Ask a Member of The Opposite Sex! [Archive]

Campion

01-13-2007, 03:47 AM

Gentlemen, do you have any questions about Ladies? Are there things that your partner or loved ones do that confuse and befuddle you?

Ladies, do you have similar concerns, does your man do annoying or strange things without sense or reason?

Lets ask a member of the opposite sex! (and please keep it clean)

I would like to start by asking the ladies, how is it that upon returning from the shops, without fail, you can manage to find shoes that are up to 70% off, when we men can't find any evidence of sales at all?

Seriously, what is that about?

Campion.

h2orowe

01-13-2007, 03:51 AM

Dear Ladies,
How come when I don't give a shit, a girl will like me, and I go on a date with her. Then when I don't call over winter break, she gets all pissy? Lawl, I mean it was one date and such. Not like I married her. I axed her out again but she said she was "Busy" all this month, so, I don't feel like asking her out again :P if she can't clear her schedule for me, she's not worth it tbfh.

ANYWAY

I just really wanted to ask.. why do girls find it necessary to bring up their periods with friends? Jesus Christ. It's always "OMG MY PERIOD STARTED TODAY".

Love, Joseph.

Shamu

01-13-2007, 03:54 AM

TBH, this is one reason I made the "Ladies thread" (see stickies in this forum), so that the guys could ask us girls questions. Meneer made a guys' thread for similar reasons, but it died out a long time ago :P

It's a cool idea though!
I don't have any questions at the moment, since I usually ask the guys via IMs, but if I think of any, I shall post it here! ^_^

ellie

01-13-2007, 03:56 AM

Campion: I think stores cater more to women, because they know women are prepared to spend much more money than men. So there are often sales geared towards women when there aren't any for men. And women are willing to search much harder for sales, while men generally hate shopping so they go to the mall and go to the 1 store they want to, find what they want as quickly as possible, and then depart as fast as they can.

Joey: Clearly the girl liked you and wanted to be asked on another date, but since it took you so long to ask her, it made her feel depressed and sad and she convinced herself that she didnt really like you, so thats why she wouldn't go out with you again. And periods are really shitty things, and people like to talk about the important things that happen to them so they like to talk about their periods.

Dead Sexy Vocab

01-13-2007, 04:00 AM

I'll make this quick.

I started knowing this new girl from last year. We talked alot, mostly due to the fact we have alot of same classes.
Now, we have no classes together, but from time to time we'd walk by each other in the hallways (or when we take the bus home, we take the same route) we say hi. When she's with her friends, she semi-ignores me (where we just glimpse at each other then look away... would this be shyness?).
We do talk to each other on Messenger, though.

Is her doing of saying hi and/or "ignoring" me are hints that she likes me?

I'm pretty darn oblivious to hints from girls.

Cherub Rock

01-13-2007, 04:04 AM

I have a good one for you Ellie. I've been meaning to ask this to every girl I meet but I think it might teeter somewhere around inappropriate or offensive.

Why are women so free with telling men that they have to pee? Why not use some more proper term, like use the bathroom. I used to think it was just my family but it seems to be fairly acceptable among women to announce their need to urinate to the world.

I mean really, I am a guy so I should be less self-conscious about these things but I'm pretty sure I've never told anyone a single detail about what I need to do in the restroom. I always figured it was kind of vulger and unneeded.

Dead Sexy Vocab

01-13-2007, 04:07 AM

Why are women so free with telling men that they have to pee?

I second that. Whenever I say it, they go "ew, don't say that!" but when they say it, they go "BITCH STOP FRONTIN'!!"

Campion

01-13-2007, 04:09 AM

TBH, this is one reason I made the "Ladies thread" (see stickies in this forum), so that the guys could ask us girls questions. Meneer made a guys' thread for similar reasons, but it died out a long time ago :P

I thought that was for Ladies only! I'm so sorry. Mind you, I was a bit rude and did take a peek at the last page. When I spotted you all chatting about shoes, I thought, 'My other half does that, how? How do they do it?' which is where I got my inspiration, so thanks for that.

Campion: I think stores cater more to women, because they know women are prepared to spend much more money than men. So there are often sales geared towards women when there aren't any for men. And women are willing to search much harder for sales, while men generally hate shopping so they go to the mall and go to the 1 store they want to, find what they want as quickly as possible, and then depart as fast as they can.

So you ladies don't have shoe-radar then? Because seriously, I was beginning to wonder. Thanks for clearing that up!

Next Question: How come ladies remember things their men have said almost a week ago, when we can't even remember saying them ourselves?

Campion.

Shamu

01-13-2007, 04:21 AM

I thought that was for Ladies only! I'm so sorry. Mind you, I was a bit rude and did take a peek at the last page. When I spotted you all chatting about shoes, I thought, 'My other half does that, how? How do they do it?' which is where I got my inspiration, so thanks for that.

No worries hon. You're always welcome in the Ladies' thread as long as you're respectful (I think a lot of guys are scared of it, because we talk about periods and junk and boring things like shopping >_>)

As for sales....I learned from my mother how to find the best ones.
For things that you say that we don't forget...we're like elephants...we just don't forget. :P

EDIT: I actually am not sure why we remember those things, but I know I do. I can still remember things my ex-husband said to me 10 years ago >_>

MNJetter

01-13-2007, 04:36 AM

I think the remembering of certain things is just a matter of what seems important to whom at the time. When I first started dating my current boyfriend, I wasn't planning to get into any sort of dating relationship with anybody, much less a serious romantic one. So I never bothered to remember the date of our first official date. But he did, and now after five years, he never lets me forget the fact that I forgot our first anniversary, so now if he goes stereotypical male on me and starts forgetting birthdays and stuff (he has yet to do so), we're even for at least the first one :P

Shamu

01-13-2007, 04:41 AM

bakagaijin

01-13-2007, 04:52 AM

The girl that's experienced in bed or the lady you can take home to your mama? :watson:

Both. The qualities aren't mutually exclusive.

SlickWilly440

01-13-2007, 04:59 AM

The guys who want a slutty whore probably just want to get laid, with no long term commitments, instead of being at home alone play the one handed shuffle.

Shamu

01-13-2007, 05:12 AM

Yes yes, but what is YOUR personal preference and which do you prefer more?

Edit: don't be wishy-washy, pick one!

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 05:14 AM

I'd prefer a girl who both knows some manners, while knows how to open up and be herself. That's pretty much something expected of everybody, you know? Be in control, but don't cut yourself off from the world?

Shamu

01-13-2007, 05:19 AM

Well, that's why I said a lady (that still knows how to have fun)

I'm not talking about a girl that's got a stick up her ass >_> figuratively, not literally <_<

Mastiker

01-13-2007, 05:22 AM

Oh! I thought of a question for you guys!

What do you prefer? A woman that acts like a lady (but still has fun) or a girl that's a bit on the slutty side?
I always here of or see guys that seem to want the slutty girl (not in all cases, but quite a few), so I'm just curious. The girl that's experienced in bed or the lady you can take home to your mama? :watson:

My girlfriend is neither, and I love it >:3

She's still naive, but wicked... crazy. Like... wow. Can't even explain how crazy she is.

But that's part of why I asked her out in the first place.

There is no set type that a guy likes; attraction is not so much on a physical level, nor what they're into compared to you. Attraction, and finding the right partner, is about a key set of events, each one building more and more likeability factors. Most of these things you don't even notice at first, or at all, but you gradually pick up on things. You can be attracted to types you normally would make fun of, or perhaps even bully around, but the whole idea is that the two of you share those events together.

That's why I don't get it when people say "she's not my type"... how do you know until you talk to them? Basing whether or not they're dateable just on outer appearance alone is utterly useless. And, you're not going to get to know a person in five minutes, let alone five weeks. But, if you look at a person, think they might be worth the shot, then go for it. If it fails, it fails. If it works out, it works out.

The same thing goes for breaking up as goes for meeting someone. You don't break up "because you weren't meant for each other"... an event happens that is either snowballed out of proportion, or is so monstorous it can't be ignored.

Shamu

01-13-2007, 05:25 AM

Tikky....while I think your post about your gf and all was really sweet (I did go, aww!), you still didn't really answer my question. :frypan:
I don't care if you don't really like either. Which would you choose? Lady or slut? If you had to?

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 05:30 AM

If you mean lady as "lady (who still knows how to have fun)", then definitely lady.
I most certainly don't want a slut. I don't want a girl who'd jump into bed on the first date, or even the first week. :box:

Mastiker

01-13-2007, 05:30 AM

*frown*

Lady. At the end of the day, if I really need some action, I always got the one man parade.

I was honestly thinking about it earlier though; I'm much more attracted to a girl who's well rounded in all aspects than exceptional in one.

Shamu

01-13-2007, 05:37 AM

andrewt

01-13-2007, 05:42 AM

here's a question for the females..
what's are fun everyday things to do... w/ the gf, etc?

Mastiker

01-13-2007, 05:47 AM

Who says a lady can't be well rounded?
Like Ludacris said "Lady in the street, but a freak in the bed" :box:
And btw, when I say a lady that knows how to have fun, I'm not just referring to the bedroom, but in other aspects of life. Not that sluts can't be well rounded either (I've known some smart whore-ish girls), just more likely to jump into your bed :P

Hahaha I meant more in the line of stereotypes, not just ladies and whores, but more like how my friend is all like "goth chicks are hawt."

No they aren't.

Hot goth chicks are hot, but that goes without saying.

I know beauty is subjective to each person's taste, but to automatically lump a category and say "I prefer this" is kind of redundant. While, yeah, you like it. But you don't like everyone in that category. I know some "hot goth chicks" that I stay far away from. Jeez, showers = good thing.

Then again, all this ideology about romance, and I haven't had a serious relationship last 6 months X3

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 05:54 AM

I have a question for the girls, too. \o/
what kind of body type do you prefer in a guy? Tall and thin? Short and fat? Built like a body builder? A boxer? A football player? A computer geek?

Shamu

01-13-2007, 05:54 AM

Tikky, stop analyzing so much. I know that girls don't always fit in to more than one catagory, but I'm asking you to make it black and white. Now you've already answered the question, so I won't say anything more about the subject. There's also no right or wrong answer. I'm not going to hate you if you say you prefer sluts, I'm just curious about what most guys from here would choose.

As for fun, everyday things to do with the gf:
walk the dog
Go shopping

If you want more, go read the ladies thread, we talk about dates and stuff quite a bit in there :P

EDIT: IRT Jetset, I tend to like tall and stocky :D

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 06:02 AM

No guys would williingly choose the "slut" stereotype. They'll certainly go for the loose girls if they can't get a nice girl. But they'd rather have a girl that a) won't get bored of them and go jump in bed with another guy, b) doesn't have STD's or children or anything, and c) actually cares about them, and doesn't just want them for sex.
You see, guys and girls really are a lot alike. :P

Shamu

01-13-2007, 06:08 AM

So having kids makes you a slut? :P
I guess this brings me to another question.
What do you guys think about a woman with a kid/kids?

Stephy

01-13-2007, 06:15 AM

I have a question for the girls, too. \o/
what kind of body type do you prefer in a guy? Tall and thin? Short and fat? Built like a body builder? A boxer? A football player? A computer geek?

Taller. Intelligent. um.... in shape at least.

Edit:

Is it uncomfortable for guys to ride bikes? :blank: ewww!

