Is it easy or difficult for you to find dates...

[rameek]

...if you live in a foreign country or you live in your non native country?

[Azrael]

It was hard for me.

After breaking up with my ex, I went through a very long, very rough dry spell. It wasn't pretty.

[Chinpokomon]

To quote The Refreshments:
http://www.getfreelyrics.com/so-124263-The_Refreshments-Broken_Record.html

But no I'm not a quarterback
I'm not a fireman
Still I can have any girl in Japan
Cause I'm a healthy, hundred and fifty nine pound American boy...

[jingi893]

i'm considered pretty outgoing by my friends/family...i've had a few dry spells...but generally i've found it pretty easy to meet/date girls...dunno though...it's different for everyone...

[jindojim]

if you live in a foreign country or you live in your non native country?

Isn't foreign country the same thing as non native country....????

[rameek]

Isn't foreign country the same thing as non native country....????
yes but sometimes other countries can be different but same language so I wanted to be as broad as possible... I really wanted to see if people that live in another country that may not be there native language place how do they find dating...

[Chinpokomon]

http://www.outpostnine.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2208

Rameek, is everything going alright with your marriage?

[Frankey-eh]

http://www.outpostnine.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2208

Rameek, is everything going alright with your marriage?
you, along with a handful of others on this forum... have darn good memory.

[rameek]

http://www.outpostnine.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2208

Rameek, is everything going alright with your marriage?
It was touch and go for a while but it is fine the operation was a success... :D

I was just thinking about if I lived there and was single I wouldnt be able to get a date... There would be no chance for me in Japan... :(

[Chinpokomon]

It was touch and go for a while but it is fine the operation was a success... :D

I was just thinking about if I lived there and was single I wouldnt be able to get a date... There would be no chance for me in Japan... :(

Glad to hear it. So it sounds like whether or not you can get a date in Japan is not really a problem you need to worry about.

[rameek]

Glad to hear it. So it sounds like whether or not you can get a date in Japan is not really a problem you need to worry about.
you are funny... No I am not worried about it...

[Chinpokomon]

you are funny... No I am not worried about it...

:D I try.... err, but I wasn't trying to be funny that time.

The Refreshments quote.... that was me trying to be funny :)

[alansmithee]

It was touch and go for a while but it is fine the operation was a success... :D

I was just thinking about if I lived there and was single I wouldnt be able to get a date... There would be no chance for me in Japan... :(

If you aren't with your wife, why would you stay in Japan? Didn't you move there because of her?

[Bob]

It was hard for me.

After breaking up with my ex, I went through a very long, very rough dry spell. It wasn't pretty.


Really? Usually linen isn't rough...

[aseriana]

I'd like to hear this from a woman's point of view. Personally, before meeting my fiance, I was pretty terrified of Japanese men in general. (I'm rather obnoxious and aggressive, and the idea of someone expecting me to just be a quiet little housewife with no ambition TERRIFIES me). Of course, not every man in Japan is like that, but Japanese male stereotypes seem to scare a lot of girls away.

[4letterwords]

I've never dated an American... just exchange students (commitment issues?), so I don't know if it's harder than getting a date with an ameircan, but it's probably not so hard. Keeping them is the difficult part though, i'm guessing.

^And in response^
I'm also dating a japanese guy... i'm not an expert but from what I hear they treat their women badly, but from the Japanese guys I've dated (2, see, not an expert) while dating them they were more like putty in my hands... It could be because I'm american though, so maybe they treated me differently. The guy I'm with now is Japanese, and he's super sweet, so I'm just gonna let all stereotypes fall away with that one. To get a guy in Japan if you're a foreign girl, is near impossible, unless they're very internationally minded, because Japanese guys are wayyyyyy too shy towards foreign girls. But for an American guy in Japan, from what I saw all you have to do is trip and you'll land on a Japanese girl willing to marry you. Anyway~

[aseriana]

