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Ardo Zubairu
09-07-2005, 06:12 PM
The society we live in today is full of memorable developments and as each day passes by things to be taking new dimensions entirely. Change they say is the law of nature that is what is taking place today. Some of these stories, when told, may seem too many as mire fiction and unbelievable. But they are true happenings in our midst these days. Some people never want to talk about such because they are either deeply involved in such practices or see nothing wrong in doing them hence such do not make ways to them.
A common character of both man and society we live in is that of competition of man always trying to put himself in a better position and struggling to enjoy the best of this world before he die. Yet another side of the competition is that which seems to be taking place among our girls with their married colleagues as regards who should own the man. Ordinarily, the man belongs to the woman he is married to. But alas, the reality today seems different.
You see, what the law of nature and the common law of the land condemns is what man seems to delight in doing .our girls are confidently going into the evil practice of overthrowing, so to say, women from their matrimonial homes and taking possession of their husbands. Have read the story of managing director whom, as a result of making love with his personal secretary in the office, had to divorce his wife with whom they had been together for twenty five years?
It is common to hear men refer to girls as “bush meat” these days. And the girls in turn call the men “big fish”. The hard times have left the girls with no choice. Anyway man who comes their way. But preferably the one who has some money on him and food at home would do for them, you see if these were restricted to unmarried young men alone, there would have been no cause of alarmed. But it becomes problematic when while the wife is anxious at home waiting for her husband to return another lady is busy sucking the best out of him in a hotel.
But who to blame in this case? The girl who is out for brisk business or the man who has shamelessly forgotten about his family responsibilities and instead goes about giving the best of himself to a girlfriend? But the rate at which this type of game is rapidly gaining ground and the staunch determination of the girls to succeed and ruin the men is a major cause for concern. Some of them do not even mind coming home with the men in the presence of their wives.
One cannot pretend to be ignorant of the fact that our girls are today extremely money conscious. Neither is one fooled in the belief that they are the salt of our society. The fact is that in whatever form they come, their practices are greatly ruining the good spirit behind many a matrimonial home. In what might seem like an example of what I am talking about, take a walk at about 6:50pm to any of the major hotels in town and see for the long queues of girls who line our streets waiting for any of the “big fish”. Not necessary with flashy car, to come along and pick them.
In those days, a man when married, no girls comes close to you and you regarded as a “sugar daddy” but today the girls have changed their attitudes toward married men. What ever the reason for this sudden change. It might not be unconnected with the hard times we are presently experiencing that leave no room for choice. But the men had forgotten that they even spend more on these girls than they do on their families. But there are even some women who have, in relations for what their husbands do. Taken to chasing other men too.
The language of friendship between any man and woman today is money. Hardly can a man stay with girl from morning to evening without hearing one complain or the other which all boil down to money.
There is a trick our girls use these days that our married women may want know about most of the ‘oga’ prefers bridging their girl friends into their offices and such would pretend waiting to see ‘oga” for serious very business matters but on entering the office, they (girls) would take a corner seat. Then, no one can actually determine what her relationship is with the oga.
For too long now they have cases of who have some men subjected their families to severe hunger by not proving food for the family yet they would go about dishing out money to their girlfriends out the family. And the girls are always determined to eat, drink and wear the “best of every good thing’ leaving the man with smiles on his face and pride instead of being ashamed.
Let us pause and think a while. You will agree with me that girls , especially those that have made up their minds not to marry but to continued to suck the man that comes their way, are planning wars to overthrow the women and bring every woman to useless position like their own. They can be very nasty. They can easily grab you by the collar of your shirt and before you know it. You are in pool of blood from broken bottles. While the women folk are struggling to make sure that they are recognized in the scheme of things in our society, they have totally forgotten that when its comes to families issues. They fare the weakest set of human beings anyone can think of at least for those of them who practice these sorts of atrocities. Any woman who sells herself for a living is abusing the dignity and integrity of man, devoid of any sentiments, the bone of contention is unruly behaviors of our girls to married colleagues.
There is no justification or pride in girl confidently going out with another woman’s husband or the pride on a man abandoning his family for some other woman. In a nutshell, the girls are today ceaselessly struggling and struggling to distract the attention of men away from families. And they seem to be winning.

Y.T.
09-07-2005, 07:44 PM
Sorry, Ardo.. but cheating is as old as marriage.
It has always been that way.
Sure, poverty and hardship often brings out
the best and the worst in people, but, it's
not something to agonize over.
Religious violence too..

Around here, people claim all the time that winters used
to be colder and so on.. but if you look at climate charts,
little changed in thirty years(in my country).

A good quotation: This is not your grandmother's world.
It never was your grandmother's world.

Anyway, what was the war with Biafra for? That's
more interesting..

Ahimsa
09-07-2005, 07:53 PM
You know, you can't entirely blame women for this.... it takes 2 to cheat. O.o

And these married men are making the conscious choice to engage in extramarrital affairs, you gotta blame their own weakness for that...he is the one who gave in to seduction. He didn't HAVE to, he CHOSE to.

Y.T.
09-07-2005, 08:07 PM
On the other hand... we all know that both Christianity & Islam (not sure about Judaism) used to look down on women. And, most sects that comprise them today still do not consider them to be equal to men in all social respects.
(like, the CC not allowing women to be priests. And, I believe, in most mohamedan communities, women are not allowed to lead the others in prayers)..
It's always easy to blame your inferiors. Hard to face the truth.
But, it's natural for men to have extramarital affairs...
(men who had lots of them in the past were more successful in having
extra descendants, thus propagating their own cheating-prone genes..)