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 06:25 AM

So having kids makes you a slut? :P
I guess this brings me to another question.
What do you guys think about a woman with a kid/kids?
I think it's somehow less appropriate for a slut to be jumping from bed to bed while she has little kids waiting at home? >_>; I dunno.
I don't think I'd want a woman with kids, either. >_>; I think at 18, that's an ok sentiment. I think?
IRT stephu: I ride my bike all the time. I just ride it differently from girls. I sit on a more back part of my butt. :P

Mastiker

01-13-2007, 06:26 AM

seiji

01-13-2007, 06:27 AM

OMG NEW THREAD!

On sale radar: I have "clearance aisle" radar, but my "storewide sale" radar is borked.
On announcing bodily functions: I NEVER say "I have to pee", even to other girls. It sounds childish or rude. I rarely announce my period unless I get particularly moody toward someone and need to justify it.
On Vocab's girl: sounds a lot like the way I treated the guy I'm currently engaged to a long time ago, long before we got together. I didn't like him like him at the time, but I liked him well enough. Are you interested in her?
On never forgetting a date/promise/argument: my fiance remembers much more of what I've said to him than I remember what he's said to me, and neither of us remembers our anniversary. I have a strange selective memory; some things slip in one ear and out the other, some will never leave. If only I could control which ones...
On "types": I demand my man be no shorter than I am and no heavier than average for his height (ideally, he should be below average by the amount I am above average. I'm such a hypocrite). Actually, I have such a preference for slender guys with dark eyes and hair that I thought I had yellow fever until I noticed it applied to all races. It's not absolute, but I do have a type.

Josh

01-13-2007, 06:41 AM

Is it uncomfortable for guys to ride bikes? :blank: ewww!

In my experience, not really, I mean, it can be rather uncomfortable when I perhaps go over a sudden bump or ride for an extended period of time. Then, there are also the times like from Napoleon Dynamite where he goes off the ramp and it falls down and he racks himself. Thats painful. But reallly, 95% of the time it doesn't bother me to ride a bike.

Shamu, as for my opinion on women with children, meh. I don't care. Perhaps it is due to the fact that my mother, after her first marriage, was a single mother and the fact that my sister is single and has two kids, it doesn't make much of a difference to me. Its just something that will require a bit more work.

In all honesty though, the only time it would put me off would be if, in the long run, we decided to get married and she didn't want to have another one. I can understand different circumstances may arise, but I would like to have a kid of my own someday.

Dead Sexy Vocab

01-13-2007, 08:27 AM

Howcome no one answered my question...?

Injuryprone

01-13-2007, 08:36 AM

Howcome no one answered my question...?

See Seiji's post about 2 up.

PopCulturePooka

01-13-2007, 09:39 AM

Why do girls always go for the assholes and never the nice guys?

?

BWAHAHAHAHA

Sorry, I knew someone would ask, so I figured it might as well be me. :P Even though I know the answer.

xtine

01-13-2007, 10:03 AM

Clearance and sales: girls just like to shop, so we sorta get that radar to have the patience to go through racks for deals. I'm one of those few girls that doesn't like shoe shopping (stuff besides sneakers/boots), so I guess I can spare my bf that pain.

Pee: I don't do that, I don't know too many girls that do that either...usually we just say the "we gotta go to the bathroom" or something. I guess it just depends on the crowd.

Periods: I think if guys went through the same types of pains/annoyances, they would tell everyone too.

Types: I like slimmer guys (though not too skinny), though height doesn't matter that much as long as they are taller than me. I hang around with a lot of guys that are into anime, games, computers and such, so it's what like. I can't see myself being with a non geek/nerd. Though I have to be honest, a lot of my guy friends aren't too friendly or comfortable with the ladies (I'm a computer science major, I see this every day in my classes.. -_-). I usually like the nerd guys that are sociable (and of course those are usually the ones that don't have too much trouble dating or getting girls).

For the guys:
Like I mentioned, I am in an environment with a lot of anime/computer guys. Why do they get so intimidated by other girls in their field? It's really confusing because they complain that there aren't any girls in their classes/activities, and then when there are girls present they will either complain about girls in earshot. Perhaps intimidation, they usually feel the girls don't know as much as they do, or are "not hot enough." Sorry, I got into personal rant there. XD

MeneerDijk

01-13-2007, 11:11 AM

Riding a bike for boysI've had a bike for all my life. The Dutch are only surpassed by the Chinese in the use of bikes. And i can tell you a man should have no problem riding a bike, allthough saddle choice becomes more important as you grow older. Mountainbikes or racebikes can have a real small and hard saddle, wich can hurt your testicles. I believe the pro's use padding down there. There are saddles that leave a little space for them, or have a different shape so you can support your weight with your butt

lady or slut? Definately a lady that knows how to have fun. I wouldn't enter a relationship that had little or no perspective. I don't mind if a girl has had previous relationships, but if she hopped from guy to guy i would doubt she'd stay commited to me.

Kids or no kids To be honest, i never imagined i'd be dating a girl with a kid, but then again i never imagined i'd date :duh: But it never bothered me my gf has one. And allthough it can be quite intimidating for a guy that has no kids himself, it's also a lot of fun. But i guess it also helps that i have a positive attitude towards having kids myself. And now i have an excuse to play with Lincoln Logs and Legos again :P

why are geeks intimidated by girls in their field
I don't think this applies just to IT guys, complaining about girls in the vincinity is just a way of saying: I'm too scared to step up to her, but without looking like a sissy toward your peers. Maybe it happens more amongst geeks because of more insecurity?

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 11:20 AM

I'm not intimidated by girls who are into computers and anime. I LIKE knowing girls I can with whom I can talk about nerdy/geeky stuff- makes conversation a whole lot easier. :P Not that I'm an anime nerd. >_> I'm more of a computers and videogames and stuff nerd.

PopCulturePooka

01-13-2007, 12:01 PM

I think a reason why some guys in anime/IT fields have an intimidation is two fold. One they are geeks, socially awkward at the best of times and threatened by girls as many a geek is.

Secondly they have a degree of sexism. Its the same as tradies (eg carpeneters, mechanics and plumebrs) who seem threatened by women in their field, with an added degree of aforementioned social awkwardness. What I mean is, some guys believe, whether they admit it or not, that girls shouldn't or couldn't possibly belong to that field. Why? I think its because a lot of geeky guys are intimidated by certain types of girls. The most popular types of girls for geeky guys do seem to be shyer, demure and innocent, naieve almost. It's noticeable here if you look at which girls are more popular or not. It's a power thing, the more girly and naieve a girl, the more 'power' a geeky awkward guy feels he has, which he may be lacking in the rest of his life.

So girls in guy fields? They have a 'power' that they 'shouldn't. Scary.

japanat

01-13-2007, 12:51 PM

No guys would williingly choose the "slut" stereotype.Huh? LOTS of guys like the slut type. That's why the Tonya Hardings of this world are never lonely.

I'd rather have the lady, though. A lady is good company in any situation, and if she knows how to have fun, you can have fun in every case. In the sack, you learn about/teach each other what you like anyways. But a woman who looks slutty is not the best companion in certain situations, heart-of-gold or no.

Ladies, how about the vice versa? Enrique the body-building gardener? Or Chancy, the Oxford-educated chap?

And, if I were single again, I'd definitely rather have the lady with children. She's likely to have more interests in common with me than a 20-yr-old single with a ticking biological time-bomb.

Lisa M

01-13-2007, 12:58 PM

Body-building gardener any day.

Unless Chancy happens to be a right fit chap. Fencing, badminton, and those classy sports.

And about the "I have to pee" thing - I can't even count the number of times my male friends have said "I have to take a piss." So it goes both ways.

Also, it's a lot shorter to say.

Roxie

01-13-2007, 01:30 PM

MeneerDijk

01-13-2007, 02:19 PM

Guys.

Why would you invite a girl over your place that you know is single, not try anything...and then when she asks you out say "yeah, we'll do that" but not call back to do that? Then when you see her on the street have a nice lengthy conversation that never involved the aformentioned plans?

And about the stating of the needed bodily functions. Is it really that big a deal? I mean I only say it when I really, really must go, but I mean, everybody does it!

I have no experience on your first question, i can only imagine guys do that because they think it's easier to lie then to tell the truth about not being interested?

I don't mind when a girl says she needs to go pee, and like you said: they usually really really need to go when they say it, so why not be to the point?

ellie

01-13-2007, 03:20 PM

About peeing: I am one of the guilty girls who often will announce, "I have to pee!" I just find its easier to do that. Maybe I'm kind of vulgar, I don't know. I guess if I really gotta go, announcing it makes it not embarassing as I search desperately for the restroom. I also go to the restroom with other girls if at all possible if I am in public. This is so I have someone to talk to while I am in there, as well as someone to make sure my hair is still cute and to help me fix my mascara if I am too drunk to do it myself, etc.

About never forgetting stuff: There are certain things I always forget, and no matter how hard I try, I always WILL forget them. I think forgetting things isn't necessarily a bad thing, your brain doesn't have room for everything! As long as you & your significant other don't forget things that you know are important to the other one. Like if you know that your anniversary is important to your boyfriend, then please don't forget it! But if he doesn't really care that much about an arbitrary date, then you shouldn't worry too much about engraving that date into your mind.

About types: I've dated a lot of different body types on guys. For a long time I dated a guy who played football in high school, but he dropped out at 16 and apparently hadn't taken much time keeping in shape since then. So he was overweight and hairy. Not my ideal guy. I dated another guy who had a pretty average body, but he was my height. I prefer the guy to be taller. At least if he's my height we can dance cheek to cheek, but please, I don't want to date a shorter guy. Now I am dating a tall skinny guy, and I think he is absolutely perfect.

andrewt

01-13-2007, 04:16 PM

Campion

01-13-2007, 04:21 PM

So having kids makes you a slut? :P
I guess this brings me to another question.
What do you guys think about a woman with a kid/kids?

No, having kids makes you a ready made family, which at my age I think, is kinda cool, I doubt that at 18/19 when commitment to a single person is hard enough for us chaps we would be ready to commit to more; but as we age we mellow and discover that what we are committing to is not to other people so much as we are committing to ourselves.

About the Lady/Slut thing, when I was younger I probably would have taken the slut to be honest, but I've learnt (in my old age) that while a Slut knows no appropriate time to be a Lady, a Lady knows the appropriate time to be a slut..

..and a gentleman should also know the appropriate time to be one too.

Campion.

andrewt

01-13-2007, 04:28 PM

As for fun, everyday things to do with the gf:
walk the dog
Go shopping

If you want more, go read the ladies thread, we talk about dates and stuff quite a bit in there :P

ah, wasn't really talkin about date... but i gotcha...
dang - i don't enjoy shopping unless it's for something specific.. and don't have a dog.. and outside of training, try to keep off the legs...
guess that leaves eating, tv, movies, games... and uhh... cooking? :frypan:

Soli

01-13-2007, 04:45 PM

I have a question (for both girls and guys, I guess)!

At school you go from class to class carrying your books, right?

Why do girls hold the books in both arms (http://www.co.sanmateo.ca.us/vgn/images/portal/cit_611/19137048girllocker.jpeg), but guys hold them on their sides (http://www.padigitalschooldistricts.com/images/level1_pics_news.gif)?

Stephy

01-13-2007, 04:56 PM

I hold my books off to my side steadying on my hips usually.

Like this kind of: http://www1.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/1046213/2/istockphoto_1046213_woman_on_white_holding_book.jp g

Soli

01-13-2007, 04:59 PM

^ Yeah, I was trying to find a pic of that, but the other one was the only thing I found. But they're similar.

