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h2orowe
09-03-2005, 09:45 AM
All right, these were copied and pasted from my Myspace blogs.
Sorry for names, too lazy to edit.

"GASP!

So, a few months ago, I was talking to my MOM (intended to be only her), about my dad. I wanted to see him again, for the first time in 8 years, and my Grandma, who I've never met. Well, like always, douchebag Phil (mom's boyfrend) butts in on the conversation. He's telling me "Oh yeah, when me and your dad were in a band, he'd just shred on guitar" I've heard this like 3000000000 times, but Phil just loves to hear himself talk.
Well, it turns into him saying, I should make my dad pay child support, because Phil won't pay for me to go to college. I said "I just want to get to know my dad, he can decide about the child support", but no, Phil has to be right no matter what.

Later on we're still talking, and than something out of nowhere comes up, "So, yeah, Pam, remember the reason Chris (my dad) doesn't come around is cuz he doesn't think Joey's his kid" I said "What the fuck?!" he said "Well, your mom got raped at this party, and he thinks that's how you were born" Wow, 14 years (at the time) of my life, and I heard none of this, I thought he didn't come around because he lived far away, but brace yourself here's a bombshell. "So, where does my "dad" live" I say, "He lives in Garden Grove, only like 2 miles from here." Phil says, and my mom was pissed that I knew this bull now.

So, my dad doesn't care, hell, I was an accident either way, but I never knew I was a rape child GASP, and I learn about it, like that?! That's fucked up! Thanks for keeping me informed mom. Phil needs to shut his mouth for once in his life." From "Asshole dads, and Mom's drunken boyfriend.

Next one is from a piece I entitled "Pa Kua-Way of the Pussy"
Hey, guys! Another rant about my mom's shitty boyfriend.

"So, who here knows what Pa Kua is? Noone, well, it's a stupid martial art that people who can't fight for themselves use. As Phil would say "It's street fighting" , that's true, if street fighting means kicking the person in the nuts and running away.

So, you ask.... what does this have to do with Phil? Well, he took it, he thinks he's the Bruce Lee of Pa Kua, and if anyone ANYONE brings up any form of martial arts, he brings up Pa Kua, and gives you a drunken lesson. He'll teach you how to strangle, kick in the nuts, move around like a drunken idiot, kick in the nuts, fight sissily, gouge peoples eyes out, kick in the nuts, and run away.

GASP! Why am I so annoyed? Because he gives me the same BS every time. SO JOEY YOU GOT IN A FIGHT, YOU USED PAKUA RIGHT? NO! WELL THAN LISTEN!

"Phil, I don't care, I fight my own way"
I KNOW BUT THIS IS USEFUL INFORMATION

"I have to go the bathroom, see you when you leave the room."

GASP! It seems like I have alot of hate for him. Why you ask? Well, I wrote a big ass blog on that and it didn't go through, because of the server thingy, and when I went back to save it :O it wasn't there! 40 minuites of useful information which explains my pissy moods gone down the Myspace crapper.

Moral of the story, Pa Kua is for people who have no honor whatsoever, who fight dirty, and who are drunk all the time (well at least Phil)."

Last is "Atheists! And how they piss me off! I also dislike Johova's witnesses, well at least the old ones" Note: I don't hate atheists, I just hate my mom's boyfriend.

"In case you haven't read any of my Quote Blogs Unquote, than you don't know who our little character Phil is. He's drunk 24/7, he's inconsiderate, he thinks he's right 100% of the time, and he's an atheist (plus he's really really loud for no reason at all)

Atheists-People who don't believe any religion is right. They don't believe in a god, or anything.

Phil- Loud ass drunk asshole, who thinks he's always right.

Mix Phil and Atheism= Someone who won't let you believe in what you want to.

He told me.... my grandma was worm food after she died. I was like 12? I think. He told me my uncle was worm food when he died..... I was 12.

I said, "No! They're in heaven", he says "ARE YOU FUCKING DUMB?! THEY'RE DEAD NOTHING BUT A ROTTING CORPSE IN THE GROUND, THEY'RE DEAD, THEY'RE WORM FOOD"

GASP! What an asshole you say?

