View Full Version : Is the LOOKS everything...? is it?
pva_glue
10-07-2005, 03:06 AM
Girls/boyz let me ask question, let's just say you have met new attractive person.
Do you make up your mind within 5 minutes to have sex with him or not? - so I heard. :p
come on be honest, we all do it with or without own knowledge.
when you see a person, you do make judgements.
1st impression is very important for me.
but
everyone says NO looks isn't everything, but come on it is!!! who are they trying to fool here...
anyway that’s my question for the day.
Psychochink
10-07-2005, 04:11 AM
A qualified "yes", although some people are made more (or less) attractive over time as a result of their personality.
To be perfectly honest, if the only reason I'm interested in a person is sexual then I don't want to know that much about them on a personal level, it makes them less attractive becuase I then have to start thinking about them as a 'real person' - keep it superficial, please.
Yes, I'm fucked in the head.
On the other hand, people I've known for a while move up and down on the 'would/would not screw' scale based on how much I like their personality. But they're a different matter, their lives actually matter to me (whether I want good or bad things for them).
Looks tend to be more of a factor for men than women, we're shallow that way (but don't fool yourselves too much guys, women care as well - if not quite as much as we do). It's genetic - "good looks" = youth/health and therefore better genetic prospects for the propogation of our genes.
While I consider the possibilities, I don't think "Okay I'm gonna have sex with that girl" in five minutes. I do make up my mind about 'would/would not screw' list within five minutes though. It's only tentative as I need more than five minutes to really know someone.
Raoine
10-07-2005, 04:27 AM
That question really depends.
Relationships develop in ways that we might have never perceived otherwise. It is possible for a shallow man that looks like Brad Pitt (You ladies still think he's hot, right? >_>; ) to fall in love with a woman that might commonly be called unattractive by insensitive, visually-driven men.
I think we would all be lying to ourselves, though, if we said that we viewed someone that we personally considered unattractive as being a potential mate without establishing some sort of bond. Likewise, we tend to look at those we consider attractive as a potential mate without ever having said a word. Saying anything otherwise would be to say that one is genetically different from other humans at a greater percentage than even the above-average difference. Human beings, like most other sexually reproductive creatures out there, seek mates based on appearance. Unlike most other sexually reproductive creatures however, we [usually] have a greater set of criteria.
Everything I said beyond this point has been removed for your wellbeing. :3
Editing is fun. :cool:
General_Failure
10-07-2005, 05:13 AM
I use this simple thought process... but it fails all logic
*Pee in her butt?*
1>Yes
2>No
3>Death{You can have this.}
It's almost as bad as camping Sozu Rogberry, I'm 1/19027512059712 on it ._.
Nachosamurai
10-07-2005, 05:21 AM
not at all...
everyone is different, so these questions are sorta ridiculous, but i'll go ahead and say that looks are very important, but the decision to have sex takes months for me, and looks are only one facet.
Long answer short: Looks ain't everything, but they sure don't hurt, either.
Nessa
10-07-2005, 05:52 AM
Initial attraction is definately important. It's what wants you to get closer to that person and get to know them better. My boyfriend doesn't think looks are important, but he thinks I'm the most beautiful girl in the world, none the less.
Azrael
10-07-2005, 07:50 AM
If you just look at someone, knowing nothing else about them, it can be. However, once I get to know her, her personality can dramatically boost/drop her status.
Alphonse v.2
10-07-2005, 07:57 AM
Looks is what attracts a person, personality is what keeps a person attracted to the other person, or some people look so good they don't need a personality... kinda like Michelangelo's David, he is a piece of stone, and yet, somehow, he is worth billions.
Ichisan
10-07-2005, 10:02 AM
I use this simple thought process... but it fails all logic
*Pee in her butt?*
1>Yes
2>No
3>Death{You can have this.}
It's almost as bad as camping Sozu Rogberry, I'm 1/19027512059712 on it ._.
Say what? Sprechen sie Englisch?
I reckon girls look at a guy and think 'yes' or 'no' within the first minute or so.
Guys will fuck a hole in the ground.
stillbornsinger
10-07-2005, 10:05 AM
Initial attraction? sure... I think it does matter... to an extent it can show how much a person cares about themselves if they take care of their bodies.
It is easier to fall for a girl thats really hot than a girl who is not so hot.
I've dated both sides of the spectrum though, a few girls who had really awesome personalities but wern't all that attractive, one even who was disabled, but a total sweetheart!
Then I've dated the opposite side as well, some very attractive females, I'd say the second hottest (also the girl I dated for the longest) turned into a complete psycho. Or always was a bit off, but that made it more fun.
The most attractive, a girl who modeled for several years throughout and a bit after highschool, traveled the world, and many of the females here have probably seen her before at least once in a magazine. She was cool as hell, quite possibly the coolest human being I've ever met.
not sure where I'm going with this...