Cherub Rock

01-13-2007, 05:00 PM

ellie

01-13-2007, 05:14 PM

GIRLS DO NOT POO. Everyone knows that.

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 05:17 PM

Huh? LOTS of guys like the slut type. That's why the Tonya Hardings of this world are never lonely.

I'd rather have the lady, though. A lady is good company in any situation, and if she knows how to have fun, you can have fun in every case. In the sack, you learn about/teach each other what you like anyways. But a woman who looks slutty is not the best companion in certain situations, heart-of-gold or no.
I meant that, between a slutty girl, and a nice girl who knows how to have fun who would take them, they'd prefer the one less likely to have an STD and other men. They are, obviously, perfectly willing to go for the slutty women, however. >_>; Just like women "prefer" the nice, respecful guys, and yet the jerks are never lonely.

Campion

01-13-2007, 08:16 PM

Why do girls always go for the assholes and never the nice guys?

You know, I asked a young lady acquiantence of mine this very same question some years ago, and she replied..

'Because nice guys always go for complete bitches.'

Campion.

RandomPasserby

01-13-2007, 08:32 PM

What makes a woman ponder about whether to buy a pair of shoes or not?

Do women have a "fuck it! I can't any more of this shopping shit! I'm taking these which are in front of me no matter what!"-option when shopping?

Roxie

01-13-2007, 09:09 PM

What makes a woman ponder about whether to buy a pair of shoes or not?

The price, my dear, the price.
That or if she may have anything to go with it or not, which can be eaisly remieded or last, but not least, comfort.

RandomPasserby

01-13-2007, 09:31 PM

The price, my dear, the price.
That or if she may have anything to go with it or not, which can be easily remieded or last, but not least, comfort.
Whoops, forgot, I meant for 20 minutes or a similar rather long time. I can spend maybe 2 minutes before I either take it or leave it.

jihei18

01-13-2007, 10:16 PM

Factor in the fact that you are mentally comparing that shoe to your closet, other shoes you saw but did not buy because you wanted to see if you could find anything else cheaper/cuter/that does not look too much like that shoes your co-worker who you don't really like wears, wondering if you should continue searching after all... you could be staring at one pair of shoes for a rather long time!
That aside, if I see a pair of shoes I really love, and they are as comfortable as they are pretty, I can have that thing bought in under 2 minutes!

Stephy

01-13-2007, 10:41 PM

Girls might too since I saw some girls in the sex thread say they like it but... noticed generally a lot of guys like this...

Why do guy like bum bums so much? Tis weird.

Jetsetlemming

01-13-2007, 10:51 PM

Female body part that's curvy and typically hidden away from the world due to societal standards? Plus women tend to wiggle it when they walk, especially when they wear fancy shoes. And it IS right thar in the general sexual area. Next door neighbors and all.

akitaka

01-13-2007, 11:12 PM

You know, I asked a young lady acquiantence of mine this very same question some years ago, and she replied..

'Because nice guys always go for complete bitches.'

Campion.

I think it factors that they take their pick, and really try hard to "make it work" instead of breaking off and making a point. They're nice, but only in a self-concious manner where they can only feel sorry for others instead of themselves.

As for Shamu's comment on good things to do with a girlfriend...check, and check. Odd as it sounds, I don't even mind window-shopping given the right amount of free-time/energy. Just don't expect me to hand over a wad of cash for some "honey".

Angelyne

01-14-2007, 04:11 AM

For the guys: A male friend of mine keeps telling me, "if a straight guy keeps talking to a girl, it's because he wants to sleep with her." True or false? (applies to social situations only; activities where conversation is required, like school or work, don't count).

Jetsetlemming

01-14-2007, 04:40 AM

False. It's easy for a guy to have platonic friends as long as he's got a girl of his own. :3 If a guy is single and straight... eh. Though he still might have another girl in mind romantically besides the one he's talking to.
I have lots of female friends that I'm not attracted to, just out of habit mostly. I met most of them while I was taken. I guess I kinda reverse friend-zoned them. :P

Fermented Yeast Paste

01-14-2007, 05:21 AM

Agreed. That's absolutely false, but even if the guy is single, since that's the case for me.

I talk with people a lot, some of these people happen to be girls; no hidden agenda there.

Dead Sexy Vocab

01-14-2007, 06:27 AM

On Vocab's girl: sounds a lot like the way I treated the guy I'm currently engaged to a long time ago, long before we got together. I didn't like him like him at the time, but I liked him well enough. Are you interested in her?

Pretty much, I am...

Alright, so I just have this crush on her. That's it.

Kwiz

01-14-2007, 06:41 AM

For our female members: do you get disappointed and/or distressed when guys you're talking to seem to only sparingly make eye contact during a conversation? I know I'm guilty of this myself, but I would definitely put more effort into changing that if it's causing more discomfort than I realize.

Hatsumomo

01-14-2007, 07:00 AM

It depends. Maybe I'm not the best to answer this question because I hate making eye contact, but if he's spending most of the conversation looking at everything but me and it's not due to shyness or social anxiety like my aversion to eye contact is, then I would have to wonder.

tweek.3867

01-14-2007, 07:10 AM

Depending on what I am doing I tend to either stare straight into the person's eyes I am talking to or just wander my eyes around at anything and everything. For some reason it helps me think clearer when I am not looking directly into certain people's eyes. But when it comes to classroom discussions.. or someone I care about, I always look directly into their eyes because it's good to help see what they are thinking. And a lot of girls say I have really nice eyes ;)

I never even realized that it might make people uncomfortable or whatever whenever I don't look straight at them @_@ So I'm kind of curious what women think about this one as well.

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 09:31 AM

I think eye contact is hugely important. In fact I dsitrust people that can't make eye contact, I feel they are dishonest people. Not being able to make eye contact is a good indicator of some lying, and I think for me thats translated over to finding people who can't make eyecontact untrustworthy. When serving customers, interacting with students or talking with family/friends I always try for eye contact.

Its also a major reason why I cant dig e-relationships, no eye contact.

Roxie

01-14-2007, 12:39 PM

ellie

01-14-2007, 02:51 PM

Extended eye contact makes me uncomfortable, but so does zero eye contact. If I am talking to someone and they never meet my eyes, that makes me wonder what is going on and WHY they can't look at me. But someone who stares into my eyes continuously while we are talking also creeps me out. You need a nice balance of looking, and looking away.

jihei18

01-14-2007, 03:10 PM

I think 3 seconds is the max time for sustained eye contact before it gets creepy.

Campion

01-14-2007, 05:15 PM

One for the Ladies..

..I like to think I have a bit of a poker face when discussing anything with either gender, but according to my better half and numerous other female friends, I have a 'really obvious' guilty face if I think I've done something wrong, a lot of my other male friends have this problem too, we can't see it in each other, so how can you?

Are men really that easy to read?

Campion.

Soli

01-14-2007, 05:22 PM

^ If these girls are your friends then they know you pretty well, right? Because they know you well then they recognize your different facial expressions like when you feel guilty. And the reason your guy friends don't see it is because they might not be as observant as your girl friends. :P

Just my guess though!

01-14-2007, 05:54 PM

Dear Ladies,
Why are you completely illogical? And where can I find a girl that has some semblance of logic?

Love,
Delen

andrewt

01-14-2007, 05:56 PM

engineering school. =P nyek nyek nyek

Stephy

01-14-2007, 06:15 PM

Dear Ladies,
Why are you completely illogical? And where can I find a girl that has some semblance of logic?

Love,
Delen

Dear Delen,

Why are more than half your posts pointless and clearly represent stupidity within the General Discussion section?

-Steph.

Question for thread:
Aren't you uncomfortable in the bathroom!? Those urinals look very .. um.. open to eyes! x_x

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 06:18 PM

There are unwritten urinal codes for urinal use. Keep as much distance as possible and dont look to the sidez >> Over here urinals usually have dividers, but same rules still aplly

Random

01-14-2007, 06:21 PM

Ayup, and there was that video posted here a while back that used the sims to show the bathroom rules.
That was great :P

edit: ooh, question: would you rather be called hot, beautiful, pretty or...? and why?

NERD

01-14-2007, 06:30 PM

Those urinals look very .. um.. open to eyes! x_x

Stop going to the men's bathroom!

Stephy

01-14-2007, 06:33 PM

Random: Gorgeous> beautiful > pretty> cute> hot (Personal preference. Its just nicer and classy being 'beautiful' rather than 'hot' )

Gummy bear, I don't go there! :rofl:

Roxie

01-14-2007, 06:38 PM

Dear Ladies,

Why are you completely illogical? And where can I find a girl that has some semblance of logic?

Love,

Delen
Dear Delen,

Gee.

How could I, a "completely illogical being" possibly answer such a question that was birthed of pure, unequivical logic?

Further, if I was logical being, I would say that you could go sit on it and twist. Why would anyone help someone who's insulted them? Moreover, a logical being would say it isn't a smart thing to do...espcially if those you ask are the have the key to what you seek.

Trinadad

01-14-2007, 06:48 PM

Random: Gorgeous> beautiful > pretty> cute> hot (Personal preference. Its just nicer and classy being 'beautiful' rather than 'hot' ) Hmm... yeah, same with me Steph. But it also depends on the context.

I don't have a question yet though. Hmm..

tweek.3867

01-14-2007, 06:54 PM

Shamu

01-14-2007, 06:56 PM

IRT Random: Calling a woman beautiful has a lot more respectfulness to it.
Calling a girl "hot" just sounds like you all you want to do is get in her pants and nothing more. While I won't be mean to a guy that calls me hot, I'm more likely to pay attention to the one that calls me beautiful.
Being called cute is ok....but that makes me think the guy thinks I'm childlike, rather than pretty.
Pretty...is almost too generic for my tastes, but I still accept the comment if it's made to me.

I don't have any questions atm either ><

Loc

01-14-2007, 07:00 PM

Someone's rather picky. ;p

Stephy

01-14-2007, 07:03 PM

Roxie

01-14-2007, 07:06 PM

My guess is the post was an attempt at humor. No need to bite his head off for it.
Then it should be funny.

Your guess is not my guess, as I've seen such inquiries so many times, I no longer can pretend they are jokes.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 07:10 PM

Picky is good! And you should expect nothing less from a guy that might be a potential boyfriend. If he shows you respect from the beginning, he's more likely to be respectful of you later on as well.
And classy guys are awesome!

Ok, I have a question. What do you guys think of jewelry? Like, not buying it or anything, just when a girl wears it? Also, do guys like to wear jewelry?

Random

01-14-2007, 07:12 PM

discrete and pretty > giant loops as big as your face.
the same can be said for makeup :O

edit: wearing jewelry: not really.

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 07:14 PM

As far as guys liking to wear jewelry, it just depends on the individual. Some guys have earrings, though most don't, and some guys wear necklaces. I know I like a necklace, and wouldn't mind a ring if it was cool and unique, kind of like what Michael was searching for a while ago.

akitaka

01-14-2007, 07:14 PM

Well, all comments/compliments are nice (depending on who says it. Don't want a random strange guy coming up to me saying "hey hottie!" Just creepy...-_- )

But like Shan says, it shows more respect. Also the word beautiful is less used these days while sexy and hot replaces it. And like I said its just nicer and classy.

