking your stuff into hers.

I just am saying 48 hrs and sleeping together so quickly then being like "we'll get married some day" sha-na-na-Na! music is playing and all the lovey dovey stuff is kind of hard to swallow.
I say congrats on having a relationship (which is still new) But re-think you being "inlove" because Im sorry you arent. Im sure you both like eachother alot and like ppl said your hormones are like "I LOVE...to sleep with.. YOU!!
Have your first REAL FIGHT yet? Have to talked about what you would do if she were to get preg? Are you mature enough to handle anything? Cuz if you arent.....

Anyhoo-
BE CAREFUL first of all.
And I hope your relationship can last and actually grow until it actually is more than lust, infactuation and hormones.


And sorry if we are all being SUPER HARSH.

[Snake eyeS]

My advice is to hit it as much as you can before you break up. Try not to spend money on her

Im your biggest fan.

[zell583]

you guys are really going to go nuts but my girlfriend and I have been together since elementry. :D

[Katiekoneko]

Congrats
Im not saying all relationships dont last. Even ones formed when ppl are young.
But I think ppl were flipping out. cuz he only knew her 48hrs and was saying they are SO MUCH IN LOVE.
How old are you zell? If you dont mind me askin'!!

[Trump]

If you can fall in love in a day, I think the opposite can happen in a day. I'm tempted to say that people need their first love to not work out. It makes you a much better person in the long run. But I still wish you the best.

[Ev0]

If you can fall in love in a day, I think the opposite can happen in a day. I'm tempted to say that people need their first love to not work out. It makes you a much better person in the long run. But I still wish you the best. Agreed. We learn from our mistakes.

[history1me]

you guys are really going to go nuts but my girlfriend and I have been together since elementry. :D


Are you in Junior high now?

I'm not planning on getting married till i'm 35!

[DarkFire168]

What if she has the clap or something?! (most likely she doesnt) but she could have anything..


XD..... AND THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LOVE!

[zell583]

Congrats
Im not saying all relationships dont last. Even ones formed when ppl are young.
But I think ppl were flipping out. cuz he only knew her 48hrs and was saying they are SO MUCH IN LOVE.
How old are you zell? If you dont mind me askin'!!
I don't mind at all. I'm 21

[MajorProblem]

Hmm...geez, thanks guys for ruining the mood. Seriously, you are all really pessimistic. And no, it wasn't lust. Sex was the last thing on our minds, it just sorta happened before either of us could think (damn those tight jeans...DAMN THEM!), plus, we don't plan on having sex often. It may be hormones and crap, but I could care less.

[hapacheese]

Major... Listen, nobody is trying to rain on your parade or anything. It's just that nobody - not even you - will know if its true love. There are those of us who have been through similar situations and have had it not work out in worst possible ways, but there are also those who have stayed with their high school/childhood sweethearts. I have been with my fiance since age 20. I always felt she was the one, but I kept that to myself. I didn't want to let it spiral out of control, and simply took things step by step.

That's really what people are telling you. Don't get caught up in the moment. I'm not saying fight your feelings... simply, don't be afraid to take a step back and keep a level head.

Best of luck.

[NERD]

When an old geezer tells you about something, it's either right or he/she's just crazy. But that's still an even 50:50. Who Wants to be a Millionaire starts out with 25:25:25:25, so that's some good odds.

Ummmmm, what was I saying? Oh yeah, use protection! Bush could so make up for Katrina if he drove a plane over Africa with John Travolta and airdrop boxes of condoms.

...too late?

[Katiekoneko]

I don't mind at all. I'm 21

Thats even MORE cute that youve been together for so long then! :)

[Katiekoneko]

"And no, it wasn't lust."
and "it just sorta happened before either of us could think " Hun..that IS lust tho. And you said you don't plan to have sex often. But with your above quote. If you couldnt control it then from "just happen(ing)" then why do you think you'll be able to next time?
I agree with hapacheese..
We arent really trying to ruin it for you. Ppl just want you to make sure you dont rush into things and really think things through. By taking a step back and all. All the feelings you have are good..its just sometimes feelings block out our head telling us stuff.
We also wanna make sure you are being safe when you're with this person. Meaning protection and everything. Some of us are a bit harsh about it tho. Sorry. I cant really help it sometimes.
I hope things work well for you and your new sweetheart.

[Chelsums]

Not to sound mean or anything, but there is no way you can know you're "in love" after knowing a person two days. Because even if you talked for a long time, you still would have barely even glimpsed into the person's life and found out who they really are. It takes at the very least a month of talking to and being with a person everday before you really are in love with them. Right now, it sounds more like "lust" at first sight.

But anyway, just be safe, okay? And don't rush into things!! Very very bad results will occur.