Well, since Atheism is no religion, there are no rules. He checks out 14 year old girls, without any guilt GASP! What a sicko you say?! He's strangled me and hit my mom a few times! GASP! Why don't you move out?! Because we have nowhere else to go that we can be a "Family Unit".

He drinks from 5:30 AM, to whenever he passes out. He goes to work drunk, he drives drunk (but he won't allow our guests to do so, even if it means my cousin sleeping on the floor.), he believes in hitting his kids (Except for the few times he's gotten me and my mom, if he ever did it again, he'll be in a grave sooner than you can say PHIL'S AN ASSHOLE. God, I love my cousins, and brother.), and the only thing he condemns.......

DRUM ROLL SUCKA!

Stealing. That's right, he doesn't give a fuck about anything, but if you steal something that his drunken ass money earned, he'll be pissed.

Why is he atheist? Because he likes to sound smart. "Man created god to explain himself" now imagine that drunken and slurred.

IM A GIANT ASSHOLE WHO FEELS NO REMORSE FOR ANYTHING

He'll laugh at us if we cry, for like family deaths. Well he doesn't laugh, but he says asshole remarks "Joey, you didn't cry? Hahahaha, glad to see someones not a pussy in your family!"

Why'd we even move in with him, or have him around the famiily?! Because my mom was lonely, and he was different in the begining. Gasp! he changed! What a surprise! I hate this fucker! I've had countless dreams of stabbing him, ripping his heart out, bashing his skull in, and doing any other thing to at least give him a feel of the pain he's inflicted onto our family.

Rowe Family=Close

Rowe Family plus Phil= OMG I HAVENT SEEN SOME OF MY COUSINS IN 2 YEARS!"


I hate him so much, and there are other reasons too, I'll write about them later.


Edit: I forgot to put, the name of the thread, is from a Poison the Well song that I have stuck in my head. It's called "Park Benches and what it meant to me" I think....

koku
09-03-2005, 11:09 PM
uhh....is there a more...concise version? My commitment bar is pretty low right now so yeah....heh heh sorry ^^.

h2orowe
09-03-2005, 11:13 PM
-.- No.... this, to me, is important shit. My mom's boyfriend is a total jackass, and I hate his guts, and I hope I don't murder him while living here.
There is alot more, which I will get to writing about eventually. So, either read the long version, or don't read it at all!


Note: He is not my stepdad, yet -.-
We're also only here, because we have nowhere to go.

Varia
09-04-2005, 01:20 AM
You should secretly record some of the conversations you have with him.

We both know why.
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Mflb (http://mflbvaporizer.com)

h2orowe
09-04-2005, 01:38 AM
I honestly don't know why. If it's to tell the cops, I can't, because... we have nowhere else to go, that we can be together. It sucks, but my mom is working on a way to fix it. She's going to college now, so she can become a Pre-school teacher, so we can move back to my old town.

koku
09-04-2005, 04:25 AM
if you stay away from him does he leave you alone??

if it's possible, i'd try to just not create dhrama while you're still there.

h2orowe
09-04-2005, 04:31 AM
I never create it. But like, he hasn't done any physical shit in like a year. He kicked my brother out like 4 or 5 months ago, but when he was sober he let him come back after a few days.
It's not near as bad now, but he still annoys the fuck out of me, and I hope he dies.

Arvynia
09-04-2005, 06:36 AM
0.o;;

Oh my goodness. Sorry to hear about all that. :\
I'm not quite sure what to say about your situation - only that you and your mom and bro should get outta there fast. Doesn't seem like talking to the man like civilized humans would do ya any good. What about other relatives? Can't they help you out a bit?

Tssss..
09-04-2005, 08:04 AM
.....you poor thing! thats AWFUL. you don't deserve that.....i'm really sorry for that. i'm really sorry for what you have to go through hon.

h2orowe
09-04-2005, 08:09 AM
Heh, one day, if something bad happens like extremely bad... and I'm still living here, and I have nothing left to lose..... I'm totally going wapanese, and buying a Katana and slicing his head off :D hahaha, I'll turn myself in right after.

Arvynia
09-04-2005, 08:35 AM
o.0;; that's not very ethical. Don't lower yourself to that level.