( in general) Picky = good! :blank: imo.
Hur. It's comical when you're walking with an attractive friend and someone does that, and (as a guy) you turn to them, toss a wink, and lightly lift up your shirt. They usually can't do squat about it, because they're in some sort of vehicle.

As for the word "beautiful" being used less and less, I'm not surprised. People seem to be getting somewhat younger in their approach to the opposite sex, since they're getting exposed to such things earlier than their ancestors. I personally don't use "hot" or "sexy" on a serious note because it cramps my style. "Pretty" is a flexible one on casual talking without sounding invasive, and "beautiful" or "gorgeous" fits for more special occaisions/feelings. Maybe it's because I was raised in an all-girl family, but that's my two cents.

Fermented Yeast Paste

01-14-2007, 07:15 PM

There are unwritten urinal codes for urinal use. Keep as much distance as possible and dont look to the sidez >> Over here urinals usually have dividers, but same rules still aplly
http://youtube.com/watch?v=IzO1mCAVyMw

Such truth in that video.

Loc

01-14-2007, 07:17 PM

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 07:24 PM

Jewelry for myself? I could see myself wearing a ring on my finger, but an earring? no.

On women? Yes, a nice necklace, earrings or bracelet (arm or ankle) looks nice to me. Not too big and flashy though, it's supposed to complement a look, not distract from it.

akitaka

01-14-2007, 07:28 PM

Aye for Meneer's point. Coordination is something a lot of rich folk don't seem to have here in Arizona...making for disgustingly embelished glitterwear that wouldn't fly on a run-way. Not that they have to look like models.

Jewelry strikes to me as an investment. How anyone else wants theirs is up to them. With that said, I'd much prefer a watch.

Campion

01-14-2007, 07:29 PM

Delen, there is no gender inequality to logic in my opinion. If there is it may actually be converse to your proposition. I've known a lot of women who are much more logical than I. I personally need to think laterally in my job and if I didn't I couldn't do it!

Question for the Ladies:

Why do some ladies take so much time getting ready to go out anywhere? My significant other can take over an hour before she is ready to leave the house.. ..whilst I do appreciate the effort, I would be just as happy if she came out in t-shirt and jeans.

So why?

Campion.

Roxie

01-14-2007, 07:32 PM

Question for the Ladies:

Why do some ladies take so much time getting ready to go out anywhere? My significant other can take over an hour before she is ready to leave the house.. ..whilst I do appreciate the effort, I would be just as happy if she came out in t-shirt and jeans.

So why?

Campion.

I know for me, most of my time is spent picking out what I want to wear. If I I have that ready, it'll probably take me 30-45 minutes (counting shower, lotioning, and tooth brushing). Gotta do the hair, make sure the accessories match up, and the five-minute face.

Of course, this is all dependent on if you can find everything.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 07:35 PM

IRT Campion:
Well, we do have to do our hair (most of us have longer/medium hair and even if it's short, you still have to do something with it if you're a girl), and then there's make up. If you're going out, depending on how much you're putting on, it can take a long time, especially if you're doing eyeliner and want it to look even. Then, there's picking out an outfit and making sure that everything else matches or at least compliments it.
Why do we do all this? Well one, we like to look our best for you and want your friends to think we're pretty too. We also do it for other girls. Almost like a competition, because sad as it is, most females are judgmental of other females (whether it's good or bad, we're always comparing ourselves to each other).

Stephy

01-14-2007, 07:43 PM

Yeah. I concur about that last part Shan. Girls are very competitive with one another. Its a silent competition (unless dirty looks, words, or back stabbing is involved) not to say the competition is bad. Sometimes good. ;p

And yeah, its to look our best for you. Showering is about 30 + minutes. Just doing my hair take 30 minutes. If straightening it can take to an hour, so lots of time/effort before going out.

Roxie

01-14-2007, 07:46 PM

I dress to impress myself.
If I look good, then I feel good..
If you dress like a slob, you're gonna feel slobby.

Stephy

01-14-2007, 07:47 PM

Hm... yeah exactly! :D Good way to sum it up.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 07:50 PM

I dress to impress myself.
If I look good, then I feel good..
If you dress like a slob, you're gonna feel slobby.
That too. Dressing nicely can make you feel better about yourself.

Campion

01-14-2007, 07:54 PM

Thanks Roxie and Shamu, you know for an old guy, I should've figured the ladies out by now, but perhaps fortunately, you're all still a complete mystery to me, and I kind of hope that mystery never fades..

..life would probably be a lot more dull! :)

Ok, I have a question. What do you guys think of jewelry? Like, not buying it or anything, just when a girl wears it? Also, do guys like to wear jewelry?

Jewelry looks good on any lady so long as she treats it as an accessory to her outfit rather than wear the jewelry because she has it. Heavy jewelry can be nice on a long black evening dress (for going to a ball or show), but when going out for a meal the clothing should take more precedence than the jewelry in my opinion (and the jewelry should be lighter).

As for Jewelry on men? I wear a ring given to me by a previous partner, I've had it for so long that I don't really see it as jewelry I guess! Other than that I don't wear any.

PS: Shamu, sorry to be so rude as to ask you this, but what does IRT mean? (the only thing I can think of is 'In Reasonable Terms')

Campion.

Trinadad

01-14-2007, 07:55 PM

I don't know... it really doesn't take me that long to get ready... If I need to shower it'll take me like 20 minutes. If not, like 10. I do care about my appearence, but not to the extent that it takes so long.

Hmm... girls or guys: What do you think about peircings? And tattoos?

Campion

01-14-2007, 08:00 PM

Hmm... girls or guys: What do you think about peircings? And tattoos?

I'm personally not too hot on either, but then I am an old man and probably too conservative for my own good. I feel in general that it's up to the individual to choose what they want to do with their bodies, but call me old fashioned.. I kind of prefer a blank canvas.

This wouldn't change my opinion on a person tho' If someone has piercings or tatts, or both It's not going to have an effect on whether or not I find them attractive..

..I know, it's a bit contradictory. Sorry!

Campion.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 08:03 PM

No worries Campion, all the internet slang gets confusing sometimes :boggled:
IRT- In Reply To or In Regards To

Thank you guys for the jewelry answers ^_^

Trina: See my last post in the ladies' thread for my opinion on piercings and tattoos >_>

Roxie

01-14-2007, 08:04 PM

Piercings are cool....execpt for that beauty mark one. I hate, HATE (and that is not a word I use much) that piercing with a fierce burning passion.

My roomate got one and I almost stopped talking to her. I don't know what it is, I can't explain it. But it kills me inside to see it on anyone's face.

Also, I don't like so many piercings to where someone begins to look like swiss cheese.

Ceirnian

01-14-2007, 08:13 PM

I greatly dislike tattoos, and I have a slight dislike to piercings. Earrings on lower portion of ear is fine, but the rest generally looks unattractive to me. There may be one exception, but It'll be awhile before I find out. Whenever I see tattoos I can't help but think that the woman is disrespecting her body, and it's not very 'lady' like. This loops around to something said earlier...

I heavily prefer a lady over a 'slut'. I have no interest in taking a woman to bed right away, I feel that months should pass at least before reaching that level of commitment. Loyalty is such a huge thing to me as well, and a slut is much more likely to betray that than a classy woman.

Question for women: What type of period control product do you prefer? Tampons / wings / whatever else is used to deal with it. Also, please add a brief explanation as to why you prefer it and what said product is.

[edit] It's ok Campion, I'll be in the old-fashioned crowd with you.

Roxie

01-14-2007, 08:21 PM

Question for women: What type of period control product do you prefer? Tampons / wings / whatever else is used to deal with it. Also, please add a brief explanation as to why you prefer it and what said product is.

I prefer Insteads. http://oochi.biz/instead/public/

While they maybe messy to retrieve after use and take a few tries to get it right, they are worth it. You can wear insteads for 12 hours (b/c it collects, not absorbs)--b/c insteads stops the blood from hitting the air, there's no odor--no skin irritation--no fear of toxic shock (plus there's bleach in tampons!)--you can have sex with them in.

They're great.

Also, midol is good for everything else.
And chocolate. Chocolate makes everything better.

NERD

01-14-2007, 08:28 PM

I hate tattoos/piercings on anyone. I find it very distracting, especially when I see a pretty girl who has one too many piercings on her face, I can't help but think 'WHY?!'

I'd consider a watch as a jewelry for men, and some of them have enough bling on them to qualify as one. If I wore jewelry, a watch would be one, but no more. I tend to lose/forget about those things easily.

Random

01-14-2007, 08:31 PM

I'm fine with ear piercings - but generally only the ear lobe, and just something small, not (as previously mentioned) a giant hoop or similar. Same for belly button piercings, with something small they can look great, but it's easy to make them look not so great.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 08:34 PM

I agree with the guys on the piercings, but then again, maybe I'm old fashioned like them too? :P I just hate seeing all these young beautiful girls with a bunch of piercings or tattoos (unless the tat is in a "non-sexual" place and has some kind of meaning to them, like Lisa said in the ladies thread), it just looks....trashy IMO (ears pierced or even a little stud in the nose is ok though, belly button is the worst spot...well...one of them).

As for feminine products....we've talked enough about them in the ladies' thread and I will keep my preferences in the ladies' thread (find it if you really wish to know, there are just certain topics that need to stay there, this is one of them :P)

NERD

01-14-2007, 08:41 PM

The worst kind of tattoo on girls is right above their butts- it looks so trashy, if a girl had one her impression on me will suffer. If the tattoo is not too big, has a meaning/the girl actually knows what it means (instead of some Chinese biggerish) I am willing to accept that.

I guess I am the more conservative about this topic though.

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 08:42 PM

Stephy

01-14-2007, 08:48 PM

IRT (in response to) the topic about tattoos and piercings:

I don't like tattoos, but don't really mind if other people got them, I just don't like them very much. Though some are cool to look at and some are really creative or pretty!

Piercings are okay depending on location and how many. Ears, tongue, and tummy, are so common that I am so used to it so it's not awful or outrageous to me and seems pretty fine these days. I don't mind face piercings like nose or lips. (I wouldn't like anything besides tummy and ears for myself though.) Other piercing are just "meh". I don't mind them, but I don't exactly like them much either. But I don't think its disrepecting their body or making them 'bad' for it. Just another jewelry to try and accentuate that part of the body. A piercing won't change a person's morals...

I think piercings look better on guys actually. Looks cooler.

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 08:49 PM

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 08:52 PM

Ceirnian

01-14-2007, 08:52 PM

(In response to Saitou) Yes, but it's associated with women showing off their belly button piercings by wearing 'slutty' clothing. It's not an absolute, but it still happens.

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 08:55 PM

(In response to Saitou) Yes, but it's associated with women showing off their belly button piercings by wearing 'slutty' clothing. It's not an absolute, but it still happens.
Boohoo, I say, boohoo.

You can show of a cute belly piercing without going to far. But I agree, and they should also stop showing of their slutty knees and ankles as well!

Stephy

01-14-2007, 08:59 PM

I don't know... earrings don't have the same 'taboo-ish' charge like a piercing somewhere else does. I figure an ear piercing is a means to wearing jewelry. A bellybutton piercing is more to have a hole put there with a piece of metal in it. I personally don't see a piercing as jewelry...more like a statement. I dunno, hard to explain.

