Yellow Fever

[KujiInRetsu]

Or more properly termed, "The Asian Fetish," though it doesn't fit the Freudian term very neatly.

You know, I've been hearing all these stories about people dating Asian girls and ending up shattered and a shell of a man for it. Of course, most of these stories are from people who dated the girls simply on the basis of their ethnicity and took no account of their personality, which probably means they deserved what they got. Other times, I'm not sure what the hell happened between the storyteller and his former flame, though it can't have been good to render them so averse as to take up the banner of eradicating "Yellow Fever".

Well, here it is, my question: What are your experiences dating Asian girls, good or (unfortunately more prolific it seems) bad?

[Kustom]

Asian girls usually will have been raised in a very different culture, therefore you need to be significantly more open-minded to make it work than if you go on a date with the girl next door. That said, she might not display the same open-mindedness towards Western culture, and you must be prepared for that too if you want it to work. I don't think it's any different from dating any girl with a different culture, Arab, African, Russian, whatever. And from experience I don't find many similiarities between say, Japanese girls and Vietnamese or Chinese.

As for the physical differences, anybody can figure them out, but keep in mind the fiction/fact transformations Az has put into light.

[Dead Sexy Vocab]

I'm Asian, and I always have Yellow Fever.

It's a thing I must live with for the rest of my life.

I never had a case of SARS (Serious American Redneck Seductiveness), which is really weird.

[Deadhead]

Ive never had yellow fever, but Ive never let race be an factor in who I am dating.
Any race can be hot.

I havent dated any asian chicks, but I was going out with an indian (family from india, not native american) girl once.

[Collapse]

Eh, well I'm Asian too, and it is indeed true that you have to absorb some of the traditional customs in relationships.

But as far as the fever goes, I guess it's not that serious to me.

[Eijiro]

My last girlfriend was Chinese, it was a pretty solid relationship and she was a really nice girl. It ended on pretty good terms, too. I haven't had any particularly BAD experiences with dating asian girls... yet.

[Mr.Babalo]

not another yello fever topic.

[CNagy]

Forget yellow fever, when I was younger I had the yellow plague; a japanophile of the highest order. Thankfully, that little weakness of mine was never exploited, and the japanese girl that I did end up with went out of her way to wean me off of the whole "anything japanese is awesome" idea. Very smart and outspoken (not to mention very pretty,) she didn't pull any punches in telling me that my obsession was irrational and pathetic, so I guess she ended up being my vaccine against the fever, and now I just appreciate all women of all races (which is to say I'm too oversexed to be picky about race, but not personality.)

[DJ_one]

Don’t see what the fuss is about, if people are that shallow to only be interested in someone because of their ethnicity it their hard luck if they get treated like dirt.

I don’t think any ethnicity, male or female is safe from sexual objectification.

[General_Admission]

Why are we even separating Asian girls apart from other girls?...ridiculous.

I say Asian American girls are just like dating any other girl. Some may say it's hard to deal with the parents, but aren't all girl's parents looking out for their little girl?

Dating a FOB Asian girl is different though. Unless the person is truly able to identify with their culture, then he is dating her jsut for looks...very shallow. These are the people who think every Asian girl is hot. She could have 1 leg, messed up teeth, been hit by a train, and have absolutely no opinion of her own, let alone personality or character, and the guy will go nuts over her just because she is Asian...nasty.

However, I must admit I find the attractive East* Asian girls very cute and more appealing than other girls (yes, I am a guy and shallow, but I do not believe in 'love at first sight'), but then again there are plenty of girls who are not Asian that I find very attractive.

* even this has exceptions. One cannot ignore girls just because of their nationality.

[Shadowknight]

Whenever I see the term "yellow fever" I automatically think of the sickness that was common back in the 1800s, not a fetish for asians.

[Azrael]

What bugs me is that the (non-Asian) people who have Yellow Fever usually have it for all the wrong reasons.

They believe in a fantasy, an image that for the most part doesn't exist. While I really don't believe in limiting yourself to one race, if you're going to do that, at least know a little something about the people you're lusting after.

[whispering]

I dont really have "yellow fever" (i hate that word), but i do have Yukie Kawamura fever :p

[General_Admission]

What bugs me is that the (non-Asian) people who have Yellow Fever usually have it for all the wrong reasons.

They believe in a fantasy, an image that for the most part doesn't exist. While I really don't believe in limiting yourself to one race, if you're going to do that, at least know a little something about the people you're lusting after.

Could you please explain this more Az? When you say fantasy what do you mean? Using the term 'fantasy' is very broad because all guys have fantasies about girls...more so than girls would expect. Is it considered a fantasy because they are a different race...something askew of what is considered normal? Is it wrong to have fantasies about girls who so happen to be a different race, but 'normal' to have all the sick fantasies with girls of your own race? Or is it simply wrong to limit yourself to any particular race...even your own?

[Azrael]

Well, how to explain... I think there are a lot of misconceptions floating around about Asian women.

I know there's the big "Asian women are submissive" one. I met one guy who said to me once "I love dating Japanese girls, because they more or less let you have your way. They think it's their duty to keep you happy. And then they'll clean your apartment after you bone em". While it may be true that a Japanese woman may let the man get away with a lot of stuff, it doesn't mean she's happy with it. Chances are, she'll see someone else behind his back, and complain about his faults to her friends.

I think some people watch a lot of anime/Asian TV, and expect the women to be something like that. ...Not really. It's TV, and they're only showing you exactly what they want you to see.

