i think i need help =( very sad

[firaz]

1st of all, hello everyone, i am new to posting here, tho not new in reading thu Az's writing. i am chinese and from singapore, therefore my english might not be good and u might notice some of the singlish(singapore english). but nice to know everyone here ....

i think i need help... i jus duno where to turn to, and i suddenly remembered Az writings, i am a perfect failure at dating or anything even close, being 150cm dosent help, tho i have average looks , not deformed or anything. the problem is, no matter how i try, i always end up in girl's friend zone, intended or not. a few of which even says i am jus the perfect soulmate, i am so comfortable with u, i may even like u, but no, i know its not love.

at first i actually belived that, but of cos i was sad, but it jus happend to many times to be jus coincidence !! i am starting to think they are all jus bullshit. and den i read Az's editorials, it jus described me so well, always fitting into the "friend zone". i duno wat to do anymore ...

btw, i jus got rejected. from a very serious 1. =( so sad.

[Arvynia]

Hey, if you read Az's editiorials about dating or the Friendzone, or whatever, you should at least get an idea of what to do.

Seems like you read it, and then that's it. Apply some solutions to yourself - I'm sure Az had had some tips on how to play the game.

[Snake eyeS]

well it all boils down to bieng yourself, if you want a long term relation. One night stands there are millions of stereotype rules and one lines that will get you somewhere..its kind of foolish to be giving advice on that if you ask me.
But if you want a long term relation, you better start working for it.

pick a girl and make her your project, if it fails... look for another girl. << repeat till you get it right.

[nice gaijin]

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, firaz.

If you feel that your tactics are not working for you, you might want to consider what it is you are doing that might be placing you into the "friend zone." Consider your rejections as lessons instead of disappointments, and learn from what doesn't work.

[firaz]

thx ppl who cared to reply and help me .... i appreciate it... as of now... the story jus becomes even sadder... i can understand, the girl feels really happy while being with me, and i feel that too, but when it comes down to the bf thing, she jus sms'ed me, she cannot and will never be the one for me.

i jus dun understand !!! to me, its like shes not only cheating me, shes cheating herself !!!

well snake eyes, i am sad to say, i know i am only a very short guy, too short... well, girls often say height doesn't matter, tat i know, often is a lie... i am having difficulty knowing girls who can even go out with me alone without her worrying how the other people sees her being together with a short guy. so my "romances" most likey dun come easily and/or as much as the average guy .... so ... its kinda hard for me to let go .... even harder now that i belive its not that the girl is not happy with me that she rejected me... her reasons are jus .... nonsense ...

saded ... very ...