Whether its the ear, tummy, lips, eyebrow or whatever its all a hole... with a jewel in it. So comparing the ear and tummy and saying its different, is silly. Both are holes meant to have a sort of jewelry sort to it. Its the same really. :P

But I think I know what you mean, Matt. :)

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 08:59 PM

I guess it's also a matter of personal preference. I personally think a bellybutton piercing would ruin a beautiful belly. And i'd be scared i'd accidentally get something caught behind the piercing :O

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 08:59 PM

I personally don't see a piercing as jewelry...more like a statement. I dunno, hard to explain.

What you see it as is fine and dandy, but judging someone just because they have a piercing due to your preconceived notions about the item is silly. I don't see you as the type to do that, but I'm sure there are many that do. Also, whether you consider it jewellery or not does not change the fact that it is jewellery.

What if someone wore something like this in their ear (minus the bar, of course, and plus whatever lets them wear it in their ear)?:

http://www.bodycandy.com/mas_assets/mid/16222.jpg

Jewellery, right? Putting it in your belly button doesn't change what it is.

Yes, but it's associated with women trying to justify showing off their belly button piercings by wearing 'slutty' clothing. It's not an absolute, but it still happens.

So people should dislike the action of wearing "slutty" clothing, rather than the belly button piercing.

Ceirnian

01-14-2007, 09:01 PM

Boohoo, I say, boohoo.

You can show of a cute belly piercing without going to far. But I agree, and they should also stop showing of their slutty knees and ankles as well!

'can' happens to be the keyword here. It's not an absolute as I said before.

[edit] Not only that Saitou, but it's just that I don't find belly button piercings attractive. Maybe it's because I grew up in a fairly conservative way? Who knows.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 09:01 PM

I think it's silly to say getting an inanimate object in some places is more slutty or sexual than an ear-piercing. It's how the person acts, not just the action of getting a piercing. Ears are erogenous zones for most people, mind you, so they should be of a more sexual physical nature than belly button piercings, if you're going to think that way. ;)
Remember, these are just opinions, doesn't necessarily mean we actually think that the person is a slut/trashy.
Also, tattoos on the lower back aren't called "tramp stamps" for nothing :watson:
I'm not opposed to people getting piercings or tats if that's what they really want. It's their body and if that makes them happy, then hey, go for it! I just personally would never get one (more than my ears pierced) because of what I view them as. On guys, they tend to be a turn off for me.
And like Meneer said, there's something not as taboo about having your ears pierced (for a girl)

Also, I'm not saying that it's right, but people in general DO judge you by your appearance and piercings/tats can say a lot about a person and how you pottray yourself to the world. Again, just my opinion, not saying it's wrong or right, just what I think.

Stephy

01-14-2007, 09:04 PM

And i'd be scared i'd accidentally get something caught behind the piercing :O
That's something I get scared of too! >_<; But that can also happen to the ear. Any piercing.

Trinadad

01-14-2007, 09:06 PM

That's something I get scared of too! >_<; But that can also happen to the ear. Any piercing.

Yeah, and I can tell you, it does. I've bled so much from my ears, it's insane.

Stephy

01-14-2007, 09:08 PM

Yeah, its happened to me before. Don't babysit babies with earrings on. x_x

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 09:09 PM

I know it's just your opinion, Shan, just like I was only giving my opinion; just like I'm saying it's silly to judge people based on their appearance without getting to know them, or thinking a piercing will change someone. You have your opinions on why people get piercings, but try to keep your mind open that not everyone is getting it as an easy excuse to show their midriffs to the world. The stigma of piercings should not carry with someone unless they're doing the rest of the act that you dislike as well. A piercing is a piercing, and dressing with an uncovered tummy, piercing or not, is dressing with an uncovered tummy. Separate things.

Shamu

01-14-2007, 09:12 PM

snip
Of course I try and keep an open mind, otherwise I'd be calling Stephanie a trashy slut (since she just got her belly button pierced, which she knows I don't approve of, but it's her body), and while we all know she's a tease, we know she's not a trashy slut ;)

Ceirnian

01-14-2007, 09:12 PM

Well to be completely blunt, when I walk by a guy wearing ghetto looking clothes in the middle of the night (hell even in the day) I tense up abit more just in case I have to defend myself. On the flip side, if I walk by a guy wearing classy clothing I wouldn't do that. Why? Because people judge by appearance constantly.

If I saw an attractive woman with lots of piercings and maybe a tattoo I'd look down on it and not give her a second thought (unless I got to know her). If I saw the same woman with just earrings, I would pay more attention to her.

Simple as that. Appearance means a lot, just because some don't want to accept doesn't mean the stereotypes will go away. Also keep in mind that this is based off the first thought that comes to mind. No I'm not going to think a friend of mine who gets piercings is a slut, but if it's someone I don't know that will probably be my default thought until proven otherwise.

RandomPasserby

01-14-2007, 09:14 PM

I think belly button piercings and lower back tattoos on guys is same as having a taattoo on your bicep or an ear ring!

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 09:15 PM

The fact that you "don't approve" of it goes on to show that you are still carrying the stigma over to someone you've known for a long time already, and that you know isn't a "trashy slut". You don't like piercings because you say girls like that get them, so when a girl not like that gets one, what's the problem? You're still associating the action of piercing with "slutty" actions; it's like saying that since a guy gets an earring on his right ear, he must go and have sex with men as was the stereotype recently.

Ceirnian

01-14-2007, 09:18 PM

Yes, and yet this has been ingrained in my mind to the point that I think said piercings are unattractive. Logic isn't going to magically make me break that line of thinking, a girl who has those piercings and acts with some class will be the one to do it. I do agree with you though, it's abit silly since it's a cultural thing.

Duke Luke of Juke

01-14-2007, 09:20 PM

I don't like facial piercings or tattoos on girls too much. But then again, it doesn't make me look down upon, or think poorly of the girl. I just kind of think, "Jeeeeesh, you don't need all that." And when I tell a girl who has those things that (which I oft do, because I have a loud mouth IRL, and on-line too, I imagine), they usually tell me to stuff it, and then we get on with other things.

Ceirnian

01-14-2007, 09:21 PM

Wouldn't "Jeeeeesh, you don't need all that." and saying it be a form of looking down on them? At least in my book it is.

Duke Luke of Juke

01-14-2007, 09:23 PM

Wouldn't "Jeeeeesh, you don't need all that." and saying it be a form of looking down on them? At least in my book it is.
No, it'd be a form of saying they're beautiful already, they don't need facial accessories.

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 09:28 PM

When someone i know gets a piercing, it doesn't change my opinion of that person. It also doesn't change the fact i don't think piercings are attractive. I can't simply turn of something subjective like that. But again, to each his own.

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 09:31 PM

I'm currently also of the opinion that labret piercings are hot to trot.

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 09:31 PM

Yeah, that's fine that you don't think the piercings are attractive. There's a difference between thinking they're attractive and thinking the girls that get them are sluts, though.

Soli

01-14-2007, 09:36 PM

Meneer: I agree with about what you said with piercings:

I don't know... earrings don't have the same 'taboo-ish' charge like a piercing somewhere else does. I figure an ear piercing is a means to wearing jewelry. A bellybutton piercing is more to have a hole put there with a piece of metal in it. I personally don't see a piercing as jewelry...more like a statement. I dunno, hard to explain.

Earrings are more "normal" They're common and aren't considered a big deal. Babies even get them. :P But belly buttons and noses and stuff are more "grown-up". You don't see many elementary girls getting their belly buttons pierced. But tons of little girls get their ears done.

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 09:47 PM

Yeah, that's fine that you don't think the piercings are attractive. There's a difference between thinking they're attractive and thinking the girls that get them are sluts, though.

But you do form an opinion where you attach a type of person to something.

For example: Take a hairband, you'd expect to see them on a girls head. but if you see them on a boys head you are surprised. If my dad would wear a hairband, i would certainly be surprised he'd have one...but he'd still be the dad i know. I still wouldn't think boys should wear hairbands. I know this is a crude example, but i'm hoping to make it more clear what i mean that way.

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 09:48 PM

POOKAS LIST OF APPROVED AND DISAPPROVED PIERCINGS.

This list can be considered definitive and the final word:

Approved and hot:
Ears
Eyebrows
Bellys
Labrets, either centred or off centred
Tongues
Upper neck or small of back

Borderline:
Nose

Not hot or approved:
Nipples on either gender
Genetalia
Bellies if you have a larger stomach

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 09:51 PM

But you do form an opinion where you attach a type of person to something.

For example: Take a hairband, you'd expect to see them on a girls head. but if you see them on a boys head you are surprised. If my dad would wear a hairband, i would certainly be surprised he'd have one...but he'd still be the dad i know. I still wouldn't think boys should wear hairbands. I know this is a crude example, but i'm hoping to make it more clear what i mean that way.
My brother wore headbands for half his final year of high school. My brother is also a soldier and likely 10 times larger than me or you. he'd like to have words with you.

Also, lots of Islander type guys down this way wear headbands. So I don't see your point.

And Soli: Elemenetary schoolgirls shouldn't be getting piercings, full stop, IMO. More as a saftey/health thing than any moralistic nonsense. But over ehre, which does have a much more summery/beach culture its quite common for 14 year old girls to have a pierced belly.

Jetsetlemming

01-14-2007, 09:52 PM

I like piercings. Ears, belly buttons, nose, lips. As long as it's not huge, I like it. It IS a sort of statement, especially since most people look down on things like those (especially the nose and lip). I'm a fan of people going against social rules. :) Along with this, I don't at all mind jewelry on girls, as long as it's not the huge distracting hood ornament type deals. Personally, I have a simple silver necklace I wear, that used to have a celtic cross on it (the cross fell off while I was doing something immoral in a church. I take this as a sign.). I keep my necklace for sentimental reasons, really. I wear it under my shirt so it's hardly ever seen. *shrug* Don't think I'd wear anything else.
Not so much things like earbrows and nipples and all the other things that can be pierced. >_>; And it's always a good thing to know when to take them out so they don't become a problem.
Tattoos remind me of scars for some reason. :box: Dunno why.

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 09:53 PM

I think my language skills failed me there...I mean something like this, a plastic bow, Allthough the fabric one isn't worn by men here usually, it does happen

http://imagebank.ipcmedia.com/imageBank/cache/h/hairband,-outfit1_e_5c22841b6ab94b18630aa2004b44d40e.jpg

Jetsetlemming

01-14-2007, 09:55 PM

I see more of those things with cat ears on them than anything anymore, Meener. >_>;

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 09:57 PM

Thats what I mean as well :D

My brother used them to keep his dreads out of his face.

The islander boys do the same to keep big afro style hair down. White plastic headbands are quite common.

And I'm sure as hell not tellin' thos boys that they shouldn't wear them. They are like 20x bigger than my brother. Who is 10x bigger than you.

Soli

01-14-2007, 09:57 PM

And Soli: Elemenetary schoolgirls shouldn't be getting piercings, full stop, IMO. More as a saftey/health thing than any moralistic nonsense. But over ehre, which does have a much more summery/beach culture its quite common for 14 year old girls to have a pierced belly.

I got my ears pierced when I was in 4th grade. Elementay/Jr. High is the age where girls get them here. Althought a lot already have their ears done because of their parents when they were babies.

Stephy

01-14-2007, 09:58 PM

People wear those still, Meneer? haha those are so .. yucky...

MeneerDijk

01-14-2007, 09:59 PM

ok....culture shock.... For the sake of the discussion: plastic bows are usually worn by women in the Netherlands. I don't condemn Australian culture in any way.....weirdos >>

PopCulturePooka

01-14-2007, 10:02 PM

People wear those still, Meneer? haha those are so .. yucky...
Yes steph, 6'4" pacific islanders wear them still. And red means they are Bloods!