Roxie
09-08-2005, 02:50 AM
Yeah...b/c the man was held at gunpoint while his penis mysteriously fell into that girls mouth.

:mad: NEXT!

Spydr
09-08-2005, 03:35 AM
Yeah...b/c the man was held at gunpoint while his penis mysteriously fell into that girls mouth.

:mad: NEXT!

Oh God, it's almost as if you read my book on short and blunt forum posting. Good job.

CNagy
09-08-2005, 05:11 AM
(men who had lots of them in the past were more successful in having
extra descendants, thus propagating their own cheating-prone genes..)
I'm sorry... cheating-prone genes? People are not genetically disposed towards cheating or remaining loyal. The idea of monogamy is a purely social construct (and one I believe in strongly,) so at an animal level all men are meant to impregnate as many woman as possible to carry on their genetic material. We are not simply animals, though, and to embrace such a bestial attitude towards sexuality is simply a weakness in the mind.

DrSax
09-08-2005, 05:54 AM
Have you ever read the The Tale of Genji, considered by many to be the first novel ever written? Genji is married by chapter 2 and I can't remember his wife even being mentioned in the next 300 pages of the book. During this time he lays quite a few women, to say the least. Cheating is not exactly a new thing, and it certainly not a female phenomena.

caseylim
09-08-2005, 06:35 AM
Don't care abouut what others did, just do what you think is right.

In Islam , men can have 4 wives at the same time because..
1st- to bear child
2nd- to take care of account
3rd- doing chores( the maid)
4th- for sex...

Prophet Muhammad had nine wives, 8 of em are widows the last one is a virgin.
He first married at the age 25 with his boss who's age 48.

Anyone know anything about Jesus's wives? Did jesus married?

CNagy
09-08-2005, 11:20 AM
Jesus never married, he was too busy getting it on with people's sins. Or something.

Joe
09-08-2005, 12:10 PM
Some think he married Mary Magdalen. And they had some chilluns, you can supposedly read all about it in the book "The Da Vinci Code" Ooooh! Sppoky!

Kash
09-09-2005, 12:51 PM
We are not simply animals, though, and to embrace such a bestial attitude towards sexuality is simply a weakness in the mind.

No, we are complexly animals. What one might see as a weakness in the mind, might be a strength of the flesh.

Your, relatively new, human mind wishes to place order on your ages old animal body. It often wins, but we shouldn't be surprised when it doesn't. It's also a Animal trait to find strength in ourselves and point out the weakness in others, apparently this bestial attitude goes unknoticed? It's another matter entirely for the human mind to point this intellect at ourselves. I find it's often the case that we would often do similar things in similar circumstances but prefer to look down our nose from the comfort of differning circumstances.

If you really want to get a handle on animal behavior, you need to observe the mass', and more to the point, objectively include yourself.

But to the point; It seem to me that of those that choose to get married, the behavior of the animal leans toward promiscious behavior. Often the marrage is dissolved because of this. Divorce statistics would seem to indicate this as infidelity is the leading cause of stated divorce.

If we observe lots of cheating behavior, and the divorce statistics support this, the it seems that it's a typical behavior of the animal. The weakness that is suggested seems to be rather arbitrary. The animal in question is highly prolific and adapable, no doubt it has weakness' but as to whether polyamory (or serial monogamy) is one is still open for debate. It seems to be a fairly accepted fact throughout history and common today. I'm not quite sure where "weakness" is demonstrated.

ImEllPro
09-10-2005, 02:48 AM
Men don't need to cheat if they're smart. I'm smart - I married a bisexual woman. I get to screw the same women she does. Everyone's happy.

To the original poster - so, they still cutting off women's clits and inner labia in Africa?

CNagy
09-10-2005, 04:23 AM
But to the point; It seem to me that of those that choose to get married, the behavior of the animal leans toward promiscious behavior. Often the marrage is dissolved because of this. Divorce statistics would seem to indicate this as infidelity is the leading cause of stated divorce.

If we observe lots of cheating behavior, and the divorce statistics support this, the it seems that it's a typical behavior of the animal. The weakness that is suggested seems to be rather arbitrary. The animal in question is highly prolific and adapable, no doubt it has weakness' but as to whether polyamory (or serial monogamy) is one is still open for debate. It seems to be a fairly accepted fact throughout history and common today. I'm not quite sure where "weakness" is demonstrated.

Divorce statistics are horribly misquoted. I'll let you in on the secret behind the "high divorce rate." The divorce rate is figured by the number of divorces in a given year divided by the number of marriages. The method is inherently flawed in that it the number of divorces includes marriages that have lasted anywhere from months to decades, where as the marriage rate only includes marriages in that year. So when you see a 50% divorce rate, that means that the number of divorces in any given year drawn from every marriage in the country is equal to half the number of marriages occuring in that year alone.

I think the idea of saying "we'll disapprove something but then do it ourselves" is for the weak-minded. I do not indulge in something I speak against; I have not when the opportunity has presented itself nor would I if the opportunity presented itself again. It is a matter of principle. It's a matter of control. I am in control of myself, but I hardly think that I am unique in that aspect, and thus I do look down on people who are ready with excuses for their actions.

LimbyLoo
09-10-2005, 09:42 PM
cheating-prone genes...rriiigghhhttt...

::giggle::