Chinpokomon
10-07-2005, 10:26 AM
People who say they love "people watching" are really just going
"Yeah, I'd do her, no, yes, no, no, yes, yes, no, no, no, yes...."
Stephy
10-07-2005, 10:37 AM
Girls/boyz let me ask question, let's just say you have met new attractive person.
Do you make up your mind within 5 minutes to have sex with him or not? - so I heard. :p
Oh goodness no. I would never, and I am being very honest about this. Looks don't really have much of a big impression on me. I guess if you're happy, dress apppropriately, and have a good personality, then I pretty much like the person no matter what. Looks don't get in the way of my views over people. I would have made this longer, but I got to leave for school.
Hot chick with the IQ of a brick = unbangable
Cute girl who knows her shit = supremely bangable
Idlethought
10-07-2005, 11:23 AM
If you just look at someone, knowing nothing else about them, it can be. However, once I get to know her, her personality can dramatically boost/drop her status.
quoted for truth
more cheerios
10-07-2005, 01:08 PM
There is fantasy and there is reality. Just because you think someone is fuckable, doesn't mean you would actually fuck them if the situation presented itself.
General_Failure
10-07-2005, 02:17 PM
There is fantasy and there is reality. Just because you think someone is fuckable, doesn't mean you would actually fuck them if the situation presented itself.
so you're saying, being IN the situation, some chick had her ass up in your face you wouldn't jump in? Is you gay? >.>
Not trying to be an ass, but the logic fails me on what you said \./
Lateli
10-07-2005, 02:26 PM
Meh, how can people be THAT easy? I guess someone has to carry the STDs eh?
Looks aren't everything for me. Though I'd have to be attracted to the person all around to be in a relationship with them. So, looks play a part..
setrict
10-07-2005, 02:41 PM
A novel. Really impressive cover art might catch your eye but it's the content that gets you hooked. If the first book was good, you'll pick up the sequels without paying the cover art much attention at all.
Shamu
10-07-2005, 03:09 PM
I wouldn't have sex with anyone having just met them (with the exception of let's say...oh...Johnny Depp, and even then, I'd need at least a "hi, how are you?"), so no, I don't really look at a guy and think, I'd sleep with him. It's really rare if I do that. I'm REALLY picky about who I'm intimate with (I don't even kiss guys I've just met).
I look at the overall guy and his personality. I'm very attracted to intelligent guys, so if a guy is really smart (without being a complete social idiot) and if he can make me laugh, then he's really got my attention. I also only pick out guys to date or sleep with, that I'm good friends with first (so for some of you, at least with me, the friend zone is a good thing ;)). Do looks help? Yeah, but they're not everything to me. Personality is way more important.
I think More Cheerios put it nicely too, just because someone is "fuckable", doesn't mean you'd actually do it with them.
Eh, I'm a little different, I guess. I see someone who is supposed to be attractive, look at how they carry themselves, then decide if I'd even be able to stand talking to them. I'd have to say 90% of the people normal guys would be chasing and begging for I wouldn't touch with a 50 ft. pole. I might think "Oh, she's kinda pretty", but I'm not sexually attracted.
But if she can prove that she's more than a piece of meat for the guys, I'm all over that. =p
If people are honest, they SHOULD say "yes. Looks are a quick shortcutt."
And that's my response. Thank you. Come again.
The hell looks are everything, it's kind of a turn off sometimes for me, if I see a girl who's really hot I usually think " she's probably a bitch" and I'm usually right. It doesn't mean I wouldn't give them a chance or anything but I definitely wouldn't sleep with someone just based on their looks.
I'm weird though, as you know :p
more cheerios
10-07-2005, 06:06 PM
so you're saying, being IN the situation, some chick had her ass up in your face you wouldn't jump in? Is you gay? >.>
Not trying to be an ass, but the logic fails me on what you said \./
I would like to take the time to mention that I am a heterosexual female with a boyfriend. :rolleyes:
Some people are mature enough to know that hopping on the train that quickly could end up in utter and complete failure. Casual sex is not exactly the safest thing, especially if it isn't planned. If you're willing to hop on some chick who's waving her ass in your face (which probably means she's done this before) without getting her tested first, you're really putting your risk of STDs up.
Jiant Flying Panda
10-07-2005, 06:18 PM
I'd say so, but at a very small level. To me, Personality > Looks. Period.
Apparently. Looks aren't everything for both me and the girls that I meet.
For example, a lot of the girls that I have known for years and a lot of girls that I just met would seomtimes compliment me on my looks. I'm flattered, and thankful for the compliment. But I always leave it at that. My shy and quiet Personality throws them off. A lot. So they think I must be dull and boring (maybe I am *shrugs shoulders*) and they leave me be.
As for me I met a girl once at a party in the late end of my Junoir year once. She was Hott. Definately. But she has been known as the resident slut and absolute bitch of the high school she went to (not the same as mine). She was interested in me but after saying hello and talking to her a little bit I just left her to go and talk to this girl I have been friends with for years and I know her to be a absolute angel. Was she as good looking as the slut? No. But her personality was so much better that I just didn't care.