Soli: WHy though? why pierce a babys ear? Mutilating much? Not quite circumcision level mutilation, but gah, pointless.

Stephy

01-14-2007, 10:12 PM

I have a question for the guys. For a change in topic:

Why do guys dislike being called 'cute'? Not all (I know fufu has told me he doesn't mind), but some guys I know HATE it. I don't why. O.o

jihei18

01-14-2007, 10:12 PM

I had my ears pierced when I was a baby-a toddler actually. I can't remember it (which I think was the whole point of getting it done so early), but apparantly, I did not appreciate the pain my Godfather put me through, and did not speak to him for weeks. He then tried to get into my good graces by buying me presents. I still have a baby bracelet from that incident!

And anytime I see a boy in a bandeau, I think "so hot!" I think only guys who can pull off the look wear it in the US.

Saitou Hajime

01-14-2007, 10:13 PM

Hm, most of the time I think guys just act like they don't like it, but really don't mind at all. Just one more way to be "cute", "I'm not cute, don't call me that!" "AWWW so cute."

The guys that actually do get offended by it would probably rather be called "hot".

NERD

01-14-2007, 10:15 PM

Saitou-

don't be so daft. People always form an impression of someone based on their looks, it's just that some people tend to have certain reservations/preferences on the style they dress, the type of piercings/tattoos they have on their body, etc. I mean, people want to act as if those appearances don't affect their opinion on someone, but face it, we all do that to a certain degree. Like people will shun people dressed in certain way, be that Goth/emo/preppy/hip-hop, etc, I happen to have the same reservation about certain areas people tattoo or pierce.

Of course, if such impressions stopped me from interacting with people, or affect my judgment to the degree that I shun them, therein lies the problem, but I don't, or at least try to stay neutral about making that impression stick.

Maybe I should've said that I tend to think they look slutty/trashy, though from my personal experiences slutty/trashy girls come in different shapes and sizes. A good number of them had the 'tramp stamp' which probably influenced my opinion in the matter.

RandomPasserby

01-14-2007, 10:15 PM

Soli

01-14-2007, 10:22 PM

Soli: WHy though? why pierce a babys ear? Mutilating much? Not quite circumcision level mutilation, but gah, pointless.

Why dress baby girls in pretty clothing? Why buy them cute little baby shoes when they can't even walk yet? Why do some parents grow their daughter's hair long to put little hair clips in it? Because it's pretty.

I don't think it's mutilation at all! If you take the earing out, the hole closes up and (usually) there's nothing left there. It doesn't even hurt when you do it. The dictionary definition is: to injure, disfigure, or make imperfect by removing or irreparably damaging parts. It doesn't disfigure the baby, and is repairable.

Most girls have their ears pierced (or at least where I am- don't say that you know plenty of girls who don't have their ears pierced. There's always an exception to the rule and I already know that.)

Some parents have their babies ears pierced because they don't have to worry about the daughter wanting them when they're older. They'd have to wonder if the girl is ready for the responsibility of taking care of it.

(Steph: Sorry! I'm posting this after the change of topic. :x)

Stephy

01-14-2007, 10:24 PM

I was trying to change the topic! dummies! >:\ (except soli cause she said sorry <3)

NERD

01-14-2007, 10:26 PM

I have a question for the guys. For a change in topic:

Why do guys dislike being called 'cute'? Not all (I know fufu has told me he doesn't mind), but some guys I know HATE it. I don't why. O.o

That topic came up before, and I agree that 'cute' outweighs being called 'ugly'. I suppose most men want to be seen as someone tough and manly before girls, so the word cute, which can be attached to kittens, puppies and 'girly' stuff would offend them.

If a guy would have to choose between looking like a 'homosexual' or a 'metrosexual', they will all choose metrosexual, though they would hate that label as well.

Jetsetlemming

01-14-2007, 10:36 PM

So, do people think guys with tramp stamps and/or belly button piercings are hot , beautiful or freaks? I think JSL and PCP said both are hot without saying those are only for girls. I personally think they are kinda like feather boas on guys!
The only times I care about the looks of a guy is if he looks like he's about to throw up on me, pick a fight, or mess with a friend of mine.
Preferences in appearances for me are about girls by default unless otherwise noted.

Loc

01-15-2007, 12:28 AM

Calling a guy "cute" can be interpreted as them being girly/childlike. Basically what NERD has said, actually.

S'pose it's similar to girls not wanting to be called "hot" as they associate it with being slutty or whatever.

Campion

01-15-2007, 03:24 AM

Why do guys dislike being called 'cute'? Not all (I know fufu has told me he doesn't mind), but some guys I know HATE it. I don't why. O.o

Actually the ladies at work call me 'cutie', but that's just used as a generic greeting to all the guys at work, like 'Hey Cutie!' I don't find that offensive..

..but then these days I'll take any compliment I can get!

Campion.

Dead Sexy Vocab

01-15-2007, 03:37 AM

When guys are called cute, especially for me, it feels like I'm being identified as one of those plushy Teenie Beanie Babies girls would cuddle beside them when they sleep.

It may sounds nice, but it's not that tough-knight-in-shining-armour us males are personifying to be.

... thank you, thesaurus.com!

01-15-2007, 03:44 AM

Dear Delen,

Gee.

How could I, a "completely illogical being" possibly answer such a question that was birthed of pure, unequivical logic?

Further, if I was logical being, I would say that you could go sit on it and twist. Why would anyone help someone who's insulted them? Moreover, a logical being would say it isn't a smart thing to do...espcially if those you ask are the have the key to what you seek.

Damn this thread moves fast. Anyways, I did not say that all women were illogical. If you looked at my second sentence I asked where I could find a girl that was logical. This would imply that I believe at least some exist. You seem to take a light hearted comment as some sort of personal insult. Now, this being written commication it is harder to convey the tone behind one's words. Also, you do not know me very well and you may not have picked up on the light hearted nature of most of my posts. Even so, if I indeed was trying to insult you wouldn't I have been more direct? For example lets start with the fact that I have red hair. If someone made a post stating that all red haired people are selfish I would not take this as an insult. This person does not know me and therefor could not logicly conclude that I was selfish. Even if I though they were being completely serious their comment would be in no way insulting to me.

You are correct in the fact that my original post was not worded in a way to get many serious responses. That was never it's intent and I am sorry if you were in some way insulted by it.

Now, while my orignal post was a broad generalization, I do find myself to be much more logical than the general population. Normally this would lead to many day to day frustrations. However, I have chosen to simply not care about most things so that I can live my life in general hapiness. Whether this is the correct choice is certainly debatable.

Campion

01-15-2007, 04:08 AM

Another question for the Ladies:

Why do you guys like dancing so much? With your men I mean.. I can't dance at all, yet I often wind up on the dancefloor making a right idiot of myself because she wants to dance.. Is it romantic to dance with your guy even if he has two left feet?

Campion.

PopCulturePooka

01-15-2007, 09:56 AM

Why dress baby girls in pretty clothing? Why buy them cute little baby shoes when they can't even walk yet? Why do some parents grow their daughter's hair long to put little hair clips in it? Because it's pretty. If my future wife and I think a nice angel tatto will be cute on our bubs that would be ok as well right?

You know, who cares that it's painful (JH's post), its CUTE.

This is a worse excuse than arabs who mutilate their daughters under the guise of religion, or Jews who do it under the guise of cleanliness. Its causing a child pain for the sake of CUTE?

But then, western culture spawned child beauty paegents.

I don't think it's mutilation at all! If you take the earing out, the hole closes up and (usually) there's nothing left there. It doesn't even hurt when you do it. The dictionary definition is: to injure, disfigure, or make imperfect by removing or irreparably damaging parts. It doesn't disfigure the baby, and is repairable.

JH's hurt, enough that she was angry at her godfather. Theres no REASON to do it, beyond some vapid concept of 'pretty'. Wait till the girls old enough to decide herself I say.

Some parents have their babies ears pierced because they don't have to worry about the daughter wanting them when they're older. They'd have to wonder if the girl is ready for the responsibility of taking care of it.

Whats to worry about it? Its CUTE!!!!!!! KAWAIII!!!!

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 11:44 AM

I don't mean this as bad as it sounds, but if you can say a person "looks slutty" because they have piercings or tattoos in certain places, I can say people certain people "look slutty" because they stand nearly naked in pictures in the "Best body on OP9" thread.

I'm never gonna understand why tasteful tattoos give people bad impressions. I have a small tattoo right about my ass that I designed, in Japanese. I got my nose peirced because it's cute and it makes my nose look smaller. I'm getting my lip done because I think it looks good, and it will make my lips look bigger. I would never wear the piercings to my job or have a tattoo that showed when I was in normal clothing.

I don't know what bothers me most... the fact that some of you go out and see people with peircings and tattoos and automatically think, hey, they must be a little slutty... or the fact that now that I've posted about my tattoo's/piercings, someone on this board is gonna think differently about me.

Oh well, nothing personal, right?

AgentOrange

01-15-2007, 11:53 AM

I can say people certain people "look slutty" because they stand nearly naked in pictures in the "Best body on OP9" thread.

Ha, I'm such a slut.

PopCulturePooka

01-15-2007, 12:19 PM

I still can't fathom HOW a belly piercing, or even a normal tat makes a girl slutty or casts any type of dispersion about her character beyond the name callers own rather fucked up beliefs, which should rather be considiered moot.

Shamu

01-15-2007, 01:48 PM

*sigh* We'll all have different opinions and can we just leave it at that? Obviously (and I can't believe I'm the one saying this, since I'm more sensitive than all of you combined and tend to take things personally >_>) some of you took it to heart when some of us said we didn't like tattoos and piercings and had a certain stigma attached to it. I personally was not calling anyone on the boards a slut or trashy for having piercings or tattoos. I apologize if anyone was THAT offended by it. Like I said in the ladies' thread, if they make you happy and you like them, go for it! It's not my body and honestly, what do you care if some people over the internet don't like them or not? Or Neko, we can just both agree that both of us look slutty. J/K :P Can we let the subject of piercings and tattoos die now?

IRT Campion: Dancing can be fun! It can be romantic to dance with your guy, especially if it's a slow dance. I especially like salsa dancing with my brother, he's really good at it and makes it a blast to dance. But I like dancing even if the guy isn't that good at it. If he tries and puts a bit of effort into it, that's all that matters to me ^_^

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 01:52 PM

Or Neko, we can just both agree that both of us look slutty.

Yes... agreed.

MeneerDijk

01-15-2007, 02:11 PM

Yes let's stick to the thread topic. Arguing over opinions doesn't work on the internet. If you feel offended by someone don't return with personal insults 4letterwords. Either ignore it or pm the person in question.

Question for the girls: How do you decide on what to carry in your purse, and how come there's always more in there than allowed by the laws of nature :D

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 02:29 PM

What bothers you most, Meneer? The fact that I'm arguing, or who I'm arguing with? Shannon and I worked it out ourselves so please use the big brother Mod act where it's needed.

MeneerDijk

01-15-2007, 02:33 PM

I felt like i had to pitch in my 2 cents for future reference. I like doing that, makes me feel usefull.