[zell583]

Thats even MORE cute that youve been together for so long then! :)
thanks katiekoneko ;)

[Myrsilus]

I've never dated... I have a lot of experience in resolving dating problems and mediating problems. My mother also brought me a lot of opportunities to sort out her problems with certain men...

But I will say that I do not think this was lust. It's not like he saw her and immediately started to think he wanted to bone her. If you read what he felt, and I doubt he held back any, he wasn't initially working to bed her. They hit it off emotionally.

Now this also doesn't mean that what you're experiencing is "true love". Many people develop emotional attachments to one another for a brief period of time just because of similar dispositions. It's a very psychological thing, but very simple at the same time. The sex afterwards could have been a result of this strong attachments you have to one another.

Like I said, this may be brief... People don't just fall in love like this all the time. I would not start planning for anything serious until you two learn absolutely everything you can about one another. It's great that you two have such a huge bond that developed so quickly, and it could definitely mean something long-term. But you're jumping the gun.

Please... at least try to give it time before you two start making plans like marriage. In any case, I wish you good fortune in this matter.

[Dead Sexy Vocab]

Hook, line, and sinker. You might've fallen for her bait.

A few years ago, my dumbass older relative of mine (he was 16 at that time) fell in love with the wrong chick, not because she was White, only because they did all these kinky stuff as "dates," like feeling each other up, and nothing else.
He starts telling me they're planning to have three kids, and they even planned out to get a mansion at Palm Springs.
Sucks to be him.
They arrived at Splitsville a few weeks later.
Acted like a total idiot, he did. I always take note of the philosophical saying, "love don't last long for high school students," and that's why I shut down 4 girls. (I think.)
There's a million fish in the sea, there's no way you can find the perfect one in a pond.

[Pierrot le Fou]

You're 21 and have only been with one girl? That really has gotta blow chunks. Dear God almighty. Had I not enjoyed the pleasures of many different women, I wouldn't be so comfortable being with the girl I'm with in a monogamous relationship. Sex is important, dammit.

[CNagy]

Then again, in being with one girl from elementary school until the age of 21, I'd assume there would be some comfort in knowing her inside and out.

Edit: That pun? Definitely not intentional.

[Dead Sexy Vocab]

Then again, in being with one girl from elementary school until the age of 21, I'd assume there would be some comfort in knowing her inside and out.

Edit: That pun? Definitely not intentional.

That did excited me, quite astoundingly, and more erotically enough.

Indeed.

[Shamu]

I haven't read everyone's posts, because honestly most of them sucked!
I fell in love at first sight when I was 16, and I still think about the guy all the time to this day. Nothing ended up happening between us because he was kind of a man whore (other than that he was a really cool guy). Guys that sleep around alot are just a turn off. I'd rather be with a guy that had some experience, but not a list three miles long. So kudos to all the guys that have stuck with just a few ladies (or gentlemen, whatever floats your boat).
Anyway, back to MP. I've been in love twice now, and even after getting cheated on by my ex-husband (I think Kass said that no relationship is normal when alchohol is involved) I still believe in love at first sight. However, if you are having sex, just be careful, kids are very hard to deal with (believe me I know) I am also living proof that birth control is not always effective :p . I wish you the best of luck and if you truly believe that you love this girl and she loves you, then you have my full support!

[Dead Sexy Vocab]

The only hated thing about "Love at First Sight," is that it always starts with the looks, then ends up with the emotions and feelings last.
Many relationships at my school and pretty much in the world starts out like that, and ends up pretty much dead in in the end after two to three weeks.
The way I make out true love, is to get to know them firsthand, even if she's no supermodel. True love comes from the heart not from your penis, and it pretty much worked things out with the girl I particularly was fond of.

Sappy shit goin' on up there.

[sgt. pepper]

I don't think we have proms in Sweden, and if we have them they're not such a big deal. Thank god for that.

[Katiekoneko]

Ive only dated one boy ever..since I was 18
and I have never even kissed another boy.
I wasnt allowed..when I was little.. even lil pecks? Nope.. my family were overbarring overprotective and made me feel less of a person if I liked boys.
*sigh*
I dont regret being with only one person for sex...
but I do for kissing..
Even just a kiss. Not making out.
I don't know what it feels like to kiss anyone other than my boyfriend.

I am so freakin PURE
*lol*
I feel bad for feeling dissapointed ..I hope I dont sound like a bad person.

[tmproff]

Think about this....you're 16 now....do you remember how you acted when you were 11? That was 5 years ago...now imagine how much different you will be at 21. Think you wont change? Well how about her?

Trust me, if there is anything I've learned, it's that change is everywhere.

1. Get to know her, try to do it without thinking about getting physical. She'll respect you for that.

2. You're a 16 yr old guy, been there done that....I know that #1 is impossible :) Try anyways.