Even the image. What you see on TV and in pictures and what not is NOT what walks around on a daily basis. Those girls are having their makeup professionally done, and even then there may be digital alteration (ESPECIALLY for the AV/idol pics). Some may have had surgery. Even what you see walking around on the street...many of the girls are absolutely built up in makeup and fashion and what not...get to the foundation, and you may find something completely different (see the ugly truth pic...).

I don't think it's healthy to prefer one race over another. Just like a person, regardless of where they come from. But if you're going to do that, at least be educated about who they are. If someone chose to only like white girls, or black girls...for the most part, they know what they're getting into. The people who mainly have Yellow Fever have NO idea what they're getting into. They're enamored with the stereotypes and pre-concieved notions, which in many cases just aren't true.

[Samwise]

not another yello fever topic.

You and me both brah.

All the asian girls at my school have hairlip.

[Jay]

Well, here it is, my question: What are your experiences dating Asian girls, good or (unfortunately more prolific it seems) bad?

Well, from what I've learned their culture says take care of the man and be loyal to him, which is a good thing.

I'm yet to find something bad about an Asian girl actually. I'm sure it'll come though, soon enough.

[DizBukHaPeter]

I'm an asian guy and I'm indifferent to asian girls, but I guess thats from hanging out in a tight knit asian group all my life.

I see alot of white guys into asian girls but never a non-asian girl into an asian guy, thats something that've occured to me.

[Anubis Nine]

There was a time when I was a real Japanophile when I was about 14-15ish. Thought I knew everything. *Rolls eyes at self* Oh if only I had a time machine and a gun. A semi-automatic gun at that. At any rate, I was into Japanese guys/girls like a starving rat going at a ripped open bag of cat food.

There are people who I find attractive, and there are people I don't. Not all white guys are handsome to me, (Even if the majority of the populace thinks they are). There are a lot of nice looking ones, there are a lot of oogly futher muckers out there too. Same goes for any race. I have yet to see a race of people that there are *not* attractive people from. And I have yet to see a race of people that totally kick the ass of any other race enough to make me be like... "Omgz I loves them onlyz!" ... it's not likely to happen either. ^^;

I've got an Asian friend who gripes a lot (in jest) about how he can never get laid because no girls are into him because he's an Asian man. (He showed me a site about it.) Funny because he was one of the only decent people I ever dated. *Shrug* I like to think the whole 'that race is a race of babes' thing wears off with age.

And if not age, there's always experience. *Grin*

[hanacker]

I see alot of white guys into asian girls but never a non-asian girl into an asian guy, thats something that've occured to me.

Never? It's certainly less common, but I've seen it a lot.

[hanacker]

I have yet to see a race of people that there are *not* attractive people from.

Indians (from India). Something about them I don't find attractive at all.

[moo]

I think I've seen some attractive Indians, from the small amount that I have seen at least.

Now I have never heard of people being obssessed with russian guys. Russian girls, on the other hand , I have.

[Woko]

What are your experiences dating Asian girls, good or (unfortunately more prolific it seems) bad?

Since in real life I've probably met less than 20 people who were not white, I'd say I have no experience whatsoever ~_^

[Anubis Nine]

There are *lots* of people from India I find quite attractive. *Purrr* But whatever floats your boat luv.

I don't 'look' solely on looks for a significant other.

[Nekesu]

well i don't have yellow fever, my second girlfriend was half japanese, she kinda did me a favor by not introducing me to her dad, he's pretty intimidating even if im over a foot taller than him. She liked having an asian heritage but was closer to her mom, whos Greek and Italian so she was more like her mom i guess. Anyways that relationship ended up on bad terms but it was a nice relationship for those almost 2 years, she said it was only because i turned 18 (she was 16), i didn't really believe that but never got a real answer, a week later shes with someone else, guy dumps her after 3 months cause she was younger than him, lol, take that bitch. now shes with some deaf / mentally disabled dude, nice.

[D-pad]

I have teh Yellow fever. ME LOVE YOU LONG TIME!!!

[RDClip]

I have teh Yellow fever. ME LOVE YOU LONG TIME!!!
Oh, its always nice to see Kubrick references.

I used to have the Yellow Fever. I'd say it stemed from serious mother issues. (my mom is Asian. no I'm not like THAT. Just trying to explain it using Freudian logic)

[Kustom]

I read a study a few years back about what kind of people men and women were generally attracted to. They took a bunch of subjects from different countries including Japan and asked them to look at pictures from women and men from different origins. The men couldn't agree on any origin they liked better and ended up choosing girls from their own group most of the time. But the women nearly all chose the Mediteranean type as the best (you know, dark, mysterious matcho style, like Italian/Arabs), no matter what countries they were from.

I learned from this that racial fetishes are mostly (there will always be exception) a guy thing, and that most girls will fall for Ricky Martin even though he sucks golf balls through garden hoses.

[edit:I didn't even read your comment on Kubrick, must be reading your mind]

[PopCulturePooka]

My 'yellow fever' is purely phsyical.

I want, more than anything, a westernised asian girl.

Body and look of an East-Asian girl. Outlook, life style etc of an Aussie/American girl.

[KujiInRetsu]

You and me, one and the same, Pooka. Though I'm Asian, I'm more whitewashed than you could possibly comprehend, so I'm looking for an Asian girl equally whitewashed as I, though some comprehension of her original culture would be nice.

[kiev33]

I have certainly seen Asian women I have been attracted to, and just as many I have not been interested in (I spent a year in Korea, and yes, they are just like us!) :)

SAame goes for all races, although, I definitely like the dark, sultry look. My ex-wife was Honduran, and I don't feel like i will ever be up to the challenge of dealing with a different culture again. To be honest, I don't know if I will ever feel like I will be up to the challenge of dealing with anyone again.

Kevin