^And in response^
I'm also dating a japanese guy... i'm not an expert but from what I hear they treat their women badly, but from the Japanese guys I've dated (2, see, not an expert) while dating them they were more like putty in my hands... It could be because I'm american though, so maybe they treated me differently. The guy I'm with now is Japanese, and he's super sweet, so I'm just gonna let all stereotypes fall away with that one. To get a guy in Japan if you're a foreign girl, is near impossible, unless they're very internationally minded, because Japanese guys are wayyyyyy too shy towards foreign girls. But for an American guy in Japan, from what I saw all you have to do is trip and you'll land on a Japanese girl willing to marry you. Anyway~

I've made the remark to my fiance that most Japanese guys are "sexist & controlling" and he agrees. He's a REALLY internationally minded guy, he was an exchange student a few years back and now he just wants to live in America eventually. He's an incredibly sweet guy, and he spoils me to death (which is probably not good in the grand scheme of things :p ). I went from thinking "Japanese men are sexist and oppressive, I'll never marry one" to being in love with one. :p Maybe with the few good guys popping up here and there, there's still hope for the male population of Japan? :D

In my case, however, I didn't 'pursue' him, he was the one that went after me. :) So, I always wondered how a Japanese guy would take an aggressive foreign girl approaching him and asking for a date. :D

[rameek]

If you aren't with your wife, why would you stay in Japan? Didn't you move there because of her?
I came back to america temporarily but to answer your question yes. Would I stay in Japan yes to be in my children lives...

This is just a curiosity about others...

[stsparky]

Rameek?
You'd be surprised. Dating is easy. I don't do it now that I'm married and a future dad. But it is real easy to get out there and meet girls. Anywhere. I've managed it in every country I've visited save Greece. I've even managed it on ferries, trains and planes.
It's easiest when you share a common interest though (even if it is just the "bouncy-bouncy") - Sparky

[denjin]

Not all Japanese guys are total asshats (can I say that here? lol)... Although quite a few are. Although, the perv quotient there was amazingly high... But, being a 5'10 redhead over there has to be sort of an oddity, right? (hint, yes it is :P)

Sort of odd, I'm an American, but I have only dated like two Americans and currently am with someone from Britain. But, I do think, on average Japanese men are a bit more macho than a lot of men I've met.

The last Japanese person I dated was pretty annoying, though. They wouldn't even use Japanese with me and just would tease me every time I screwed up my Japanese to any degree.

[risingsquall]

I've been told that an American guy in Japan is supposed to be able to find a Japanese girlfriend no problem. But so far, I've had pretty shitty luck. I think God hates me or something, because I can't seem to meet anyone.

What makes it more annoying is that everytime I meet other foreign friends I haven't seen in a while, the first thing they ask me is "so do you have a Japanese girlfriend yet?" It's starting to get annoying...

Oddly enough, I have a female friend (from America) who has more propositions and requests for dates than she can handle. She meets random people on the train all the time who want to talk/date her. Seriously. If we go out to a bar with friends, by the end of the night she'll have met a handful of new Japanese or other guys, and I'll still be wondering what's wrong with me as I down another pint.

Good thing beer is so expensive here, otherwise I might be an alcoholic...

[silentplummet]

I live in Japan and date girls about twice a week. Most of the relationships have progressed to the 2nd or 3rd date and then ended. One longer affair ended in us realizing we weren't going to be serious and reverting to the nice friendship we had. In all, I managed about 10 relationships in one semester (four months).

Just some math for the statisticians.

[godmode]

Its hard to find an east asian girl when im an Indian guy :(

[RedLine]

A short read that may save someone years of agony:

http://www.crnjapan.com/prevention/en/protectselfbeforemarriage.html

[rameek]

Do you believe where you all are located assist in the difficulty of dating? I know in tokyo particular shibuya tokyo seems like women/chick central... although they are mostly the made up versions or boobilicious versions...
Most other places I've been doesnt seem as active with young people...

[silentplummet]

As my identity indicates, I live in Ichinomiya, Japan. But I do most of my dating in Nagoya, actually. Maybe this does contribute to my (apparent) relative success? Dunno!