So all in all. I would pick an "Average" girl with an awesome personality over a "Hott" girl who is an absolute bitch and has no self-esteem. Any day.
General_Failure
10-07-2005, 06:20 PM
Ok, role reversals don't work! ._.
And yay for assumptions, the name "More Cherrios" and your avatar made me think you were a guy, so the question was pointed at a guy mentality
Never had to deal with the nasty chicks before, so the STD part I wouldn't know about, but the military pwns us with enough anti-STD flyers and briefings that it's just retarded, and since we are in Vegas... it's even worse -.-
more cheerios
10-07-2005, 06:30 PM
And yay for assumptions, the name "More Cherrios" and your avatar made me think you were a guy, so the question was pointed at a guy mentality
And the neon pink border didn't tip you off a bit? :p
Yoonafkenenen
10-07-2005, 06:46 PM
Looks mean what you make them mean, I guess.
Some hot people turn their looks into this trophy, they make them mean that they are somehow better than other people. It's easy to do when that's all you have, so I pity the folks who have the 'DAMN I look good, and that's all that matters!' attitude. It's pathetic.
Other people understand what looks really mean. Utter dumb luck, plus or minus a bit of touching up here and there. Looks mean utterly nothing in the long run, since you've only got them for so long. People are defined by so much, letting looks make or break your opinion of someone is a little silly.
General_Failure
10-07-2005, 06:54 PM
And the neon pink border didn't tip you off a bit? :p
This is the military, these monitors suck, there is no pink on my screen x.x
so delusional
10-07-2005, 07:29 PM
to me,who rarly wears her glasses ^^,looks is pretty much secundary.
I'm more attracted to a persons voice in the first place...:p.
I also guess having a hard time when i was a teenager,kind of broke me to getting to close to "hot-looking" people ^^"
Praetorian
10-07-2005, 07:54 PM
If looks were everything, I'd be a major pimp right now.
I'm not a major pimp. It's because I'm a nice guy. So no; looks aren't everything.
Peekaboo
10-07-2005, 08:20 PM
Or at least for some people, looks aren't everything. I'm not saying that looks won't get you ahead when it comes to first impressions, but they certainly aren't the only thing that will influence a potential boyfriend or girlfriend's opinon of you.
Good looks are great for the short term, but in the long run, it's the person you are that makes the difference. I've met very physically attractive people that I think are absolutely repugnant due to the fact that they are incredibly horrid on the inside.
On the other hand, I've found myself attracted to guys who really aren't much to look at. I got to know them and became attracted to them because of their personality. In the long run, what that person is like is far more important than what they look like.
Being ugly on the inside, makes you ugly on the outside, or at least that's how it works for me.
As far as knowing whether or not I'd sleep with someone after 5 minutes? The chances of me knowing are highly unlikely. 5 minutes of casual conversation isn't enough time to figure out whether or not someone is an unethical hunk of venereal disease on two legs.
General_Failure
10-07-2005, 08:50 PM
Being ugly on the inside, makes you ugly on the outside, or at least that's how it works for me.
What about those grostly fat chicks OR men that wear spandex and think they are DEAD SEXEH!
Like on Springer, everyone on that show thinks they are hot....they ain't...they make my cry q.p
PopCulturePooka
10-07-2005, 09:56 PM
Sorry.
I think looks are important, both as a means of initial attraction and in a relationship. If you cant find a person physically attractive then its just as difficult to work around that issue as if you can't stand your partners personality.
People have mentioned that perceptions of others change as you get to know them. I agree. I too have met girls I didn't initially find attractive who I eventually found to be quite hot becuase of their personality. Ditto on finding hot girls unnatractive when they are bitchy.
However, some times, try as you might, you just can't find someone attractive no matter how nice they are and I don't think its fair to start a relationship with that person if you feel that way. Its a relationship built on a dishonesty, a rather major one. Its even worse if sex is involved.
In the past I've had a fair few girls (apparantly) like me. Some were quite sweet or fun girls. But I couldn't find them attractive. I spent time with them, maybe even went on a date or two. But try as I might I just couldn't find myself physically attracted to them. Nice girls, but in my eyes not attractive girls. Sure I could get into a relationship with them, go through the motions and hope things change, but is that fair? Fuck no. What do I do if she notices in sex I'm just going through the motions. i'm not interested in her as much as I should be? Or when my eyes eventually begin to wander?
I would actually hope a girl treats me the same way. If she can't get attracted to me on all levels don't molly coddle me and get into a relationship that doesn't fulfil you.
Honestly, I find people who say looks don't matter at all almost as annoying as people who say that looks are everything. Personality and looks are both very important in a relationship. For a relationship to work very well you need to be completely in sync with the other person, physically, intellectually and mentally. If one of those elements is lacking then the relationship isn't whole or healthy.
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