Invictus
09-04-2005, 08:45 AM
...yeah. His life isn't worth yours, that much is for sure.

I like your perspective on atheists, by the way. Quite bold in this Godless modern society of ours... if it's not too personal a question, what do you believe?

Oh, and for the record, I would highly doubt that this Phil character actually knows any Pa Kua (which is quite possibly the most effective martial system extant). As someone who's studied a tiny bit of said system, I can unequivocally say that no sifu worth his salt would teach real Pa Kua to someone of such low moral character.

h2orowe
09-04-2005, 08:46 AM
I almost lost it one night, like I told my mom I was going to stab him, and he was passed out drunk upstairs so I could have. I got up to go get the knife and my mom sat me down, so I didn't.
He's so lucky, none of us have either killed him or beaten him to the point of him being irrecognizable. My cousin who's living with us now, he said if Phil ever did another thing, than he's going to kill him, or at least fuck him up. This guy, he orignally went out with my mom like in the 70's when they were teens, and like, back than he hit her, so I never trusted this guy from the start.

h2orowe
09-04-2005, 08:51 AM
...yeah. His life isn't worth yours, that much is for sure.

I like your perspective on atheists, by the way. Quite bold in this Godless modern society of ours... if it's not too personal a question, what do you believe?

Oh, and for the record, I would highly doubt that this Phil character actually knows any Pa Kua (which is quite possibly the most effective martial system extant). As someone who's studied a tiny bit of said system, I can unequivocally say that no sifu worth his salt would teach real Pa Kua to someone of such low moral character.
Heh, he did really take Pa Kua, and noone really knows his character besides my family, and friends that I tell.
I don't exactly hate atheists, but it's like how I dislike christians that force the religion on you, the atheists that tell you there is no god, instead of say there is no god, really really piss me off. They think less of you for going about things another way.

I'm not really in any religion right now, but I believe in God, and I'm pretty sure, but not positively believing in Jesus.
I might study Buddhism and follow it, but I'll still have Christian beliefs, it will be a mix.
Buddhism isn't a belief in a God or Gods, so it's sort of, I don't want to say "modifier" but to me it seems like it.
They have Shinto-Buddhists, and I'll be like a Christian Buddhist.

Invictus
09-04-2005, 09:09 AM
Well, I hope I don't offend you by saying in reply that I believe there's only one road to heaven. Let me temper that remark by saying that there are many ways in which that road may be walked. :)

For example, despite my obviously Christian theology, I do incorporate some concepts taken from Buddhism (suffering is caused by desire et. al.) as well as a rather unique view of reality (the holographic model, if you study such concepts). So, while I do believe that Christ is the Way, the Truth, and the Life, I also believe there's considerable leeway in just about every other area. ;)

Sorry for kind of rattling on, but I figured I should give as good as I get, y'know?

Anyways, with regard to the main point of this thread, I'd stick around for as little time as humanly possible. How did your mom end up with this creep in the first place...?

h2orowe
09-04-2005, 09:21 AM
He wasn't a jackass at first, or at least we couldn't tell.

Arvynia
09-05-2005, 04:31 AM
That's why I hate being a woman sometimes - I'll never put myself in a situation where I am totally dependent on him. Ever.

No comment on the religious issues.
If I ever come somewhere near you in Japan, Invictus, we can have discussions on such. ;)

h2orowe
09-05-2005, 06:14 AM
What about me? I'm planning on teaching English in Japan :/ can weeeee have discussions? XD

Invictus
09-05-2005, 06:34 AM
I'll never put myself in a situation where I am totally dependent on him. Ever.

Bright lass. Not only does this adequately prepare you for the eventuality that he turns jerk, it also hedges the bets against unforseen things like sudden death or mortal illness...

No comment on the religious issues.
If I ever come somewhere near you in Japan, Invictus, we can have discussions on such.