Noone likes the mod *cries*

Soli

01-15-2007, 02:35 PM

Pooka: I'm not trying to defend baby piercings! Here's where I first mentioned it:

Earrings are more "normal" They're common and aren't considered a big deal. Babies even get them. But belly buttons and noses and stuff are more "grown-up". You don't see many elementary girls getting their belly buttons pierced. But tons of little girls get their ears done.

The point of saying that babies even get earrings was to show how common earrings are compared to belly rings or something. I was agreeing with what Meneer said "earrings don't have the same 'taboo-ish' charge like a piercing somewhere else does."

Earrings are considered a normal place to pierce, where belly buttons and noses aren't as much. That's all I was trying to say. :)

(P.S. If you want to reply, please do it in PMs. I don't want to fill up this thread with argumenting. ^^ We've changed topic anyways. Sorry Steph, again! eek)

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 02:43 PM

I like you just fine, Meneer. But there are bigger fish to fry than Shammy and me.

gentlemanandscholar

01-15-2007, 05:51 PM

Stephy

01-15-2007, 07:34 PM

Why do you guys like dancing so much? With your men I mean.. I can't dance at all, yet I often wind up on the dancefloor making a right idiot of myself because she wants to dance.. Is it romantic to dance with your guy even if he has two left feet?

Hm.. I don't know. :blank: I thought guys liked to dance too. O.o

I love dancing. LOVE it. I dance pretty well too. Not too good at the slow or romantic dances, mostly because I never let a person close enough to me to dance or learn to dance that way.

No idea! It's just fun and it could be a work out! :D

MeneerDijk

01-15-2007, 07:54 PM

Still no answer on my question :(

for the girls: How do you decide on what to carry in your purse, and how come there's always more in there than allowed by the laws of nature

Stephy

01-15-2007, 08:02 PM

Oh!! I would have answered that Matt, but I don't carry around a purse XD.

Lisa M

01-15-2007, 08:38 PM

For the purses thing...

lots and lots of practice.

Trinadad

01-15-2007, 08:51 PM

For the purse thing: Whatever I use a lot, or sometimes specific things depending on the occasion. Like, I'll always have my wallet, phone, chapstick and mp3 player. But if I know I'm going somewhere nice, I'll stick in some makeup and my camera or something.

It really depends.

ellie

01-15-2007, 09:14 PM

I always have my wallet, at least 2 different kinds of lip gloss, and my phone. And then I usually also have assorted random items as well. Usually a handful of change, a wine opener (we have to have one at work so I usually just carry it around with me so I don't forget it), hand sanitizer, gum, Midol/tylenol/or some other painkiller, and pens. And sometimes I have ridiculous items for no apparent reason, like action figures, food, or CDs.

Cherub Rock

01-15-2007, 09:19 PM

I wore a jacket I hadn't worn since junior high the other day and pulled out a half-eaten bag of skittles. Still tasty!

seiji

01-15-2007, 10:21 PM

I hate dancing. =/

In my purse, I always carry: wallet, phone, planner (for school), pen, digital camera (holdover from Japan, and I still do use it), chapstick (very dry lips), hand sanitizer, and tissues (also from Japan, and a thing never to be without). Add things like pencils, mp3 player, makeup (lol right), water bottle, snacks as necessary. I overpack for everything. :D

Campion

01-15-2007, 10:24 PM

Two Questions for the Ladies:

What is the worst thing a guy can do when you're having a bad day?

What is the best thing a guy can do in the same situation?

Campion.

Lisa M

01-15-2007, 10:32 PM

Campion - depends on the girl.

Campion

01-15-2007, 10:46 PM

Campion - depends on the girl.

You're absolutely right.. I just reversed the question in my head and I could see it made no sense.. Sorry!

I'll get m'coat!

Campion.

Random

01-15-2007, 10:55 PM

Campion: so add "for you" to the end of your question ;p

The Divine Comedy

01-15-2007, 10:56 PM

Matt: I think some of it might come from the same "always be prepared" mentality as Boy Scouts. Who knows when you might need an extra pen/tissue/mint/laser gun/etc?

Question for the guys: What do you all like to do on dates?

Nights_into_dreams

01-15-2007, 11:00 PM

The Divine Comedy

01-15-2007, 11:03 PM

Thank you for your incredibly helpful answer, Nights. ;P

But, really, I was asking more for specifics. Like what kinds of things do you wish that your gf/so/etc would agree to doing on your dates?

Campion

01-15-2007, 11:08 PM

Campion: so add "for you" to the end of your question ;p

Thanks Random.. I think I was just being a bit slow there actually.. It takes us old timers some time to get going in the evening! :duh:

Question for the guys: What do you all like to do on dates?

I like the old fashioned things, so.. Nice restaurant (and I think the gentleman should pay! As far as I'm concerned the Dutch are a people not a payment method :frypan: )

Then a movie or a show.. The west end's usually got some good ones going and finish off at a coffee house and chat into the small hours.

Campion.

PopCulturePooka

01-15-2007, 11:12 PM

Thank you for your incredibly helpful answer, Nights. ;P

But, really, I was asking more for specifics. Like what kinds of things do you wish that your gf/so/etc would agree to doing on your dates?
Steak, beer, blowjobs. In that order.

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 11:19 PM

In my purse right now, I have my makeup bag, 2 cell phones, wallet, APPLE XYLITOL GUM (yummy), my electronic dictionary, tons of free tissues, and unfortunately, my eyeliner pencil has opened and there are little pencil shavings on the bottom of my purse... sad.

--------------
As for the bad day thing, anything that will make that bad day worse... to fix it? Most girls like flowers (my roomate used to pick fights with her boyfriend just so she could have flowers) and a card. I'm not even sure it's the fact that we like flowers, or the fact that we can show them off to our friends, we can also imagine you going and looking like a dork when you bought them... it's kindof a symbolic thing. For me anyway.

My question: (this might only be for Japanese guys, i dunno) Why do you always say 2 good things and one 'meh' thing... for example... "Have you lost weight? You look amazing! Didn't spend much time on your thighs though did you..." or "You're so sweet, I love you so much... sometimes you're kindof a bitch though."
(*&#$(*@&$#@*^

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 11:20 PM

Steak, beer, blowjobs. In that order.

What about all at once? She cooks you a big sirloin, pops open a can and goes to town, all while you're watching the NBA playoffs?

Sounds like someone's birthday present to me.

PopCulturePooka

01-15-2007, 11:26 PM

What about all at once? She cooks you a big sirloin, pops open a can and goes to town, all while you're watching the NBA playoffs?

Sounds like someone's birthday present to me.
Thats lots of win right there!

In fact has anyone heard of the mens answer to Valentines day? Considering V-Day is a more girly day, a month later on March 20, the guy gets their own special day!!!

http://www.steakandbjday.com/

You know the drill. Every 14th of February you get the chance to display your fondness for a significant other by showering her with gifts, flowers, dinner, shows and any other baubles that women find romantic. Every Valentines day you rack your brains for that one special, unique gift that will show your wife or girlfriend that you really do care for them more than any other. Now ladies, I'll let you in on a little secret; guys really don't enjoy this that much. Sure seeing that smile on your face when we get it right is priceless, but that smile is the result of weeks of blood, sweat and consideration. Another secret; guys feel left out. That's right, there's no special holiday for the ladies to show their appreciation for the men in their life. Men as a whole are either too proud or too embarrassed to admit it.

Which is why a new holiday has been created.

March 14th is now officially "Steak and Blowjob Day". Simple, effective and self explanatory, this holiday has been created so you ladies finally have a day to show your man how much you care for him.

No cards, no flowers, no special nights on the town; the name of the holiday explains it all, just a steak and a BJ. Thats it. Finally, this twin pair of Valentine's Day and Steak and Blowjob Day will usher in a new age of love as men everywhere try THAT much harder in February to ensure a memorable March 14th!

The word is already beginning to spread, but as with any new idea, it needs a little push to start the ball rolling. So spread the word, and help bring love and peace to this crazy world. And, of course, steak and BJ's.

Question for the ladies. Which pussy guy will complain about this day? I think Meneer or Saitou myself! :P

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 11:37 PM

Hey, if we no longer have to find gifts and stuff for guys on V day (thats MUCH harder than finding them for girls) then I will partake in Steak and Blowjob day.
Although in Japan, it's reversed and Vday is for boys and march 14th is called White Day and its for girls, but with white chocolate.
And hey, girls like steaks and, well you know, just as much as guys do.

Jetsetlemming

01-15-2007, 11:38 PM

But, really, I was asking more for specifics. Like what kinds of things do you wish that your gf/so/etc would agree to doing on your dates?
Something fun, like going to an arcade (I really must make a note to myself to improve my DDR abilities >_>), then a small meal. Sitting down at a fancy restuarant, getting expensive food, doesn't sound all that appealing to me. The food should be an excuse to sit down and enjoy each other's company, the point shouldn't be the food itself. I think I'd prefer a small, clean diner or something. Finish the night with something relaxing, sitting in the park at night, or going for a walk around town, or going back to her place to play doctor. :D

4letterwords

01-15-2007, 11:38 PM

And as much as I don't like the phrasing of your question...

I bet they both will.

The Divine Comedy

01-15-2007, 11:42 PM

Steak, beer, blowjobs. In that order.

I think I could have figured that out, but thanks for the answer. ;)

Campion and Jet, thanks for the serious (and helpful) answers. :D

Ceirnian

01-15-2007, 11:45 PM

Question for the ladies. Which pussy guy will complain about this day? I think Meneer or Saitou myself!

You guess wrong, I object to the name of the holiday. It sounds stupid.

PopCulturePooka

01-15-2007, 11:50 PM

You guess wrong, I object to the name of the holiday. It sounds stupid.
WE HAVE A NEW CHALLENGER!!!

lol

PopCulturePooka

01-15-2007, 11:54 PM

You guess wrong, I object to the name of the holiday. It sounds stupid.
Are you vegetarian?

Ceirnian

01-16-2007, 12:25 AM

I love meat, there's nothing wrong with what is suppose to happen on the holiday. I just think the name sounds dumb. Call it something like 'Virile day' instead, it implies the same thing and sounds less crude

Jetsetlemming

01-16-2007, 12:33 AM

Hey, steak and bj day is way bigger than just pooka. It's already taken off. It's everywhere, mang. Can't change the name of it now anymore than you could change Valentine's day to something else.

Nights_into_dreams

01-16-2007, 12:34 AM

Steak, beer, blowjobs. In that order.

Reminds me of a joke I got told once :boggled:

"Which of the three don't belong: Your wife, eggs, meat, or a blowjob?"

"Answer: You can beat your wife, you can beat eggs, you can beat meat, but you can't beat a good blowjob."

X.X

Stephy

01-16-2007, 12:36 AM

Can we have useful and good posts in this section please?

Remember its GD and not RWPWs

~ mini mod Stephy :x

Oh question:

Why do guys (I know some girls do) like porn? o.O That is so gross.

Injuryprone

01-16-2007, 12:42 AM

Porn is a means to alleviate stress or sexual frustration. olol.

PopCulturePooka

01-16-2007, 12:43 AM

Can we have useful and good posts in this section please?

Remember its GD and not RWPWs This thread was doomed from its weak premise.

Why do guys (I know some girls do) like porn? o.O That is so gross.
It's going to be hard to explain it too someone who has already formed a strong opinion.

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 12:51 AM

Can we have useful and good posts in this section please?

Remember its GD and not RWPWs

~ mini mod Stephy :x

Oh question:

Why do guys (I know some girls do) like porn? o.O That is so gross.

I think it comes down to how comfortable you are with your sexuality. I don't find gay sex appealing because I'm not gay, but I would never call it 'gross'. I don't watch porn myself, but if I happened to see some on a pop up or something I wouldn't freak out because, well, it's just sex. Sex is sex. It's not gross. Not to most people in the world, anyway.
So I guess if you are having problems seeing sex, you probably have problems considering sex, having sex... (not a personal attack on you in anyway).
So my answer is, guys liking porn is completely natural. Girls liking porn is completely natural. Watching someone have a triple thick milkshake makes me want to have a triple thick milkshake. See what I'm saying? You'll be hard pressed to find a guy who doesn't like porn and if you do he's either lying or a priest (in which case his porn preferences might be switched to young boys).

Human beings are sexual beings, so porn fits in there so well.

(Hope this all made sense.)

Jetsetlemming

01-16-2007, 01:03 AM

Watching someone have a triple thick milkshake makes me want to have a triple thick milkshake. See what I'm saying?
I think a better analogy might be "I really want a triple thick milkshake but I don't have a triple thick milkshake and none of the nearby stores are willing to give me a triple thick milkshake, so I'll resort to the next best thing by watching someone ELSE eat a triple thick milkshake while pantomiming eating a triple thick milkshake with my hand".

missoprahwinfrey

01-16-2007, 01:05 AM

alright i am a senior in highschool. i have gone out with this girl i like on a fairly regular basis. i have never had a girlfriend and she has never had a boyfriend. we are not nerds or anything (actually she was homecoming queen in a school of 4500!). she is extremely religious and i am not religious at all. she always makes jokes and calls me studly and things like that. we talk almost every day even if its only for a minute or two. here is the problem (it has happened probably 3 or 4 times):
time #1- she suggested we go out to dinner on friday. i call her friday and she says i have plans can we go saturday, so we go saturday.
time #2- i asked her to go out to eat on a wednesday and she wasnt feeling good so she said i will call back tomorrow. she called me back and we made a plan to go out friday. she called me back on thursday and said i have plans friday night can we go friday morning. i agreed. she then called me back late thursday night and said she wasnt feeling well so she would sleep in. she called me every day until monday just to let me know she was still not feeling well. on monday she called and said lets hang out. so we hung out on monday.
time #3- she suggested we go out to this restaurant that is pretty far away. we planned that we would go on monday. i called her the friday before to let her know i had to work on monday but we would squeeze it in. she then called me back and said she had a lot of homework and her mom wanted her to do that. that leads me to today

I just dont understand why she would suggest we go out and then cancel.
if anyone has any ideas please help me out!!!!! thanks~!!!!

Myrsilus

01-16-2007, 01:07 AM

Either way, you're reaching some sort of satisfaction... Like if I really want a triple thick milkshake, but I can't get my triple thick... vanilla milkshake, I might go for a bowl of ice cream.

It may seem just as good, but when you crave that triple thick milkshake so strongly that it's all you can feel your taste buds yearning, it'll only do to alleviate the craving. Sometimes the only best thing is that rich, creamy, sweet triple thick milkshake. Mmm.

Stephy

01-16-2007, 01:09 AM

Why the heck are you all talking about milkshakes for? O.o

I was wondering why guys like porn not milkshakes -_-;

Just don't get the how you can watch .. strangers having sex.. ugh.. sounds disgusting.

edit: gah.. now I want ice cream >_<;

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 01:10 AM

Hungry or horny.... hungry or horny...

Injuryprone

01-16-2007, 01:14 AM

Why the heck are you all talking about milkshakes for? O.o

It is an analogy I believe.

jihei18

01-16-2007, 01:15 AM

I am eating ice cream right now....french vanilla, yum!

And watching strangers have sex = fascinating; watching someone you know have sex = disturbing!

Soli

01-16-2007, 01:16 AM

Stephy

01-16-2007, 01:19 AM

That can't possibly be true! That would be more disturbing than porn.

I got my ice cream! \o/ Wish I had chocolate fudge though <3

Jetsetlemming

01-16-2007, 01:21 AM

There's little thinking involved in a typical man's desires. >_>;

The Divine Comedy

01-16-2007, 01:26 AM

There's little thinking involved in a typical man's desires. >_>;

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hj8oLO4OztI

>_>

Fermented Yeast Paste

01-16-2007, 01:31 AM

I have a question! In math class people (including the teacher) were talking about if it's true that a male thinks of sex every 4 minutes. Do you think it's true?

(and you've all made me hungry for milkshakes too. :()
No, because it's impossible to know what anyone is actually thinking at any given time.

Stereotype and misconception. :)

Jetsetlemming

01-16-2007, 01:33 AM

Plus, how would you expect that to work?
Guy: *walks forward a few steps* *stops to think about sex* "Hm. Interesting." *walks forward a few more steps* *Stops to think about sex again*
Either we'd all be scholars on reproduction, or walk around with the front of our pants sticking out 24/7.

Saitou Hajime

01-16-2007, 01:35 AM

That would be quite uncomfortable, especially with jeans.

Soli

01-16-2007, 01:37 AM

I don't think the 4 minute thing is true either. But the some of the boys in the class said they did. >.<

Saitou Hajime

01-16-2007, 01:40 AM

Most likely their age range, with raging hormones and such.

Random

01-16-2007, 01:42 AM

remember, guys can't multitask :P

Injuryprone

01-16-2007, 01:44 AM

I have a question! In math class people (including the teacher) were talking about if it's true that a male thinks of sex every 4 minutes. Do you think it's true?
Well its not so much sex itself but sexual things I guess.
If looking at a female passerbys ass counts as thinking about something sexual I could see some validity. It is more subconscious than anything, it's not intentional.

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 01:49 AM

Girls look at other girls asses too, by the way... little known fact. Difference?

Men: *I'd tap that* or *No friggin way*
Ladies: *My ass is better than hers* *Uhg, I want her ass*

Ceirnian

01-16-2007, 01:51 AM

'I'd tap that' seems to be related to 'I want her ass'. Amirite!?

Lan

01-16-2007, 02:00 AM

I just want to add my two cents about memory.

From what I've learned in Psyc class, we tend to remember things better if we have an emotional cue. So if your friend said something to you as a joke, but you were actually hurt by it, it's likely that friend would forget it quite easily because it's not relevant to his or her state of mind but for yourself, because you had an emotional reaction, you would tend to remember that for much longer.

That'd be applicable to a lot I think.

For the scientific basis to that, they had a subject watch a video of images and try to recall them afterwards. They had another subject watch the same video but partway through, they paused it and immersed the subject's arm in ice and water. That caused a release of ... something, i"M not sure, that was similar to an emotional reaction, and her memory of the images following were much better. I hope that clears things up ;) And as my prof said, it's limited, so don't go on dunking yourself in ice water while cramming for a final =D

ellie

01-16-2007, 03:30 AM

The Divine Comedy

01-16-2007, 03:33 AM

Very good question, Ellie. *wants to know, too* :S

Kenshin

01-16-2007, 03:39 AM

...so don't go on dunking yourself in ice water while cramming for a final =DAw, I was just getting up to get ice and water, and you had to go ahead and say that. :(

Aaanyway...
Interesting topic, though I don't have any questions for the moment... I'm sure I'll come up with something later.

Jetsetlemming

01-16-2007, 04:05 AM

For Valentine's day: A guy'd probably feel pretty awkward getting anything fancy/expensive/elaborate for Valentine's. Does he have a movie he really, really loves, but doesn't have on DVD? Bonus points if it has romantic stuff in it.
Favorite band has a CD with a love song on it?
And remember, he'll always appreciate some lovin'. :P And candy!

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 04:19 AM

I am craving a Hardee's milkshake now and am seriously considering driving up the road to get one.

What are girls supposed to do for Valentine's Day for their guys? I know its basically a girl holiday, but it seems mean to expect my man to go out of his way for me and not give him anything in return. Do I get him a present? What kind of present? I've never had a serious boyfriend for this particular holiday before!

If you're looking for a present for you guy, it's gonna be hard... but I've always found that guys tend to like effort better than actual gifts. This year, I'm gonna follow Monica from friend's advice and *Cook you whatever you want in there (points to kitchen, and do whatever you want in their (points to bedroom)*. Fun for me and loads of fun for him.

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 04:20 AM

Steak and a BJ ladies... Steak and a BJ...

*Looks at Pooka*

PopCulturePooka

01-16-2007, 04:30 AM

seiji

01-16-2007, 05:06 AM

What if I have never attempted to cook a steak, but bake a mean brownie? Would he appreciate my efforts on the meat (lol innuendo) even if I messed up, or should I take the sure route?

Or does the blowjob atone for mistakes in preparing the steak? :P

Jetsetlemming

01-16-2007, 05:17 AM

Buy the steak at a restuarant, and doggy bag it. :P
And include the brownie WITH it. :D

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 09:57 AM

Get him a full steak dinner, take it home, make brownies (or cake)... get his favorite movie and while he's watching it, rub his back, and after the movie, give him a 'big finish' and then let him fall asleep.

Guarenteed his best valentines ever.

PopCulturePooka

01-16-2007, 10:47 AM

Campion

01-16-2007, 12:34 PM

In all seriousness to Ellie, I don't really think guys give a rats about Valentines day at all. The most it matters to most guys is in impressing a girl or making her happy. I don't think I've ever really cared much about valentines day after hitting adulthood.

Just have a good day yourself and be impressed by what he does for you, should suffice.

I'm with PopCulturePooka here, it's not important what you ladies do for us, but it is important the effort that we go through for you guys is appreciated.

Even if some of us are useless at buying the right gifts.. :duh:

Campion.

4letterwords

01-16-2007, 12:51 PM

^ TRUE.

When my boyfriend and I were buying gifts for our shared birthday (it's really a month apart, but we do it together anyway) he had no idea what to buy me. He went through so many ideas and they were all crap. So he demanded that from now on I have to tell him exactly what I want every holiday or I don't get anything. Sad, but it did get me Gucci Rush 2...

SlickWilly440

01-16-2007, 09:10 PM

I have a question! In math class people (including the teacher) were talking about if it's true that a male thinks of sex every 4 minutes. Do you think it's true?

I am not so sure, let me get back to you on that in 4 more minutes.

I think the frequency of that thought depends on how much stuff the guy has built up in him, and when he last released the build up. Like if a guy hasn't released in like days and days then the guy will think about it more and think more and more about depositing his build up. On the other hand once the guy makes the deposit his sense and sensibility will return and he will think less and less of it, until it builds back up.

You gettin' what I'm sayin'? I'm just tryin' to keepin' it clean.

Plekto

01-16-2007, 10:24 PM

In all seriousness to Ellie, I don't really think guys give a rats about Valentines day at all. The most it matters to most guys is in impressing a girl or making her happy. I don't think I've ever really cared much about valentines day after hitting adulthood.

Getting some is also good, you know... :yes:

Also, it's *inexperienced* guys that can't multitask.
As we get older, it's easy to do more than one thing at a time.

P.S. here's nothing WRONG with thinking about sex, you know...

Trump

01-16-2007, 10:37 PM

Well, it depends on the environment. If you are at home, watching Spike TV or something you'll think about sex pretty darn often. If you are at work sitting in a cube by yourself, scrambling to finish your work by the next day you won't think about sex very often. Walking down the beach during spring break will cause you to think about sex a lot more often. Hanging by your finger tips off the edge of a rock wall (think rock climbing/gym) will cause you to think about sex much less.