Ah! A woman after my own heart. Someone willing to tackle in person one of the two "never-discuss" topics (the other being, of course, politics. Or was it sports?). ;)

can weeeee have discussions? XD

She'll be here a while before you, laddie. If she's still around by the time you make it over here, I don't doubt that she'll be willing to chat you up as well... :P

CopraSanctum
09-05-2005, 05:44 PM
I suggest that you learn martial arts, and I am serious. This guy is really an asshole and there is a chance that he will hit you if he hasn't. When it happens, at least you can defend yourself and possibly, teach him a lesson not to mess with you and your mom. Resorting to weapon will bring undesirable result (not his death, that would be desirable, but your incarceration). I suggest learning aikido or jujitsu, or just martial arts that teach you how to defend against an armed opponent and how to disable him. Break some joints if you must. Good luck.

kensei
09-06-2005, 03:32 AM
I suggest aikido.

akitaka
09-06-2005, 07:53 AM
If you want the faster route, Brazilian Ju-Jitsu. The above mentioned tend to take longer to be effective; they have more mental roots, but I'd probably chose them over BJJ in the long term. In a self-defence situation, though, BJJ. Or JJ.
Other good suggestions include Krav Maga, Systema, and Commando Sambo. Military fighting systems that are punctual, and effective.

On Ba Qua/Pi Qua/Pa Kua- A legitimate practicioner would not be so stout on beating people up. Ba Gua is a more internal style akin to Tai Chi Chuan, however, the movement is in a different road altogether.
Encircling, disorienting, locking, and mauling the opposition is often associated with it's application; my Sifu did a light demonstration, where he'd have the biggest student in our class enwrapped in strikes, leg kicks, and eventually, a take down. Kind of like the way a bear mauls a human.

On topic to dealing with step-dad:
If he's an alchoholic in any rate, you can't reason with him to a good extent. You mother should be more mindful, I think.
In the end, though, if violence ensues, social services should be contacted. There's no excuse for verbal/physical abuse when substance is involved; that's something he should be dealing with himself. We have yet another self-righteous male father-figure in our midst....sheesh.

I'm assuming he talks about making a man out of you, or something along that line. Seems like an insecure prick, to me.

h2orowe
09-06-2005, 11:24 AM
If it wasn't for us, I'm sure he'd commit suicide..... which I hope we move soon.
He's a major ASSHOLE sometimes, but other times, he's just annoying.

He told me.... "Joey, if you ever do anything in life, make sure it benefits you first, it's ok if it does another, but only do it if it benefits you." I said "fuck that, that's not who I am." than he gave me a lecture, and I spaced out. Just nodded my head. Thought, what would it be like to murder a man.....

akitaka
09-06-2005, 09:42 PM
"fuck that, that's not who I am."

You won't be able to cross the border if you consistently spit back with some animosity. Assholes are even more assholes when presented the chance to do so.

Myrsilus
09-06-2005, 10:29 PM
Erm just thought I'd add this in...

Do not take aikido or traditional types of jujitsu if you are not ready to put in a LOT of time learning the art. Both are pretty damn advanced, especially aikido. Trust me, that art takes a long time to get down right... especially since it is such a peaceful type. The passive ones are always harder.

I don't know your entire situation, especially with money. And I'm kind of too lazy to research if it has been stated... I would just try to get your mother to prepare for a separation if possible. Subjecting yourselves to that type of abuse is absurd. Don't waste your life away with this type of guy. And do not be afraid to notify the proper authorities if he steps out of line.

kensei
09-06-2005, 10:36 PM
Erm just thought I'd add this in...

Do not take aikido or traditional types of jujitsu if you are not ready to put in a LOT of time learning the art. Both are pretty damn advanced, especially aikido. Trust me, that art takes a long time to get down right... especially since it is such a peaceful type. The passive ones are always harder.
Quoted for truth. I've never taken aikido myself, but have always been amazed when watching someone skilled in the art dodge and devert various strikes into throws. I just can't help but think the idea of dropping somone who fights dirty with the utmost calm and elegance would appeal to Joey :D

h2orowe
09-06-2005, 11:01 PM
Haha! Sloppy drunken Pa Kua, is no match for my wrestling-esque style I made, all I use is the 8 point blocking system, and some like throws. I know pressure points, and one of the ones to kills someone, so I'm sure I could take him in a fight if it ever came down to that (plus I got cousins, who like almost kicked his ass already)